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Topic: Long Distance Relationship advice to Mingle...
directandwrite's photo
Tue 09/30/08 10:33 AM
Two things...first of all, is it possible for long distance relationships to work in your opinion? Secondly, as we view other people's profiles from around the world, shouldn't there be a check box they could mark to let us know if they aren't interested in a long distance thing?

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lilith401's photo
Tue 09/30/08 10:36 AM
I clearly have in my narrative that I currently have no interest in an LDR. That is rarely read and even if there was a box, it would be ignored. I got a mail from as guy in CA who said he was in love with me from my profile and ready to hop on a plane... I get wackos from CA several times a week. laugh

I think LDR's can work if you are willing to put in the effort and if there is an attainable goal to be together in a timeframe you can both live with.

the_mind_flayer's photo
Tue 09/30/08 10:36 AM
Excellent question and idea.

DTHRomeo's photo
Tue 09/30/08 10:40 AM

I clearly have in my narrative that I currently have no interest in an LDR. That is rarely read and even if there was a box, it would be ignored. I got a mail from as guy in CA who said he was in love with me from my profile and ready to hop on a plane... I get wackos from CA several times a week. laugh

I think LDR's can work if you are willing to put in the effort and if there is an attainable goal to be together in a timeframe you can both live with.


I told you i was gonna stop Lilith sad sad sad

laugh laugh laugh

the_mind_flayer's photo
Tue 09/30/08 10:41 AM


I clearly have in my narrative that I currently have no interest in an LDR. That is rarely read and even if there was a box, it would be ignored. I got a mail from as guy in CA who said he was in love with me from my profile and ready to hop on a plane... I get wackos from CA several times a week. laugh

I think LDR's can work if you are willing to put in the effort and if there is an attainable goal to be together in a timeframe you can both live with.


I told you i was gonna stop Lilith sad sad sad

laugh laugh laugh


Stalker.

directandwrite's photo
Tue 09/30/08 10:42 AM

I clearly have in my narrative that I currently have no interest in an LDR. That is rarely read and even if there was a box, it would be ignored. I got a mail from as guy in CA who said he was in love with me from my profile and ready to hop on a plane... I get wackos from CA several times a week. laugh




Hey who doesn't? LOL

no photo
Tue 09/30/08 10:44 AM
Edited by OneMoreTimeAround on Tue 09/30/08 10:58 AM
LDR's CAN and DO work. Granted it takes two people who are committed to that relationship and lots & lots of communication. Honesty at all times.

I was on vacation one year in Myrtle Beach. He was from Canada and was there playing golf. We had a blast that week. Found that each of us went there the same time of year and met there again the next year. It was then we decided to give a relationship a try.

It worked for 5 years and it was wonderful. His job required him to travel a good deal so we were able to meet 3 or 4x a year for 3 or 4 days at a time. Sometimes more often. The main reason it stayed LDR was because I still had a child at home, she was in high school. I wouldn't have been moving to another state...but to another country and I wouldn't do that to her.

The relationship ended, because an accident caused him to be paralyzed like Christopher Reeves was and because of complications, his life ended within two years of the accident. This was the most wonderful relationship I've ever had. We NEVER took our time together for granted, we never took EACH OTHER for granted. Each new time together was almost like the first time but better. We were ALWAYS considerate and respectful of each other's feelings. Yes, there were times when we wished we could be with each other at that very moment...but there was always the phone and pc. There is enough loneliness in this world, enough sadness, enough pain. If you can find love and happiness 1 mile apart or 5000 miles apart...grab it with all you've got! There are NO guarantees EVER about ANYTHING.

Ted14621's photo
Tue 09/30/08 10:44 AM


I clearly have in my narrative that I currently have no interest in an LDR. That is rarely read and even if there was a box, it would be ignored. I got a mail from as guy in CA who said he was in love with me from my profile and ready to hop on a plane... I get wackos from CA several times a week. laugh




Hey who doesn't? LOL


I don'tsad

DTHRomeo's photo
Tue 09/30/08 10:44 AM



I clearly have in my narrative that I currently have no interest in an LDR. That is rarely read and even if there was a box, it would be ignored. I got a mail from as guy in CA who said he was in love with me from my profile and ready to hop on a plane... I get wackos from CA several times a week. laugh

I think LDR's can work if you are willing to put in the effort and if there is an attainable goal to be together in a timeframe you can both live with.


I told you i was gonna stop Lilith sad sad sad

laugh laugh laugh


Stalker.


I know :cry: ohwell laugh

directandwrite's photo
Tue 09/30/08 10:46 AM



I clearly have in my narrative that I currently have no interest in an LDR. That is rarely read and even if there was a box, it would be ignored. I got a mail from as guy in CA who said he was in love with me from my profile and ready to hop on a plane... I get wackos from CA several times a week. laugh




Hey who doesn't? LOL


I don'tsad



NOW SEARCHING FOR WACKOS FROM CA TO STALK PEOPLE WHO DON'T HAVE WACKO STALKERS FROM CA!!! :smile:

lilith401's photo
Tue 09/30/08 10:46 AM
Romeo..... if you want my address I'll gladly provide it. Door will be open, follow the path of rose petals and end at the champagne bucket and sliced strawberries. smitten

You can't stalk the willing...ask Lexy. :laughing:


no photo
Tue 09/30/08 10:48 AM

Two things...first of all, is it possible for long distance relationships to work in your opinion?


In the same way that winning the lottery while fighting off a horde of insane camels and simultaneously inventing a flying canoe. It IS possible, but highly unlikely.

I've tried it -- several times -- and would never even consider it again. But I do know people who have made LDRs work, somehow.


Secondly, as we view other people's profiles from around the world, shouldn't there be a check box they could mark to let us know if they aren't interested in a long distance thing?


Nobody reads profiles. Half of them can't read, and the other half only see what they want to see.

DTHRomeo's photo
Tue 09/30/08 10:51 AM

Romeo..... if you want my address I'll gladly provide it. Door will be open, follow the path of rose petals and end at the champagne bucket and sliced strawberries. smitten

You can't stalk the willing...ask Lexy. :laughing:




Awww blushingsmittenflowers

That was so sweet

no photo
Tue 09/30/08 10:54 AM

Romeo..... if you want my address I'll gladly provide it. Door will be open, follow the path of rose petals and end at the champagne bucket and sliced strawberries. smitten

You can't stalk the willing...ask Lexy. :laughing:



You really are way too nice to me....not that I'm complaining, you understand!

flowers flowers flowers

no photo
Tue 09/30/08 10:56 AM

LDR's CAN and DO work. Granted it takes two people who are committed to that relationship and lots & lots of communication. Honesty at all times.

I was on vacation one year in Myrtle Beach. He was from Canada and was there playing golf. We had a blast that week. Found that each of us went there the same time of year and met there again the next year. It was then we decided to give a relationship a try.

It worked for 5 years and it was wonderful. His job required him to travel a good deal so we were able to meet 3 or 4x a year for 3 or 4 days at a time. Sometimes more often. The main reason it stayed LDR was because I still had a child at home, she was in high school. I wouldn't have been moving to another state...but to another country and I wouldn't do that to her.

The relationship ended, not because of distance, not because we didn't love each other, not because we didn't plan our future, but because an accident caused him to be paralyzed like Christopher Reeves was and because of complications, his life ended within two years of the accident. This was the most wonderful relationship I've ever had. We NEVER took our time together for granted, we never took EACH OTHER for granted. Each new time together was almost like the first time but better. We were ALWAYS considerate and respectful of each other's feelings. Yes, there were times when we wished we could be with each other at that very moment...but there was always the phone and pc. There is enough loneliness in this world, enough sadness, enough pain. If you can find love and happiness 1 mile apart or 5000 miles apart...grab it with all you've got! There are NO guarantees EVER about ANYTHING.

flowerforyou drinker flowerforyou

no photo
Tue 09/30/08 10:58 AM
I think there are negative and positive people in this world and depending on which mindset they have they will accept things easily or not at all.

Ldrs are just another example.....flowerforyou

RKISIT's photo
Tue 09/30/08 11:10 AM
they can work but for how long, serious could you date or even marry someone without actually living together for the rest of your life or until one retires. or maybe thats a good thing,you wont get sick of each other fast,or you may get sick of not seeing each other enough. i tried it once, but making out over the phone is pretty blah:smile:

no photo
Tue 09/30/08 11:20 AM
Why Long Distance Relationships can work.

1) He can go out with the guys and she won't B*tch
She can go out with the girls and he won't whine

2) He can stock the fridge with beer & cold pizza
She can stock the fridge with yogurt and diet drinks

3) He can watch sports all day and night
She can watch TCL channel all day and night

4) He doesn't have to hear she doesn't have anything to wear
She doesn't care if he wears his baggy sweats all day

5) He doesn't have to hear her say "I have a headache"
She never gets headaches

6) He doesn't have to take out the garbage just because she wants him to
She doesn't have to wash his stinky clothes

7) He doesn't have to take her out to dinner at least once a week.
She doesn't have to cook his favorite meal every night.

8) He doesn't have to hear "Why did you buy THAT?"
She doesn't have to hear him say "You spent how much?"

9) He doesn't have to hear "Can't you put the lid down.
She doesn't have to hear "Did you use my razor"

And #10

He doesn't have to hear "You've been too tired for 4 nights.
She doesn't have to hear "Did you take the batteries out of the remote again?"

FearandLoathing's photo
Tue 09/30/08 11:22 AM
Long distance relationships require perfection on several levels...human=imperfect...so few work out for the long run.

no photo
Tue 09/30/08 11:30 AM

Long distance relationships require perfection on several levels...human=imperfect...so few work out for the long run.
require perfection???? What about non ldrs???? huh

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