I think it's really more a case of their being too stupid or unimaginative -- or both.

Another one that rubs me the wrong way is "My friend told me about this site, and I'm not going to write anything here until I see if it's worth it or not."

How about letting us see if YOU'RE worth it or not....?

I agree.

If the rest of us here take the time to write a profile, why are you too good to do the same?

Very frustrating.

yeah but getting to know someone makes for good conversation!

What they are really saying is "I'm embarrased to be here, so I'll blame it on my friends." and what they don't see is that if you can't make a decision in your life without the proding of your friends, you really aren't worth dating.

How do you get to know someone when all they say is "Just ask me anything?"

How do you know what questions to ask and which ones are off limits?

I talk a lot. I am very open to a certain extent. I have had a longish life and don't mind talking about it.

So, if I am not too high and mighty to offer you various pieces of information without you ever having to ask, why can't you?

Why should I have to be the only one to show interest?

Maybe I should say, "Well, then you want me to ask? What do you want to know about me?" in response to their "Just ask me anything"

Remind me to never eat a PB&J sandwich at your place.

It's not a "pet peeve" but I do find it extremely humorous when people on FREE dating sites obviously have these lofty expectations, and get all offended when someone who is inarticulate or has an unartistic profile approaches them.

Only complete boors like me--who are only looking for entertainment and couldn't care less about "finding that special someone"--actually READ what's in a profile anyway. Men especially usually only just look at the pictures. They don't even read the headline 90% of the time.

My profile states in clear and unambiguous terms that I am looking for friendship and that's it. Do you think that means only people who want to be friends approach me? Hell, no.

To a lot of people--mostly men but women, too--"yes" means "yes" and "no" means "maybe".

And in my particular situation, why should I bother putting a lot of stuff about myself and my accomplishments and interests in a social site profile, anyway? It's a lot of work for nothing when the admins decide to ban me because people complain about me so damned much. I mean, really.



It's obvious you've never had the experience of a bunch of people on a social site accusing you of having a fake profile because you have truthfully and accurately listed all of your interests, qualities, and accomplishments. On one forum a guy (who is now dead, strangely enough) started a topic that was entitled, "Scarlett, the truth revealed" in which everyone "exposed" me as a fraud. The evidence?

The fact that there are so few typos in my forum posts, and of course that I didn't commit suicide, but said that I thought it was funny, when they all started denouncing me. (One guy threatened to come find me and kill me. It turned out he had a crush on me. I got to be friends with him, and later got him in a lot of trouble with his local authorities because he confided in me about a robbery he was planning to commit with a friend.)

That topic ran into dozens of pages, too. Good times! :)

yours in Chaos, Scarlett

My profile is 3000 pages long and constantly being changed. Some people like it, some don't. Makes no difference to me. Nobody can ever say I was too lazy to provide enough information. AND, if and when they want to ask, I have given them a whole bunch of stuff to ask about.

An empty profile, a vapid profile, a poorly-written profile -- these are all automatic "No Thank Yous" in my book....

You have to have something to say AND be able to say it -- otherwise, I might as well watch TV.

online dating can be frustrating when you want to get to know someone or find an interest in someone and she like, lives on the other side of that damn country.

ps. twinkies like, never go bad. its the food with a half life.

I took the time to make my profile funny, especially my tagline of "No Applications Being Accepted at this time". I mean, that pretty much says I am here for friends, but I even take the time to point this out in the beginning of my proflie. I don't go overboard with the sillyness, but I want people to have a good read if they take the time to "perve" me.

Thanks for the info. Of course, this is all assuming that someone would consider you worth having in the first place. xoxo

I know that's right !

my right side is my best profile hhahaha

I don't waste time if they have no pic or any desriptions.

Exactly. If they have nothing in their profile and won't tell me anything about themselves, how am I supposed to know what to ask, other than just throwing out random questions? I hate when someone IMs or emails me and demands that I just ask them questions about themselves .

My point is, it makes no difference what they consider me. If people are too lazy or illiterate to provide adequate information, I wouldn't be interested anyway.

I always say "Wouldn't it be easier for you to think up your own questions and then answer them yourself? You're already right there."

I have recently been pretty, umm, acrid in my replies to the mails I get.

One guy wrote me one of those "Tell me about you" things followed with the line that he thought we had a "lot in common". How would I know? His profile was BLANK.

So I replied with something along these lines: Something more about me. I get irritated with dudes who read my profile, theirs is blank, and I have parapgraphs of really telling information in mine. But, you write me to ask more about me, and telling me nothing of you. Why would I be interested? In what, nothing? Why do we have things in common? What do we have in common?

And so on and so forth. I felt really good afterwards. A bit silly, but properly ventilated.

I had another cut and paste his profile narrative to me. I thanked him for taking the time to send me something so personal and written especially for me.

I have things in common with all the girls on here but I wont tell you what

I think it is hilarious when people say they don't want to talk to you unless you have a picture up and the only pics on their profile are of their pets...