Ladies,
Can a guy be too much of a gentleman? At some point, are manners and
respect just corny, or a turnoff?

No they can not I think its sweet not corny.

depends if you want laid or not!

J/K

I think it's all in how comfortable you are around somebody..

i agree with firefrog..i love a gentleman..cant seem to find many of
them...

Myself I don't think manners and respect or being a gentleman can go too
far.When a man is too clingy or right under foot that can get old. That
is if they try to do too much. Opening doors or just doing things cause
you want too is good not because you feel like you must. Just like one
that can just be himself. I don't expect a man to open the door for me
everytime. Myself have opened a few doors for guys myself. What is good
for one to do the other one also likes in return.

there is nothing wrong with manners and respect. I just think alot of
people don't know what to make of it when they have it simply because
there are so many out there that do not treat other people with courtesy
and respect..I also have been known to open a door for a guy.. they are
always floored when I do. Or my personal favorite. To see the look on
their face when ya hand them flowers.. awesome.

Yea it goes both ways. I was raised old school. So I Show men the
respect they deserve, I wait on them.Even if I'm in somebody elses
house, I do. i don't see anything corny about it. Yea I agree with
Txs. if their all under foot its not kewl.

Hummm yeah was raised to show the respect that others shows you there is
nothing in this world that a man or woman does for the other that can
not be returned in the same manner by the other. It's all about respect.
Just like I was not raised that a man is to pay for dinner everytime
shssssssssssh show the favor back and see that life goes both ways. NO
one is better than the other.

Yes, he can be "too much" of a gentleman if his compliments or gestures
are insincere or if there are underlying ulterior motives.

I get cr*p for this all the time.
I tend to roll out the red carpet for the one I'm with. It's just the
way I was raised.
In my case, being too much of a gentleman turns women off. I hear all
the time that women would like too find a nice guy, but the case seems
to be that they always end up going for the bad boys.
I talked with a friend about this subject recently and according to
her, she said women get scared off by too much courtesy and too much
respect. Especially the women who are used to bad boys.
For some that might be true. At the same time, I understand this is
not the case with ALL women.
There are some ladies out there who could really appreciate a guy who
would bring her breakfast in bed and who will cook and clean instead of
sitting around watching football all day.
Hell, I still find myself doing favors for my ex when I should really
be telling her take a hike.
I commend all of the women here who appreciate nice guys and long to
find someone who has those old-fashioned ways about them.

Manners and respect are rare qualities anymore...
Isn't treating people the way you want to be treated the golden rule?

Manners and respect will get you alot further with me than anything else
will, also don't be so wishy washy wimpy..you can still be a man and
have respect and manners..the wishy washy stuff creeps me out..basically
be manly ,mannerful and respectful

Sorry Sadie, I always thought the golden rule was to say Please ;-)

Lol just teasing. I agree with you totally. treat a person the way you
expect to be treated. Both ways. not just one.
And do not get upset or offended if your date does just that. If you
feel insulted, stop and think about what you have done and see if they
are just acting like you did.

a real gent knows when and where to say or do things that arent
appropiate and depends on how well he knows the gal too.. never grope me
at the bar!!! but hey once in a while <long as there is other touch
too> ok when no one around or at home is ok ya know?


talk to me dirty in the bedroom but for gawd sakes dont do it in front
of my ma!

It comes down to this. A woman wants to know that your behavior of
manners and respect is out of self-restraint, not as part of your
package plan of seduction.

By that I mean, you are expected to show self-confidence, direction,
focus, and use polite gentlemannly manners in that presentation.

But, if your relying on polite manners when you're lacking confidence,
it comes across as you're just trying to be polite enough to get laid.

Its the self-confidence part thats the hardest. When you aint got it,
fake it until it comes along. Just dont fake sincerity.

never!

I haven't read any responses, but just want to say that being a
gentleman that exudes the chivalry is ALWAYS appreciated

You will find your woman!!

I appreciate the kind words and insight. I'm a gentleman and not a mushy
up your arse kind of guy. Just a straight up gentleman. I don't know if
it's my size that intimidates ladies or if they think I'm fronting in
some way. Maybe they think that if you act like a gentleman these days,
You're hiding something, or you're a phony. My point is that it isn't
getting me anywhere and it's against my nature to act any differently.

Help me out here girls.

P.S.
I don't have a problem with self confidence either.

BG, it's really hard to describe..there's just a fine line between being
"geniune" and being "fake" when it comes to being a gentleman...and the
guy may not even be trying to be "fake;" oftentimes he just comes across
that way. I guess it could be best described as "overkill."

I appreciate a man being a gentleman VERY much, but when it gets to the
point of being nauseating...that's where it's a huge turnoff.