You have reached the point that you know you will leave your mate sooner
or later. YOU WILL LEAVE!! At what point in time will you leave? (1)
When you have finished paying your joint loan? (2) When U feel U have
enough funds to make it on your own? (3)U feel their brutality might
kill U one day, or you might kill them. A homicide is bound to take
place? (4) When you are afraid to have sex with them because you might
contract an STD from them again for the tenth time, and this time might
be herpes of aids? (5) When you are not having any love making at all,
not because your mate is terminally ill, but because you can't STAND
each other? (6) Whatever other reason you can remember. Please state?

when she be gettin too crazy...damn money or not...if i was ready
finacially to leave....id even live on da streetz till i get a
place...any where far away from crazy azz women!....my last one tried to
throw me in prison for 25 damn fawken yearz.....she did that cuz i
finally left her azz....i won the case...but lost everythin in return
for alwayz goin to court...and dealin wit lawyers....so it wuz bitter
sweet....stupid woman told me one time while we watchin a chick flick at
the theatre that i didnt wanna watch....she said while grippin mah hand
tight...that if i eva left her shed have me killed or thrown in
prison.....so that too i used against her in court...i told detectives
straight out...that yes i may be a man...but she scared da shiit outta
me....lolz...but oh well...life goes on huh?...and best of all.....IM
ALIVE!!!...........JAH+BLESSED me......

What about extreme povety. The kind that she had to go back to her
mother's who do not want U or U had to go to your parents who do not
want her, or one had to go abroad to work for years where that one finds
a relationship there?

i had to leave my ex when i was 2 months pregant coz i was at the point
where i was gonna wait for him to go asleep and smother the prick
bastard with a pillow LOL

If he cheats on me -- EVER. No second chances.

If he hits me -- EVER. No second chances.

If he, just in general, treats me like shi* -- EVER. No second chances.

when your tired of being miserable and relize your delaying what has to
happen

when you finally realize you don't have to settle that you can do
better. For you and kids if you have them.

Why would you stay with someone until it gets to the point to where you
are thinking of killing someone? You should not stay with someone IF you
are not IN love with them? OK you are not financially secure, so, a lot
of people have trouble making it...they still make it!! Money does not
make the person!
If you stick around just because they have money, what kind of person
are you really? I have always been financially independent, I guess I
have been lucky in that situation. Even if I didn't have any money, I
wouldn't stay with someone just for a place to live!
I guess I want self-respect, if love doesn't exist, then I don't want to
stick around!

each individual has to decide when enough is enough, however if you are
looking for the perfect time (all the bills are paid etc) it will never
happen.

don't LIE
don't Steal
Don't do drugs
don't hit
don't cheat

Period

"When do you decide its time to go?"

Simple. When the relationship goes from "maybe some hope Critical" into
"cardiac arrest call the coroner" its time to leave. Money, or not. When
you're not wanted, you're not welcome. Its time to leave.

Leave before he can say
"I'm sorry, honey. I'll never do it again. I promise"

Leave when he says
" I quit my job! Hell if you can stay home all day why can't I?"

I just went through this my self and am still in alot of pain because
of it . We have been having problems for months but trying to work
through it. We both needed to change to make the relationship work but
for one reason or another niether did. Finally it was getting to the
point where we felt so much resentment toward each other, it was getting
worse instead of better. Now, if I'd had more experience with love I'd
have known better and bailed long ago but this was the first time I been
in love and didn't. All I can do is remember to treat this as a learning
experience and become a better person for it.

I wonder?

You realize it when you look in the mirror and you have no idea who the
person is looking back at you.. When you have hit the bottom and can go
no further and you realize you have to make a decision.. TO make it or
break it.... Hopefully you will decide enough is enough and you want you
back and then you will never ever let anyone take that person away form
you again....

Sometimes thier is no real answer as to when to leave I spent 16 years
in an abusive marriage have had bones broken and have had his threats of
killing me and the kids, You come to a
point where you are talked down too and your self worth is gone taken by
his hands Time to leave comes from within to find the strentgh one day
to say enough is enough When you can not take one more day of this hell
you will learn to walk out that door
and not look back,

wondering

I left when I looked out the dining room window and realized summer had
turned to fall, and nothing had changed.

I'd just do it. It might suck, it will hurt, but if it's that bad you
will feel better about yourself because you did it for you.
that's my opinion. Don't live in hell if you have a choice.