8 years ago my 12 y/o son and I found my husband dead on our bed
my son was 3 y/o at the time, husband had a brain anurism,
we went to therapy and all seems to be well
But now my son is acting out is school and he is usually a good student,
one of my friends here gave a good advice being that she is a teacher,
and I did met with the teacher he is having problems with in her class,
I found out that the book they are working on is about a kid who never
met his father and how he feels about it the book is very interesting
for other students but for my son is not, the book is waking up some
feelings that my son didn't know he had, like missing all of the
wonderful things a father does with his son, like playing baseball and
well you know what I mean
in this book the boy is dreaming about his dad and doesn't know how his
father looked and he only has pics of him, just like my son, so now he
is hating the teacher and acting out by falling a sleep and not paying
attentions, just doing anything not to pay attention to the class...
this is very sad for me and Im going through something right
now I need your advice

i'm very sorry to hear that morena' everthing will get better and once
you find another man in your life to be with it will help ease the pain
ok sweetie.

That is a sad story.emotionally i mean. Ok,well in my opininon i would
talk to your son.its best if you let the thoughts come out and then
you know what he is thinking.

I'm sorry to hear that Morena...have you thought about seeking
counseling again?

Morena, would it be possible that they could assign him a different book
for this particular class? Obviously the one they're using is bringing
up a lot of unresolved issues and, in my opinion, it would be best if he
didn't have to go through this sort of thing right now. I can't see any
reason why a teacher wouldn't allow an alternative, particularly if they
can see he's behaving abnormally lately.

((((Morena)))))
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Sounds as though he needs some therapy. Should the counselor, you, and
your son approve, Big Brothers, Big Sisters may be a good resource for
him by offering some male interaction and bonding.

wow lady_absintheur you are beautiful!!!! sorry did nt mean th change
the subjuct guys and gals : ) just had to say that.

OMG!!! i am so crying right now morena...my kids dad is not dead but he
is in prison....and they dont know him either and they long for him so
much....it kills me....do you have any videotapes of him maybe(the
dad)....that might help....any letters he might have wrote you....just
anything that belonged to him that your son can keep close to him....man
i am freakin crying so hard....woah!!!!! has he visited the
gravesite....bless your heart....i feel you girl....i wish i could hug
you and that boy of yours.... talk to him about it....tell him that
you know whats on his mind....tell him to say what he needs to say...and
reassure him that his daddy is watchin over him every second of the
day....and that he would be proud of him if he were here!!! bless you
morena!!!

no he needs to deal with it now that its on his mind....or he will
become possibly withdrawn and bitter at the world!!!!!

pick yourself up and hold that head up high....be strong woman....your
son needs you babe!!!!

this is one event in his life that will mold and shape who he is as a
man....it will be ok!!! that which does not kill you only makes you
stronger remember that!!!!!

**** im whinning too

ok........crying session...lets just get it out!!!!!

((((Morena)))) I agree with Crazy, you need to talk with him, perhaps
counseling would benefit you both! I feel for you honey!!! XOXO

i so feel her....i just want to hug her!!!!

Morena I am so sorry you are having to go through this. I know this has
to be exceptionally hard for you as well as your son. Do you have any
men friends thatcan act as a mentor for your son that can do the things
a Dad would do with him? Possibly be there for you also just for a
shoulder to lean on. If you ever need to talk, I'm a good listener, have
very broad shoulder

I know crazy!!! Morena, just know hon, we are here for you!!!! *BIG
HUGS*

me too