I have a question: Is it bred into a guys dna that they have to cheat or
do they not know that they are cheating when they are doing it?
My definition of cheating is when both parties know that they are in an
exclusive relationship and one or both has any kind of sex with another
person.
Am I wrong?

Is it in a guy's genetic makeup that he HAS to cheat? Not only no, but
HELL NO.

No, you are not wrong. A man doesn't have to have more than one sex
partner ...in fact, he's not going to die if he doesn't even have one
...and if anyone here tries that lame excuse that it's genetically
ingrained in them to "propagate the species" one more time, I'm going to
reach through this computer and cyberslap the hell outta them.

sorry you feel that way.. but not all men cheat..

well not all guys cheat. some of us have been cheated on

sorry guys didn't mean to offend just wondering. It is starting to
become a habit with the guys is my area
<<<Venting I suppose.

Its not only men that cheat...women cheat also!!! I just wanted to clear
that up...and NO I have never cheated, I just hate when men get blamed
for being the only ones that cheat!!!

My wife cheated on me twice, I took her back the first time.
5 years later she did it again.


Keep an open mind.

Not all men are cheaters.

Not all women are like my X.

klugman

have u tried looking for guys a little further from your area

it's ok.. it hurts no doubt about it.. but klugman is right..

well it goes both wayz...it takes 2 to tango....and im sorry but if it
werent for some ladies like that givin in easy there wouldnt be any men
cheating.....ladies should be smarter about their mate...and some women
know men are married but pretend to look the other way...but they tend
to fall too easily when sweet talked....especially dem women who are
feelin down and depressed...those who are in despair...keep yuh head
strong...n let no man eva tell you otherwise bout yuh beautiful
self....guys prey on dat weakness.....no offense ladiez...itz about the
topic nothin more.....i wasnt pointin anyone out.....
da-king

yes that's how I got here to meet men out of my general area
And I agree women do cheat that is not what I'm saying I was just trying
to figure out what was going on in their heads when they cheated, and if
they feel remorse for it or use the phrase it was a different area code
it doesn't count or when alchol is involved it is not cheating.

was married 11 yrs dated 5years befor i married her i never cheated SHE
DID

well i live about 5 hours from u. i'm not sure what goes through peoples
minds when they cheat. i have never cheated but have been cheated on

I've been cheated on and in the time that I've gone through what I have,
I've found out about more men that I know that were going through the
same thing. As a matter of fact, In the last couple of years, I've heard
about more women cheating than men.
I still have faith though. Hang in there kid.

this is what almost makes me wanna vomit...when someone cheats while
their spouse is at home being faithful.....playin wit da kidz or
cookin...while dey out cheatin....how can you look dey kidz in the eye
and tell them you love and miss them when you were just out bangin
another person...i think its so sad to mislead your kidz and to rob them
of a happy family their innocense so deserves....dont get married and
have kids if your not gon be faithful...that is exactly what marriage
is......its a commitment more than an emotion....and your probably sayin
why is dat?....well we cant alwayz rely on our emotions...remember dem
timez we just couldnt say no....cuz we thought it was unkind or un
humanlike?....were did it lead us?...exactly....sometimes emotions
mislead our judgment on thingz that have to and must be done....
da-king

I have to call you out on this one Islandking...you think women are easy
to play? Just by sweet talking them? Come on now!! You must be joking?
If a woman has self-esteem and is very confident in herself, you are not
going to sweet talk her in to anything!! I don't think women are easy to
play at all, IF we have our heads on straight, and I know I do, NO man
is going to play me.
You act like a man can just come in and be nice and we are going to jump
right in bed with him....hmmm don't think so

unsure angel is giving you a round of applause.

thanks

<Yells>
I NEED A GOOD, SEXY, MATURE MAN WHO DOESN'T CHEAT!
I AM SO SICK OF BEING CHEATED ON!!!!
AND NO I DON'T WANNA TRAVEL 2000 MILES TO FIND HIM!!
AND NO I DON'T WANNA SETTLE FOR NOBODY IM NOT ATTRACTED To!!

There I feel a Lil better lol <wipes tears>

First of all, why the automatic "not all guys cheat" defense? From what
I recall, she didn't say anything about all guys cheating.

Secondly, as to the "women do it, too" statements, I have to ask, "So?"

The OP is not interested in why women cheat or THAT women cheat. She's
not interested in knowing why men who DON'T cheat, don't cheat.

The question she asked was is it bred into a guy's DNA that they have to
cheat? It should be automatically construed that she's not talking about
those who DON'T cheat, therefore, the "not all men cheat" defense is
pointless and unnecessary.

AA101, of COURSE not all men cheat, but many of them do. And, for those
who do, there are two explanations:

1) Men are genetically programmed to propagate the species and have sex
with as many women as possible.

2) Men are scum.