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| Topic: What do you do when there is NO spark/ stuck in holding patt | |
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The senario is that you are with someone and you like them and care about them BUT there is no "spark" OR ame senario as above BUT you have reached a point in the relationship and can't seem to move forward and continue to grow as a couple
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You give the "it's not YOU, it's me speach" and you move on.
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what's wrong with just staying the same?
why do two people have to continue to grow as a couple and/or move forward? why is it a bad thing if they don't? it's sort of comforting to recognize that things are good just as they are and appreciate it for the moment; sort of like taking the time to stop and smell the roses, instead of hurrying forward to glimpse some other flower. |
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Im sorry babe..but for me its all about chemistry.
I hate to admit this..but im more likely to be with someone who "rocks my world" than someone who is "just good for me".. im really trying to find both right now .... which is why im still single. That balance is so hard to find!!! |
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You stick with it anyway, out of a sense of guilt or religious fealty, pretend all is okay or can be worked out, and waste years of your life trying to do this. It's every man's dream.
Or. . . as advised, practice the "It's not you, it's me" delivery. |
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No spark?
Check the gap. You can buy a gap guage at Autozone. |
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"Rubbin' sticks and stones together makes the sparks ignite" ----Starland Vocal Band
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It's not that I feel we constantly have to grow... I have no issue enjoying the moment I am in now... However, if I realize that this is really as good as it's gonna get, I have to move on.
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what's wrong with just staying the same? why do two people have to continue to grow as a couple and/or move forward? why is it a bad thing if they don't? it's sort of comforting to recognize that things are good just as they are and appreciate it for the moment; sort of like taking the time to stop and smell the roses, instead of hurrying forward to glimpse some other flower. Dude I know that's what I said but I also told the person that that was how I was handling it ( seeing where things go) but that it was clear that she had some questions that she needed to ask herself. She is good peoples but I'm not one toplay games an lie just to have good company. I'd rather her stay in my life but that she move on relationship wise which is what is going to happen |
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what's wrong with just staying the same? why do two people have to continue to grow as a couple and/or move forward? why is it a bad thing if they don't? it's sort of comforting to recognize that things are good just as they are and appreciate it for the moment; sort of like taking the time to stop and smell the roses, instead of hurrying forward to glimpse some other flower. Dude I know that's what I said but I also told the person that that was how I was handling it ( seeing where things go) but that it was clear that she had some questions that she needed to ask herself. She is good peoples but I'm not one toplay games an lie just to have good company. I'd rather her stay in my life but that she move on relationship wise which is what is going to happen dude? |
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It's not that I feel we constantly have to grow... I have no issue enjoying the moment I am in now... However, if I realize that this is really as good as it's gonna get, I have to move on. And what if " as good as it gets " is really fantastic right now??? Do you have in the back of your mind the thought that " things are GREAT now, but they COULD be even better and if they don't GET to that point soon, I'm outta here "?? That sounds like it would pretty much doom your relationships right from the word go. |
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On Survivor, They use a flint and a machete. That's if you win the reward challenge.
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On Survivor, They use a flint and a machete. That's if you win the reward challenge.
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