I was recently involved with a man (cop)who I later found out was recently married. He always denied the fact that he was involved with anyone or even married until I brought him to the table by finding out this info through public records. He has been married for less than a year now and is already cheating. We made love in his home and it was GREAT! My question to the guys is.......if a man go down on this other woman (other than his wife, does that mean that it's more than just a sex thing for that other woman and (perhaps feelings are involved) or could it be part of his love making. I mean to me, that is something sacred and should be shared with your signifcant other and not an outsider. We have been seeing each other for 2 months now. Someone please give me some advice. I really have feeligs for this guy.

Break up and run!! You are playing with fire here! Use your head not your.. well you know!

Yeah, ummmmmm, now is the time to get the hell out of that situation. I don't think a man performing that act is sacred - I'm sure it is to some, but probably not the kind that cheats on their new bride!

Sorry you're mixed up in that crap, but if you don't get out, and it will only get worse, it's your own fault at that point.

I'm wondering what the dude said when you called him out?

Yup....your only setting yourself up for failure. He's not going to leave his wife for you.

Oh darling, if he is cheating that early in the marriage, I am sure is morals are all pushed out the window, and going down on you is just a part of his routine.

PLUS he's a cop... he thinks he's above and beyond the law so he thinks he can do pretty much anything he wants and get away with it!

You want some advice? Get honest with yourself! you know whats going on here and what will happen. So there is really no need to ask anyone anything at all.

He doesn't deserve to wear that badge.
And by the way,,,He's just using you.

I gotta say- He is not someone you can trust because if he is already cheating he has lied to both you and his wife. He said he would 'forsake all others' for his wife but obviously thats a lie- probably telling you he loves you while having sex with you he probably knows that by telling you that lie he gets more sex. Also omitting the fact he was married is like a lie in itself to you. Dont expect to be able to trust him at all.

If you think what you two have is special remember how you got him then ask yourself is your ready to be the newly maried one and worry about his actions all the time

What kind of feelings do you have?

Like anger for him lieing to you?

Like betrayal for him cheating on her and on you?

The kind of feeling people have for others who are honest to them?

Tell me what kind of feelings you have for this man?

You guys are absolutely right. I'm getting the hell away from him. I'm lucky it was early in the relationship before the LOVE thing evolved. thx!

thanks guy for your positive response. I don't know what I was thinking. If I had known that he was married prior to me being with him........it would have NEVER happened.

Well, to paraphrase my ex's bf when we were md....no offense intended...you were just another free, easy poa to him. There are more for him where you came from. Dump him now before you get suckered into something deeper for you and more shallow for him. JMAO

^^which is why he didn't tell you

they never leave..you are just a toy

get out of it...and tell his wife too

You are the police dude's 'sideline piece' and that's all you'll ever be. He ain't gonna leave his wife, if ONLY for the fact she'll take him to the cleaners if they got divorced.

Essentially put, he's stringing you along with his "leave his wife" malarkey. You'd be best served by leaving the buffoon, and immediately, too.

He has some issues...run don't walk away...run. And if he attempts to contact you in any way let be know you will contact his department.

Seriously??????
this cant be for real!!!!
you are kidding right?????????????????