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So I just broke up with my girl of two months. We'd been friends before we started dating, and it just didn't turn out to be what I expected. I told her my honest feelings about how I felt terrible hurting her by breaking things off, but that it just wasn't working out like I expected or needed it to. She immediately accused me of making it into "her fault" so that I could get mad at her.
What is it with girls that they feel like everything by a guy is calculated and emotionless? I feel like **** doing this to her, but it's just honestly how I feel. |
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Because its always -our- fault.
They're perfect remember? 
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Well at least you were honest to her.
I mean u could of just tagged her along, and seen other people behind her back. But U cannot blame her for feeling like crap about the situation. And the best way to deal w/ that sometimes is to blame the other person...and thats why she is saying all that. Guys are better at hiding their emotions, and since u are the one that broke up w/ her, u have moved on..just give it some time, and she will move on as well. |
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Well at least you were honest to her. I mean u could of just tagged her along, and seen other people behind her back. But U cannot blame her for feeling like crap about the situation. And the best way to deal w/ that sometimes is to blame the other person...and thats why she is saying all that. Guys are better at hiding their emotions, and since u are the one that broke up w/ her, u have moved on..just give it some time, and she will move on as well. I understand she'll get over it...but it's just so frustrating in the meantime that although everyone insists that they want honesty, when you actually give them honesty, they freak out and accuse you of having ulterior motives. What a double standard. |
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they cant h
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Edited by
Cinderella75
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Sun 10/05/08 12:07 AM
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Well at least you were honest to her. I mean u could of just tagged her along, and seen other people behind her back. But U cannot blame her for feeling like crap about the situation. And the best way to deal w/ that sometimes is to blame the other person...and thats why she is saying all that. Guys are better at hiding their emotions, and since u are the one that broke up w/ her, u have moved on..just give it some time, and she will move on as well. I understand she'll get over it...but it's just so frustrating in the meantime that although everyone insists that they want honesty, when you actually give them honesty, they freak out and accuse you of having ulterior motives. What a double standard. Yea it's a double edged sword. Everyone wants honesty, but most of us cannot handle the truth. Just know she will get over it..I know u were just dating for 2 months..but also distance yourself from her as a friend for a while..so she can heal, and forget about u. (Just be busy all the time) Thats just my tip..don't feel guilty..You did the right thing. :pat on your back: |
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Cest' la vie... That's life. One of the hardest things to explain in life... Is rejection. It's a word with feelings involved, Almost to the point where it's only feelings... And not a word at all. Mainly, Great expectations is the moral of the situation.
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Edited by
Cinderella75
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Sun 10/05/08 12:27 AM
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Cest' la vie... That's life. One of the hardest things to explain in life... Is rejection. It's a word with feelings involved, Almost to the point where it's only feelings... And not a word at all. Mainly, Great expectations is the moral of the situation. Wow!! That was deep, and at such a late hour! I am truly impressed my dear. Very nice insight! |
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kudos to you for being honest
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Edited by
wraithme66
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Sun 10/05/08 12:36 AM
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Cest' la vie... That's life. One of the hardest things to explain in life... Is rejection. It's a word with feelings involved, Almost to the point where it's only feelings... And not a word at all. Mainly, Great expectations is the moral of the situation. Wow!! That was deep, and at such a late hour! I am truly impressed my dear. Very nice insight! Thank you... Yeah... I get that way when the rest of the world can't sleep... Frankly, I'm bored. |
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I think you did the right thing and she probably will too in time. She is just at a different place than you are. Anger is often a substitute emotion for hurt. I am sure she is very dissappointed not only looseing a lover but a friend that is a pretty big whammy. Hang in there. Don't back pedal. Give her space to collect herself and move on without looseing face.
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Regardless who's at fault, breaking-up is a situratin where both need to feel guilt-less.
And a stright break-up with another and still be friends. Is very hard to have happen. It seems to always 'have-to' have more to it in the other's mind. 
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[Thank you... Yeah... I get that way when the rest of the world can't sleep...  Yeah, I become a Harvard scholar when no one is really listening late at night too, bud!  Welcome to the REAL world, dude. Trying to figure out women is like trying to figure out quantum physics when you failed simple algebra in High School. Not to play upon your age, or her's here, but you are caught in that immature "love me, get the "f" away from me, no really love me, but leave me the hell alone, I love you, but you are pure sh*t, I love you, but only want to be friends, you are the only one for me, but I need to find myself"...syndrome. Get OFF the ride, man! Be grateful you survived the rollercoaster with all your limbs and nuts intact. Don't feel "bad" about anything. You were honest, and yep, as someone said above...SHE couldn't handle the truth. Sorry to say, but most women can't handle rejection and they ultimately retaliate and want to make it all about you. Do NOT buy that ticket. Spend your money on some cotton candy instead. It WILL be sweeter. 
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[Thank you... Yeah... I get that way when the rest of the world can't sleep... Yeah, I become a Harvard scholar when no one is really listening late at night too, bud! Welcome to the REAL world, dude. Trying to figure out women is like trying to figure out quantum physics when you failed simple algebra in High School. Not to play upon your age, or her's here, but you are caught in that immature "love me, get the "f" away from me, no really love me, but leave me the hell alone, I love you, but you are pure sh*t, I love you, but only want to be friends, you are the only one for me, but I need to find myself"...syndrome. Get OFF the ride, man! Be grateful you survived the rollercoaster with all your limbs and nuts intact. Don't feel "bad" about anything. You were honest, and yep, as someone said above...SHE couldn't handle the truth. Sorry to say, but most women can't handle rejection and they ultimately retaliate and want to make it all about you. Do NOT buy that ticket. Spend your money on some cotton candy instead. It WILL be sweeter. Awesome... |
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I don't know who said it but it seems truthful to me..."The only one that can make you feel guilty is you. Don't overdose yourself."
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[Thank you... Yeah... I get that way when the rest of the world can't sleep... Yeah, I become a Harvard scholar when no one is really listening late at night too, bud! Welcome to the REAL world, dude. Trying to figure out women is like trying to figure out quantum physics when you failed simple algebra in High School. Not to play upon your age, or her's here, but you are caught in that immature "love me, get the "f" away from me, no really love me, but leave me the hell alone, I love you, but you are pure sh*t, I love you, but only want to be friends, you are the only one for me, but I need to find myself"...syndrome. Get OFF the ride, man! Be grateful you survived the rollercoaster with all your limbs and nuts intact. Don't feel "bad" about anything. You were honest, and yep, as someone said above...SHE couldn't handle the truth. Sorry to say, but most women can't handle rejection and they ultimately retaliate and want to make it all about you. Do NOT buy that ticket. Spend your money on some cotton candy instead. It WILL be sweeter. Wow very nice. I am surounded by some creative minds..and I am lovin' it;) ;) |
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Didn't I follow you around one evening?
 Anyways, to get over her .. call me.  Just kidding? |
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