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Topic: I support friendship frist"I want to get to know Him!,
BlueskyJ Joined Tue 06/26/07 Posts: 2927	Mon 09/22/08 05:29 PM
I support holding hands & kissing first....that way you really know if there is an attraction....if i waited until I knew her first that could take weeks or months....and may lead no where.... ^^ All I got to say is...Oh, WOW! You are left with satisfaction....unless the sex was bad.....in that case you won't have to waste weeks getting to know him only to find out he ain't got it in the sack.... OH MY! You see women need their mind/emotions massaged....I'd rather give them a self-help book & skip the emotions.... OH good Gawwwwwwwwwwwd! I swear I will play "nice-nice" here, but...really? Some folks actually wonder WHY they are on a dating site...and can't find "love"??? As Doc Phil says..."how's THAT workin' for ya?" Glad you enjoyed my posts, Thanks!!!....some people just have a good sense of humor.... And as Dr. BlueSky would reply to Dr. Phil, "That (banana) is working wonders "

doodlebuggrrl Joined Wed 04/30/08 Posts: 593	Mon 09/22/08 08:12 PM
Goodness!@

galendgirl Joined Sun 07/06/08 Posts: 24728	Mon 09/22/08 08:14 PM
Friendship first, if the sparks fly later all the better. Once in a while the sparks fly before you've got a chance to be friends...whaddaya gonna do then but try to put out the fire??? <sigh!>

longhairbiker Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 26589	Mon 09/22/08 08:32 PM
I seek knowledge. Stupidity and irresponsibility and lack of accountability is rampant.

papersmile Joined Fri 10/12/07 Posts: 5148	Tue 09/23/08 03:49 AM
I support holding hands & kissing first....that way you really know if there is an attraction....if i waited until I knew her first that could take weeks or months....and may lead no where.... ^^ All I got to say is...Oh, WOW! You are left with satisfaction....unless the sex was bad.....in that case you won't have to waste weeks getting to know him only to find out he ain't got it in the sack.... OH MY! You see women need their mind/emotions massaged....I'd rather give them a self-help book & skip the emotions.... OH good Gawwwwwwwwwwwd! I swear I will play "nice-nice" here, but...really? Some folks actually wonder WHY they are on a dating site...and can't find "love"??? As Doc Phil says..."how's THAT workin' for ya?" Glad you enjoyed my posts, Thanks!!!....some people just have a good sense of humor.... And as Dr. BlueSky would reply to Dr. Phil, "That (banana) is working wonders " oh? i guess i missed the joke ~~~~ personally speaking, attraction is built up over time, i've hardly ever in my life met someone with whom i was instantly interested. that's probably why most of my dates have been with friends and, why, when i've gone out with people from a dating site, i'm left with the uncomfortable feeling of them wanting to know if there was a spark, and my unableness to say. then there often isn't another date and an attraction, if any, is nipped in the bud.

passionart Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 1396	Tue 09/23/08 05:40 AM
Hey KoolAide, to me, there is nothing wrong with the holding of hands, and ESPECIALLY, the kiss! For me, this seems to bring about a sense of relaxation to both. As far as sex before friendship, I hate starting something I can't finish; at least there's a chance for friendship...

BlueskyJ Joined Tue 06/26/07 Posts: 2927	Thu 09/25/08 12:18 PM Edited by BlueskyJ on Thu 09/25/08 01:08 PM
oh? i guess i missed the joke Knowing you as I DO from book of matches(gonna go crying to the mods here too?) I understand how someone with no sense of humor would not get much....

quiet_2008 Joined Sat 08/30/08 Posts: 11138	Thu 09/25/08 12:20 PM
you were a little twerp over there too until you got kicked out

Riding_Dubz Joined Wed 05/21/08 Posts: 22110	Thu 09/25/08 12:37 PM
Im just here for the lust,

Scarlett_156 Joined Wed 09/17/08 Posts: 469	Thu 09/25/08 01:22 PM
People who make a huge point out of "trust", "getting to know someone first", "friendship", etc., on the internet are usually (not always, but USUALLY) trying to scam. The internet is not a great place to build trust. It IS great place to make friends and socialize. You should never consider someone a true friend, or trust that person, until you have met him or her face to face. I have internet friends I've known for years; I get along great with them and have talked on the phone with them, etc. However, I don't trust them 100%; that would I feel be stupid. You can have a lot of affection for another person, but trust does not necessarily have to go along with that. Every time a person I've met on the internet asks me for trust, or seems to expect it, even if I've talked with him/her on the phone numerous times, I will start to suspect that something's up. Just my opinion(s), of course! yours in Chaos, Scarlett

papersmile Joined Fri 10/12/07 Posts: 5148	Thu 09/25/08 02:07 PM
oh? i guess i missed the joke Knowing you as I DO from book of matches(gonna go crying to the mods here too?) I understand how someone with no sense of humor would not get much.... haha, you got yourself booted, it had nothing at all to do with me. but if thinking that is what allows you to sleep at night, so be it. and don't flatter yourself that you knew me. i'd hardly consider it as such.

feralcatlady Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 35491	Thu 09/25/08 02:11 PM
I support holding hands & kissing first....that way you really know if there is an attraction....if i waited until I knew her first that could take weeks or months....and may lead no where.... ^^ All I got to say is...Oh, WOW! You are left with satisfaction....unless the sex was bad.....in that case you won't have to waste weeks getting to know him only to find out he ain't got it in the sack.... OH MY! You see women need their mind/emotions massaged....I'd rather give them a self-help book & skip the emotions.... OH good Gawwwwwwwwwwwd! I swear I will play "nice-nice" here, but...really? Some folks actually wonder WHY they are on a dating site...and can't find "love"??? As Doc Phil says..."how's THAT workin' for ya?" I love it when the chica's reads my mind... arr arr arr

feralcatlady Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 35491	Thu 09/25/08 02:12 PM
oh? i guess i missed the joke Knowing you as I DO from book of matches(gonna go crying to the mods here too?) I understand how someone with no sense of humor would not get much.... haha, you got yourself booted, it had nothing at all to do with me. but if thinking that is what allows you to sleep at night, so be it. and don't flatter yourself that you knew me. i'd hardly consider it as such. You two crack me up.....

snarkytwain Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 2789	Thu 09/25/08 02:33 PM
Friendship is always good; it creates tension too, if you are both attracted, and tension is great.

KoolAidWoman Joined Thu 09/20/07 Posts: 1079	Sat 10/04/08 07:55 PM
Hey KoolAide, to me, there is nothing wrong with the holding of hands, and ESPECIALLY, the kiss! For me, this seems to bring about a sense of relaxation to both. As far as sex before friendship, I hate starting something I can't finish; at least there's a chance for friendship... Thanks my friend for posting Passionart! You go brother whatever works here were all grown. Your friend Koolaidwoman 10/4/08,

Plainome Joined Sat 08/30/08 Posts: 363	Sun 10/05/08 12:14 PM
People who make a huge point out of "trust", "getting to know someone first", "friendship", etc., on the internet are usually (not always, but USUALLY) trying to scam. The internet is not a great place to build trust. It IS great place to make friends and socialize. You should never consider someone a true friend, or trust that person, until you have met him or her face to face. I have internet friends I've known for years; I get along great with them and have talked on the phone with them, etc. However, I don't trust them 100%; that would I feel be stupid. You can have a lot of affection for another person, but trust does not necessarily have to go along with that. Every time a person I've met on the internet asks me for trust, or seems to expect it, even if I've talked with him/her on the phone numerous times, I will start to suspect that something's up. Just my opinion(s), of course! yours in Chaos, Scarlett I agree for the most part. No one should demand trust form another, it doesn't even work that way. I do not trust anyone 100% even if we have known eachother in person for 20 years. Trust has levels, imo. I feel that I can trust my online friends for certain things, but I base that trust on their character.......and past behaviors. I do not believe trust CAN NOT be built online, or that knowing someone in person means they can't/won't do something to betray your trust. Take responsiblity for those you trust, instead of blaming them for when things go awry. Don't trust someone with someone you can take care of yourself........because if they fall through you are the only one to blame. Don't expect someone to be worthy of your trust, either.

Plainome Joined Sat 08/30/08 Posts: 363	Sun 10/05/08 07:54 PM
It was meant to be "don't trust someone with SOMETHING" not "someone", lol. and too late for an edit.

Mimx Joined Sun 10/14/07 Posts: 64	Sun 10/05/08 08:19 PM
If you don't trust yourself, then you will never know when you trust someone else. Trust is just another word for faith. If you trust in the fact that someone is out there waiting on you, then you have a good faith in finding someone. If you don't trust anyone, then your faith is dead and you have basically isolated yourself from every being happy.