Public place is good. Just let someone know who it is you are meeting with and what time you will be back, where, all that stuff. Other wise, sit back, be yourself and have fun.

i haven't had a gf in like 8 years =(

Meet halfway

He wants me to go to a friends bday party... I don't want to meet him and all his friends too in the same night...

Whoa I Compleately disagree!!!!!!

There is a REASON you don't want to meet this person. Your instincts are telling you this is NOT, I repeat NOT the person to meet. If you have to make excuses then something is not going to be right and you are going to regret this date. Maybe a little but chances are good a lot.

I have dated on line many times and the few following safety guidelines were ok even pleasant if not particularly fun. The ones that were real stinkers were the ones I ignored that little internal voice that said pass. It always won't tell you why, seem fair, or might be awkward but LISTEN to it and same everyone misery. You don't have to be mean say Thanks but no Thanks and drop it.

I am not even going to get into why that is between you and yourself to figure out but I would take some time to do that. Then you might be better ready to meet and enjoy your choices and avoid this "crowded" feeling.

Then don't.

I am more comfortable meeting at a neutral place in public but with only two of us.

I agree with Winx

I agree too... I am going to respond and tell him we can meet for lunch this weekend maybe if I'm not working. Here I go! Watch him read this thread.

I met a woman on here that came over and stayed at my house a few weekends but she never invited me to where she lived. I ran an online background check on her and found out that she lived in a different town that what she was telling me.

I, personally, would not go to a friends b'day party or any other place where you were on "uneven" ground. To me, I'd feel at a real disadvantage being somewhere where he knew everyone and I knew no one!

Maybe she had was not a good housekeeper

I will not be going to a house full of people I don't know... that feels like a 5th date or something not a 1st

never been scared to meet somone, but since you are. Set it up to where you feel comfortable, where you want to meet and go from there...

IMHO
You are right he should be coming to you if he asked you for the date. If he respected you he wouldn't even suggested a party where you would be clearly outnumbered by strangers that he could not control.

Wrong There are always things to do in your area. If he had to bring a picnic and a board game or a radio or whatever he would find something pleasant to do with you in a safe place. Even if he had to meet you at a police station lol.. He is making excuses and you are making excuses for him if you let that idea stick.

If you have reservations, stop now and just deactivate. You have to met people, but if you're scared and don't act like yourself why bother?

Meet for a coffee or a drink. Period. Halfway. If you like him eat after, if not get in your car and leave.

Geesh this is so freaking simple.

I'd meet him halfway. Just go for it. You'll get over the being scared thing quickly.

RAWR!!!!!!!

I suggested lunch instead... he can come over here, I'm not going to be driving all over Florida especially the first time.

Now you got it!

Go have fun, be safe, but have some fun!

Hey dude you were not even dry behind the ears eight years ago what are you gripeing about?

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