Having friends of the opposite sex is one thing eliminating your partner from those friendships is well just not right. I have a best friend that is male at no time would I push my partner(if I had one) to the side and go visit my friend in the wee hours of the night and not invite them along. No way and I have been best friends with my male friend for over 20 years. You should never put your partner in a position that they feel that you are hiding anything.

That would be a problem for me. I wouldn't like that at all.

Thank u for your comment.

Hell yeah... that sh*t doesn't fly with me.

that's shady doggggggggggg


big no go,

I really am just curious here, but WHY are so many folks in here poo-poo'ing friends of the opposite sex?

Why is nearly everyone assuming that just because a friend in need *late at night* equals suspected trouble and should not be trusted?

Who exactly do you not trust? Your partner or his/her friend?

Sure, if there were a frequent thing like Scarlett said above, I would be a bit annoyed. But, it wouldn't initially be out of distrust, just annoyance is all, because it was disrupting our sleep or alone time. If it became commonplace with the friend of my partner's, I trust that my partner would recognize the signs that it was time to cut the ties with said *friend*.

Would you feel the same way if the friend were of the same sex? If not, why? Just tossing it out there, but there are a LOT (and I mean a LOT) of closet homosexuals and bisexuals out there, you guys. So, why not be fair here and offer the same distrust equally? Fair is fair, right?

I just think those that are commenting..."he/she is a dog; kick them to the curb; hell no" really may have some issues of their OWN that need to be examined.

One of my best friends is a woman I used to date, many years ago. She's married now, has two kids and two jobs and a house and all that miserable stuff, and her husband has no problem with us hanging out. He knows I don't see her "that way" anymore, and I respect both of them too much to ever interfere in that relationship. I think I actually like him better than her now, ooooops....

But seriously, people of the opposite sex CAN be friends -- as long as they understand the boundaries....

Thank YOU!

It really is all about boundaries. If it spans beyond boundaries that tip the scales of equilibrium in our relationship, then yes...there is a real problem.

If we (ourselves alone) are the ones to draw the line in the sand regarding a partner's friendship with another - what does that earnestly say about "us" as a partner in a relationship?

I'm glad to see that someone thinks that people of the opposite sex can be friends. If I'm in a relationship, I'm not going to ask them to stop hanging out with their friends without me. I expect them to do the same. We have our time together, but there is no reason to always be together and to forget about our other friends. There's also no reason why we have to always be together when spending time with friends.