i'm in a long distance relationship, and have been for over two years.

i'm in toronto, and he's in west texas. it isn't the easiest place to travel to (nor the prettiest, haha). neither is it cheap. we don't see each other nearly as much as we'd both like, but somehow we manage to do quite well.

neither of us live our lives with any expectations, and most certainly don't within the relationship. i don't know where we will be this time next year, next month or even next week. but i do know that for today i am in love with him, and he with me and i don't anticipate tomorrow being any different than today.

with neither one of us currently in a position to move, yet still very much in love with each other, we take what is given each day and enjoy it for what it is. i once said to him that all i wanted was a dance and that the rest - if any - would just be icing on the cake. well i'm still eating, haha. i would rather be with this man, and see him way too infrequently, than be with anyone else, and get to see them all the time.

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we did meet online, not on this site but a similar one. i don't believe that either one of us were actually looking for a relationship, especially one of the long distance kind (i know i certainly wasn't).

if he'd have written to me out of the blue and talked about getting together, etc., i doubt i would have said yes - it would have just seemed insurmountable i guess, and quite a bit bizarre to want to get involved with someone that far away.

we were both forum posters; almost from the day that i first began to post, was the day he made a re-appearance (from one of his many bans haha); if that doesn't sound like it was pre-destined, i don't know what does.

i noticed him almost right away, the wit, the humour, the grace and the intelligence. it didn't take me long to find something to write to him about and the rest, as they say, is history.

i don't think you get to pick with whom you fall in love. it all falls into place in the exact manner in which it was intended.

Congrats! That is really good news!

ive had a lot of long distance relationships.

ive been saying i wont do another. but now im having doubts. im thinking if hes a good man and you can trust him then why not.

one reason im skeptical is because i cant relocate and im afraid if i got into one and he cant relocate and i cant it'd hurt when it ends you know?

ive had a lot of long distance relationships.

ive been saying i wont do another. but now im having doubts. im thinking if hes a good man and you can trust him then why not.

one reason im skeptical is because i cant relocate and im afraid if i got into one and he cant relocate and i cant it'd hurt when it ends you know?

but even when it ends, if it ends, it doesn't take anything from what you had, what you gave, and what was given, all the love and the memories. who's to say that local relationship won't end and leave you just as hurt?

maybe the difference is age and life experience to date. i'm not interested in having any more children; i think that if i were, there'd be much more pressure on the relationship for us to be together permanently and physically.

i'm in a long distance relationship, and have been for over two years.

i'm in toronto, and he's in west texas. it isn't the easiest place to travel to (nor the prettiest, haha). neither is it cheap. we don't see each other nearly as much as we'd both like, but somehow we manage to do quite well.

neither of us live our lives with any expectations, and most certainly don't within the relationship. i don't know where we will be this time next year, next month or even next week. but i do know that for today i am in love with him, and he with me and i don't anticipate tomorrow being any different than today.

with neither one of us currently in a position to move, yet still very much in love with each other, we take what is given each day and enjoy it for what it is. i once said to him that all i wanted was a dance and that the rest - if any - would just be icing on the cake. well i'm still eating, haha. i would rather be with this man, and see him way too infrequently, than be with anyone else, and get to see them all the time.

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we did meet online, not on this site but a similar one. i don't believe that either one of us were actually looking for a relationship, especially one of the long distance kind (i know i certainly wasn't).

if he'd have written to me out of the blue and talked about getting together, etc., i doubt i would have said yes - it would have just seemed insurmountable i guess, and quite a bit bizarre to want to get involved with someone that far away.

we were both forum posters; almost from the day that i first began to post, was the day he made a re-appearance (from one of his many bans haha); if that doesn't sound like it was pre-destined, i don't know what does.

i noticed him almost right away, the wit, the humour, the grace and the intelligence. it didn't take me long to find something to write to him about and the rest, as they say, is history.

i don't think you get to pick with whom you fall in love. it all falls into place in the exact manner in which it was intended.

mines my parents. with my dad getting so old no one will take care of my mom if he gets hurt. he fell 3 yrs ago 16 feet down and shattered his leg. i had to take care of my parents then and i was 17. well hes back on his feeting working again but if anything ever happens she cant do anything. she cant hold a job outside the house and she cant drive. so if i go far away no one will be here to take care of either one of them. and i know so many will say dont give up your life for your parents. but i wouldnt feel the same way about myself if i didnt.

Yupp, another of the LDR pitfalls. It is alot to consider. For me, one reason I hesitate to relocate is because my youngest son (11) really should stay in our area till he is pretty much on his own. I am a single mom, so I appreciate the family we have around here that all put in the efforts to help raise him...

It can work, depends a lot on the people involved. I've lived in Louisiana most of my life except for the military and college, and have no problem taking my twangy southern accent to Maryland.

and i dont know if it can be said that its age because i mean a woman at any age could want the same things as me.

I would take of my parents also. I just figured if my step father passed away and my mother was left alone and couldn't care for herself I would bring her to live with me where ever I lived at the time. So we'll see about that when and if the time comes because I would definately take care of my mother. People don't live forever and I cherish what time I'll have to be with my mother, even if that means putting my life on hold to care for her.

So here is my ponderance;

How many people would be willing to initiate or accept initiation from a person that lives in a different state (or country) as yourself? And if you did, would you be willing to relocate?

Second;
If you met someone locally and were dating, then either you or they moved out of state indefinately, would you stay with them and wait till they came back or would you relocate with them if you could?

Very well said Lady paper.

So here is my ponderance;

How many people would be willing to initiate or accept initiation from a person that lives in a different state (or country) as yourself? And if you did, would you be willing to relocate?

Second;
If you met someone locally and were dating, then either you or they moved out of state indefinately, would you stay with them and wait till they came back or would you relocate with them if you could?

I see no reason for LD relationship. There are so many fish in the sea. What enjoyment could you possibly get from it

I see no reason for LD relationship. There are so many fish in the sea. What enjoyment could you possibly get from it