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Yea I guess you should be friends along with the relationship, but usually I think if you establish that your "just friends" a girl will be just fine with that....forever! Once you get catigorized as a friend, it can become very difficult to get out of just being a friend.
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I think it mean the person wants to start off slow and get to know the person first as a friend totally agree. you just have to be careful that if one of you wants to move forward that it doesnt just stay as friends because the other has gotten used to it. As some have experienced sometimes friends first tends to backfire. |
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Its the internet, you have to start of as friends.
What are you gonna do, talk to someone for one night and ask them to go steady with you? Sure, it is possible to hit it off with someone quickly and for both people to soon decide to stay exclusive to the other, but really, all their really is, is friendship. There are ways and means to be sexual online of course, but a relationship built on that on the internet just aint going to work. Many relationships that develop into 'love' too quickly online can fail as quickly, because after some time you may realise that there isnt really a true friendship there as well, and that is a very important part of a relationship. Pink lady is my other(better) half, so my story has already been said on the previous page. |
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I was best friends with my hubby for a long time before we became exclusive....And I agree that a friendship is a sold base for a great marriage.....29 years and counting....
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as i've mentioned in another thread, i keep seeing all these profiles that say "looking friends first and see where it goes from there" but honestly if you get close enough to be a friend,do you really want to progress that relationship into something more with a guy that has became a friend? i mean doesn't that make it more of a "friends with benefits"type of relationship? 
I always assumed it's more like "I'm not letting you get too close until I really have a better idea of who you are." Sort of a defense mechanism. I don't know, I can see the reasoning behind it. Rushing into things too quickly often leads to disappointment and penicillin. |
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I always assumed it's more like "I'm not letting you get too close until I really have a better idea of who you are." Sort of a defense mechanism. I don't know, I can see the reasoning behind it. Rushing into things too quickly often leads to disappointment and penicillin.
Exactly, and add regret on to that too...altho i think its more about being 'sensible' than 'defensive'. |
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First, scarlett, you are a genius.
Second... Yea I guess you should be friends along with the relationship, but usually I think if you establish that your "just friends" a girl will be just fine with that....forever! Once you get catigorized as a friend, it can become very difficult to get out of just being a friend. No, actually, this is very not true. Many of my past relationships began as friends, and I slowly got to like them, and they me, on a much deeper level because of it. The problem, however, is that it's just a fact that not every one of your female friends is going to be attracted to you in that way. I have also had male friends like me more than I just simply don't reciporcate... it's not the friends label, it's weather or not there's an attraction at all. |
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Edited by
sammykmas
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Thu 10/02/08 04:54 AM
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I'd like to ask why every woman tells me "Oh you're going to be a fun one" when I send a message but for real I'm not here to be your entertainment! I'm here to communicate with you and to get to know you and when I'm no longer their entertainment they go silent. I have alot to give as a person and love to communicate (write) but dead silence. We are not here to commnunicate just create a world of small talk is that it? How's your dog? Did you have a good day? YUCK!
I have really never understood why the written word is so bad when trying to meet someone. How do you ever get to know someone then if you don't type? By the way, what is a friendship anyway? I don't get it?????!!! LOL of course I do but you tell me! REALLY HOW SLOW IS SLOW? See the thing with that is, Girls have come to realize that when looking for a life partner, yeah, that initial chemistry is wonderful and if he looks good wow.. even better... but unless you can be friends with someone... and are able to communicate with someone.. it will NEVER last... because eventually the good looks will fade and when your old and really just needing some good conversation... if he's not your friend and never has been your friend... Who the hell are you supposed to talk to... its not like it was when you were young. Its not about being physical with someone. Its about what will last and become a life long relationship... In my personal oppinion. |
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How many people have even found a friend on here? Be honest now!
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Friends first, means your not sleeping together so you're not "benefiting" from it. (In that way, you know what I mean) If I call a man a friend, I'm not sleeping with him.
Yes, it is possible to not sleep with friends of the oposite sex. |
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If you're under 30 it means: I am not trying to have just a hook-up, I want something more.
If you're over 30 it mean: I've been around the block a time or two and I am not trying to get my heartbroken again so let me check you out first. 
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as i've mentioned in another thread, i keep seeing all these profiles that say "looking friends first and see where it goes from there" but honestly if you get close enough to be a friend,do you really want to progress that relationship into something more with a guy that has became a friend? i mean doesn't that make it more of a "friends with benefits"type of relationship?
Not at all!! do you really want to progress that relationship into something more with a guy that has became a friend?
Yes, thats wat i did. Before i met my bf, i was happy to be single, and i wasnt looking for romance.We had a close online friendship for about a yr, before we met up at a meet in RL, and then it progressed from friendship love to romantic love. I can honestly say that our friendship laid the foundations for the great relationship we have now. That is because as friends, we grew to respect each other first, and we got to know eachother better during that time, without the complications of a relationship. Imo, lovers should also be friends, the romance just adds to the sexual part of the relationship, but friendship adds to the social/emotional growth side of the relationship. nicely put lisa 
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as i've mentioned in another thread, i keep seeing all these profiles that say "looking friends first and see where it goes from there" but honestly if you get close enough to be a friend,do you really want to progress that relationship into something more with a guy that has became a friend? i mean doesn't that make it more of a "friends with benefits"type of relationship?
You've never gotten to know someone without sleeping with them right away? Never been friends with someone you're dating? |
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