If someone informs that your mate is cheating, would you (I) Believe it?
(2) Tell your mate immediately? (3) Tell them who told you? or would you
never tell them anything but use that info to monitor their conduct to
decide for yourself, with your own evidence, if they are sneaking around
with someone else? Or rather. WHAT WOULD YOU DO? HOW WOULD YOU HANDLE
IT?

I would definitely ask them first. I would not tell them who told me
or anything.If the tell me no, and this unknown person tells me again, I
would then ask for proof of it, and otherwise forget aboutit until
he/she gave me the proof.
If you cant trust your other half, who can you trust?

My closest non-family members were Jewish. I think I got the guilt
thing from them. My first reaction would be to wonder what I had or was
doing wrong. They I would try to correct it, and see if there were any
behavior changes. Then I might start a conversation about someone I
know who is dealing with infidelity. Try to scope out their feelings,
check their nerveousness with the conversation. And go from there.
Infidelity involves more than just the act, it involves a desire to want
to be away from a situation or to be with another person. There are far
too many people in this world who do not hold the bond between two
poeple in high regard and are far too willing to take part in the
infidelity of another. There is a lack of concern about "others" in
relationships. And there are those who lie to satisfy a desire right
now. This is why we need to communicate with words, about thoughts,
ideas, our lives before we take a step into a relationship.

i would keep mah mouth shut...for if she wasnt cheatin and i asked
her...its gon make her believe i never did trust her...and now she might
think im messin around....id wait n find out for mahself...and if it may
be the case that she was...id walk away keepin mah head strong....not
eva lookin back or feelin down...for it is only then she will believe
that she was the greatest thing to me if i eva showed her weakness...id
rather make someone else happy where it matters..."it doesnt matter how
many times we fall in life....what matterz iz the manytimez we get back
up"....it will be there loss in the end...your alwayz gon be known in
their heart..as the man who got away....

Well, nobody told me til it was over, great "friends" huh?
I never dreamed of it and never tried to catch her. Never really thought
she would do that to me after so many years together. Although during
the last few months of the relationship, I had that gut feeling and my
suspicions a couple times when she was out of pocket. But why go looking
for trouble. My Dad always told me, if you look for trouble, you will
find trouble!! It's true too!!! So I say if you have a gut feeling,
follow it!!

Humm well I just happen to have been in this same situation. Its sad
when your friends get drug into this and they did not want to see it
themselves. My best friends at the the time seen my ex with someone and
confronted him at the time they did not tell me at that time. Did not
want to get in the middle of it but ... when she finally did hell I
already had the gut feeling and ya I'm hard headed got to see it with my
own two eyes kinda makes it final ya know. Well my mission was to catch
him and see for myself. I did not accuse him of cheating but did ask him
and told him if he was to stop and lets try to fix what was wrong. So
with camcorder in tow I set off took me a few times came real close but
did not catch him. But everyone slips up they seem to get careless after
awhile since they have been getttin away with it they seem to feel as if
they cannot be caught. Hummmmm WRONG THOUGHT ! You will sooner or later
slip up and leave a trail. Hummm or someone will finally realize your
doing the other person so wrong and they have not done anything to
deserve the way you are treating them. Humm seems a little birdie gave
me a phone call and told me if I wanted to get and eye full right where
to go and what nite. Well I followed what my little birdie's
information. With my camcorder in tow I got what I needed to bring it to
a final chapter for me and to realize that I had to move on with my life
and raise my kids even if it meant alone at least I knew were my heart
was. Guess at times we don't want to admit that the one we love would do
that to us and the wake up call to reality is to see it with your own
two eye's and a camcorder to put it all on tape for proof if
needed.

I'd ask the divulger to provide for me some tangible evidence first
before I'd confront him.

Depends does this friend have it out for your realitionship? Are they
single and your not? Misery loves company after all. You have to
consider the info source before jumping all over your mate.

I knew my step dad was cheating on my mom i picked up on the signs right
away. there was no doubt in my mind he was i knew him to well and knew
he was up to something. I told my mom we are really close she didnt
believe me called me every name in the book etc etc. wouldnt talk to me
for 2 months than one nite i come home and she is sitting at the table
bawling he wasnt a divource i told my mom he is cheating on you. She
freaked out no no well she finally found out that yes he has been
cheating on her. she felt so bad for all the stuff she called me but i
would rather tell the person and them be mad at me. than know and not
tell them, coz if that was happenin to me i would want to know

Would U tell U enemy what U plans are?

I would demand real proof from the one making the allegations. Always
keep your friends close and your enemys closer.

I would ask for proof then call Cheaters.

it is hard because some people just like to stir the pot or like drama.
i trust people until them prove me wrong. i believe everything surfaces
to the top eventually- lies, cheating will all come out in the end. i
would probably look the truth, but not sure i would ask my spouse
because that might hurt his feelings.

Well in my case my father caught him and told me.

I asked my X if he was...he said yes and that he would stop.
I waited and watch and found out he didn't then packed up his bags and
told him to go stay with her then.

They have been together for 8 years now. We had been together for 10 so
time is getting close to she her get what I got.