ok so this is really weird for me...somehow i manage to get girls from a different state to like me and wanna be with me and so on, but when it comes to meeting girls from within the same state, they want nothing to do with me? any particular reason for this? i live in california btw

it is fantasy they like.....reality is when you can get in the car a see them in 20 minutes....

Welcome to mingle2... the bastion of all things "Long Distance Relationship". It seems that you just can't get away from gettin' noticed from those who live on the other side of the globe.

yeah i know huh? and its very true lol

Maybe they want to move to California? you never know

I prefer to talk to people out of my state- I live here why do I want to talk about what goes on here?
I'd rather hear about someplace I've never been to.

Just sit back and enjoy the diversity that you can get on here.

I agree with the fantasy thing. Even though I am a woman it is the thought of not having to see the "real" you. Sound crazy. I know. Most of us have been in long term relationships and have seen or been through the daily "stuff". We are in love with the idea of being in love.

Wow does not take you long to get back in the grove of things just read that you and your g/f just split up. That you just posted like 15 minutes ago lol slow down guy.

Sorry it just struck me kinda funny with this subject already. No harm intended

That's been exactly my experience too....wish I could come up with a coherent explanation for you (and me), but it just seems like most people aren't really serious about anything beyond a pretend LDR....

Oh yeah, ain't that the truth.
Who knows why?????
I'd rather meet women closer to me too.

I get mails from wackadoo dudes in CA all the time. I don't put much stock into it.... a lot is wanting what you can't have, and being too picky in your local profile searches. Fact is, I'd be willing to bet 90% of the people on dating sites use being on one as an excuse to be single.

Hey now lilth shhshs don't give out all our secrets shshsh

I would have to agree -- but it sure makes it more difficult for those of us who really would like to meet someone....

No kidding.
Remind me, I'm going to send you a really funny read later tonight, but it will take me awhile to compose it.

I think I might know. There was one social site I formerly belonged to that had an unusually large number of men who lived only a short drive from me. There was even a guy I exchanged a few PMs with who lives in the same town as me, which is very unusual. (I do not actually live in Denver, but in a rural area outside of Denver.)

So I thought it would be nice to make some friends with some local guys for a change.

What a cluster f!ck that turned out to be. I wasted hours and hours of my time IM chatting and talking on the phone with several guys who seemed nice. Three times I made actual arrangements to meet these guys and three times I was stood up.

I can usually deal with rejection fairly easily, but that was just like the absolute last straw.

Other local guys would message me and just expect for me to come over to their house and have a "discreet encounter" with them. Yep, driving for an hour or more to have some married dude use me like a blow-up doll--I'm all over that sh1t. (Not.)

And then there was the inevitable string of bitter divorced men who really just need a babysitter for their bratty kids and don't feel it's worth their while even to speak to someone who lives more than a 20-minute drive away.

So it didn't take me long to get REALLY sick of that, too.

The other side of the coin of meeting local people over the internet is that it's much more likely that the person you're talking to is just looking for a quick shag and that's it. And I mean, I don't need the internet for that, ya know?

If a person takes the trouble to meet you even though you live some distance away, you know that person is at least going to put forth the effort to make the occasion memorable.

Anyway, these are just some thoughts I have on the matter. I hope you find them useful. yours in Chaos, Scarlett