So here is my ponderance;

How many people would be willing to initiate or accept initiation from a person that lives in a different state (or country) as yourself? And if you did, would you be willing to relocate?

Second;
If you met someone locally and were dating, then either you or they moved out of state indefinately, would you stay with them and wait till they came back or would you relocate with them if you could?

i think they can work but it depends on how much your willing to put into it

Having a LD relationship really depends on how much you care about the other person.

LD relationships can work if you have it in you to stay true to the other person. I'm in one right now, it is going to be hard, an even harder when I leave for Job-corps but he is willing to fight for the relationship an I am to. It just depends if you can trust the other person to stay true to you an how much you care bout them.

Did the LDR thing, several times, in 2006 -- never again. Just doesn't work for me and I learned my lesson. They all intended to relocate to my state, at some point, but who they turned out to be in person, when we finally met, did not fit the "plan" as originally described.



That's a different story. Assuming it's a real relationship before one of the parties moves away (and not a long-distance pretend computer thing), then there's a foundation to work with. Yeah, I would relocate in that case.

How did you meet your LDR? online? and what are your plans for the future with this person? are you going to move where he is or vice versa?

I would stay and wait or go with, depending what my life at the time would let me do.

I am actually in a long term relationship now (She lives 2 states away) with a lady whom I met online, not on a dating site but a game of all places. I planned on starting a new business in the near future so why not in her home town? We see each other once a month and if we're both strong enough to keep doing that as long as it takes to be together, I think we have a winner.

my opinion is dont get to involved with them if the person lives to far then you dont have to worry about it.

Yeah you never DO know for sure what a person will be like in a living situation when you never really knew them personally to begin with. It adds a WHOLE new dynamic/dimension to the relationship.

I know it can be done successfully, but I am not sure how. I met my ex online and he lived in Morocco at the time I met him. we "dated" for over a year then I went there for a couple weeks and eight months later he came here and we got married. WOW HUGE EYE OPENER! we were only married for three years, it was DIFFICULT.

That's awesome! I like the "see each other once a month" thing, but that would be difficult sometimes too. evvery once in awhile I just a hankerin to see my man and if he were two states away then the immediate urge to snuggle would be out of the question... :-)

Well I was just wondering because I have seen many profiles of people that seem like they would be a pretty decent match but they of coarse are always out of state! very frustrating! I have lived in my area my entire life and obviously meeting someone local isn't workin so well for me... So I guess I mean to say I have contemplated how far (literally) I would be willing to go for "TRUE LOVE"

i can feel your pain

We have something special planned closer to the holidays and we're going to spend 4 days alone in a train cabin traveling coast to coast in the spring. We're planning vacations together. Long distance relationships can work well if one does'nt depend on the their partner and both people work equally hard at seeing each other and one day more. I plan on dating her once I'm near her. Do things the right way etc. Right now our webcams sure get alot of use lol

Yea we met on here. We are just taking it day by day. We both are still very young. We haven't talked bout that just yet. But if we are still together when I get back from Jopcorps we probably will move in together, I plan on moving out to CO. So just gotta wait an see what happens.

LDRs might be able to work depending on a lot of factors. The biggest on is if you are both looking for someone for life and who is going to relocate. I have never tried on so I do not know if I could or not. I say if you are happy in that type relationship jsut keep it strong and let the furture lay out your path.

WEBCAMS!! UH OH!! Gotta love webcams!

i'm in a long distance relationship, and have been for over two years.

i'm in toronto, and he's in west texas. it isn't the easiest place to travel to (nor the prettiest, haha). neither is it cheap. we don't see each other nearly as much as we'd both like, but somehow we manage to do quite well.

neither of us live our lives with any expectations, and most certainly don't within the relationship. i don't know where we will be this time next year, next month or even next week. but i do know that for today i am in love with him, and he with me and i don't anticipate tomorrow being any different than today.

with neither one of us currently in a position to move, yet still very much in love with each other, we take what is given each day and enjoy it for what it is. i once said to him that all i wanted was a dance and that the rest - if any - would just be icing on the cake. well i'm still eating, haha. i would rather be with this man, and see him way too infrequently, than be with anyone else, and get to see them all the time.

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we did meet online, not on this site but a similar one. i don't believe that either one of us were actually looking for a relationship, especially one of the long distance kind (i know i certainly wasn't).

if he'd have written to me out of the blue and talked about getting together, etc., i doubt i would have said yes - it would have just seemed insurmountable i guess, and quite a bit bizarre to want to get involved with someone that far away.

we were both forum posters; almost from the day that i first began to post, was the day he made a re-appearance (from one of his many bans haha); if that doesn't sound like it was pre-destined, i don't know what does.

i noticed him almost right away, the wit, the humour, the grace and the intelligence. it didn't take me long to find something to write to him about and the rest, as they say, is history.

i don't think you get to pick with whom you fall in love. it all falls into place in the exact manner in which it was intended.

I am in an LDR, he is in Louisiana and I am in Maryland. He has asked me to marry him and soon, we will be making plans for him to re-locate

ive had a lot of long distance relationships.

ive been saying i wont do another. but now im having doubts. im thinking if hes a good man and you can trust him then why not.

one reason im skeptical is because i cant relocate and im afraid if i got into one and he cant relocate and i cant it'd hurt when it ends you know?

Congrats! That is really good news!