. . to attract someone(of the opposite sex) for:

1. a ‘Casual Date’? ?

2. a “Friend with Benefit(s)” or an ‘Intimate Encounter’? ?

3. an ‘Amorous/Romantic Relationship’? ?

whatever it is apparently I am not doing it properly

In each case, I walk up to him or her and say:

"Hey, would you like to (name type of encounter here in appropriately euphemistic but descriptive enough so that he/she gets the idea) with me?"

Naturally, this would only be if I was seriously entertaining ideas of same with that individual.

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Either way, it's fun for the whole family! yours in Chaos, Scarlett

Me either!!

Attract...say what now?

choice 3

i usually try for casual and work my way up instead of starting off with high goals and ending on a down slope.

I invite them to the gun show.

OMG...you mean you can CHOOSE??? Where is this world that you speak of???

what they said....DITTO!!!!!

what ever it is, there is always never enough money to do it

I prefer to be me....I dont do anything specifically to attract people....they either are or they arent.

Compstomp (ally with her forces to beat computer players)



No idea



Get her alone in the middle of the night for some hard core 1 vs 1

Or if she wasn't good enough to stand a chance we'd start a new Baldur's gate game...

There's no point in wasting a bunch of time or getting all stressed out about any of these things, the way I look at it.

It's not like I do this every week, every month, or even every year, but on the other hand I've never had a refusal yet, ya know?

I mean, of course it's a lot easier for a female to be direct when seeing attention from the opposite sex. Men have more to lose, so they have to be more strategic, but not much more. (Remember that scene in the movie "Tootsie" where the lady confides in Tootsie that she just wants for a man to tell her that she's really beautiful and that he wants to make love to her...? And so, out of his disguise as a female he says those exact words to her, and she slaps him? I don't envy guys at all when it comes to getting "dates", or whatever you want to call it. But then again they can pee standing up, so it all evens out.)

One of the last times I used this approach, it was someone I had known for a couple of weeks. He was very shy, but he was definitely interested. So one evening after he had walked me to the local liquor store and back, as we were approaching my house, I stopped walking. He stopped too and gave me a curious, somewhat frightened look. I said, "You're going to kiss me now."

And he did. We ended up living together for 12 years and for the most part, it was a blissful relationship between two highly compatible individuals.

Anyway, a guy doesn't have to get all gross or scary when he's telling a lady that he finds her attractive, but he shouldn't agonize over it too much, either. Nor should he just give up if he gets an initial refusal--sometimes a female has to think things over for awhile to see how the idea sits with her, right? xoxoxo

Don't feel bad, neither am I.

Having a lot of lady friends certainly helps alot.

offer cheese wiz with crackers and beer....