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Topic: WOW! somone was brave..
TheShadow Joined Sun 08/13/06 Posts: 14218	Tue 09/09/08 07:05 PM
Enough to actually email me with out me having to send the first email Why is is so hard for most women to just say hi.... There are only a feww on this site that actually have no problem doing so. Just my opinion. It shows a lack of personality and that can be boring.... I stalk them until they email me telling me I better stop I believe you too

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Tue 09/09/08 07:06 PM
Love is in the air

lifestooshort6 Joined Mon 12/31/07 Posts: 6667	Tue 09/09/08 07:06 PM
I sent the first email to my boyfriend, I don't have a problem with that at all. By the way, he's very happy I did!

TheShadow Joined Sun 08/13/06 Posts: 14218	Tue 09/09/08 07:08 PM
Congrats. But I don't think it shows lack of personality or that the person is boring. I don't contact any guys first because 1) I don't want to look stupid in case they are not interested in me and 2) I am kind of old fashioned in thinking that the guy should contact me first. That's JMO..... Hey! somone that actually read what I said It don't but it goes to show at times how many people pay attentaion to what somone said. It could be many reasons why. it's just everyone is different and i guess if your a woman. your taking more of a chance then alot of the men on here. Who says we didn't read what you said? Where did you get that from our responses babe? And I do agree that I usually don't write a guy first because I date younger and some guys don't date older so I wait for them to contact me first Do i really have to answer your question I know some of you do and when it comes down to you fade. You don't miss much

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Tue 09/09/08 07:08 PM
Well, like a few other ladies have said I email someone if I find them interesting, if I don't I don't. If they email me and I don't find them interesting I don't return the email. If I do I do. I don't think this is brain surgery. I do think women are more discerning than men though hence the lack of emails for the guys. I'm a people watcher, I like to see what people are like before I email them.... I'm usually right about them.

TheShadow Joined Sun 08/13/06 Posts: 14218	Tue 09/09/08 07:09 PM
I sent the first email to my boyfriend, I don't have a problem with that at all. By the way, he's very happy I did! Hm, he better be

TheShadow Joined Sun 08/13/06 Posts: 14218	Tue 09/09/08 07:10 PM
Well, like a few other ladies have said I email someone if I find them interesting, if I don't I don't. If they email me and I don't find them interesting I don't return the email. If I do I do. I don't think this is brain surgery. I do think women are more discerning than men though hence the lack of emails for the guys. I'm a people watcher, I like to see what people are like before I email them.... I'm usually right about them. This is the net. We usually right about most

cats219 Joined Wed 08/01/07 Posts: 2663	Tue 09/09/08 07:13 PM
Enough to actually email me with out me having to send the first email Why is is so hard for most women to just say hi.... There are only a feww on this site that actually have no problem doing so. Just my opinion. It shows a lack of personality and that can be boring.... Meh .. If I am looking & find someone I actually find interesting, I'll email. If not, I don't. Me too, but most of the time I don't get an answer back.

Fade2Black Joined Mon 10/08/07 Posts: 50752	Tue 09/09/08 07:13 PM
Congrats. But I don't think it shows lack of personality or that the person is boring. I don't contact any guys first because 1) I don't want to look stupid in case they are not interested in me and 2) I am kind of old fashioned in thinking that the guy should contact me first. That's JMO..... Hey! somone that actually read what I said It don't but it goes to show at times how many people pay attentaion to what somone said. It could be many reasons why. it's just everyone is different and i guess if your a woman. your taking more of a chance then alot of the men on here. Who says we didn't read what you said? Where did you get that from our responses babe? And I do agree that I usually don't write a guy first because I date younger and some guys don't date older so I wait for them to contact me first Do i really have to answer your question I know some of you do and when it comes down to you fade. You don't miss much Exactly. LOL That's why I picked up on you thinkin we didn't .. ha ha (((( shadow ))))

TheShadow Joined Sun 08/13/06 Posts: 14218	Tue 09/09/08 07:14 PM
Congrats. But I don't think it shows lack of personality or that the person is boring. I don't contact any guys first because 1) I don't want to look stupid in case they are not interested in me and 2) I am kind of old fashioned in thinking that the guy should contact me first. That's JMO..... Hey! somone that actually read what I said It don't but it goes to show at times how many people pay attentaion to what somone said. It could be many reasons why. it's just everyone is different and i guess if your a woman. your taking more of a chance then alot of the men on here. Who says we didn't read what you said? Where did you get that from our responses babe? And I do agree that I usually don't write a guy first because I date younger and some guys don't date older so I wait for them to contact me first Do i really have to answer your question I know some of you do and when it comes down to you fade. You don't miss much Exactly. LOL That's why I picked up on you thinkin we didn't .. ha ha (((( shadow )))) LMAO. WOMEN! i tell ya

johncarl Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 5074	Tue 09/09/08 07:15 PM
Enough to actually email me with out me having to send the first email Why is is so hard for most women to just say hi.... There are only a feww on this site that actually have no problem doing so. Just my opinion. It shows a lack of personality and that can be boring.... yea they look at your file or do the match thing and they never email.they can try to be a friend and then see what happens.

flame1cutie Joined Thu 04/24/08 Posts: 7307	Tue 09/09/08 07:27 PM
Enough to actually email me with out me having to send the first email Why is is so hard for most women to just say hi.... There are only a feww on this site that actually have no problem doing so. Just my opinion. It shows a lack of personality and that can be boring.... I mailed first, glad I did.

steph_elisa Joined Sun 09/07/08 Posts: 7	Tue 09/09/08 07:42 PM
I'm new here. I e-mailed the first two guys that I found interesting. All the while I'm wondering, why don't they e-mail first? These two guys stood out. Well, I know that they read the messages and they didn't reply. I myself am (was) the kind of person who would reply, and if I'm not interested, I would let them know. This thing isn't working for me, and I'm not even sure I will stay here through the week. I'm really not fishing for e-mails or sympathy, it's just how I feel.

TheShadow Joined Sun 08/13/06 Posts: 14218	Tue 09/09/08 07:50 PM
I'm new here. I e-mailed the first two guys that I found interesting. All the while I'm wondering, why don't they e-mail first? These two guys stood out. Well, I know that they read the messages and they didn't reply. I myself am (was) the kind of person who would reply, and if I'm not interested, I would let them know. This thing isn't working for me, and I'm not even sure I will stay here through the week. I'm really not fishing for e-mails or sympathy, it's just how I feel. Well first of all welcome. Just my opinion and i'm sure many others. Your new and i would give it time and besides that. You could make some really good friends on here if that is kinda what your interested on here too. one thing i have learned out of life. nuthing comes easy that worth working for. So stick around and give it a little time. You never know what might happen...

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Tue 09/09/08 07:59 PM
Enough to actually email me with out me having to send the first email Why is is so hard for most women to just say hi.... There are only a feww on this site that actually have no problem doing so. Just my opinion. It shows a lack of personality and that can be boring.... Shadow -- you know what I find kind of funny? When I first signed up here, I sent out some e-mails and NEVER got a reply. Now, after 11,000 posts and a year and a half on the site, I get all kinds of e-mails from women, total strangers, almost always people who have NEVER posted in the forums but who read one of my posts or my profile. And they either want to congratulate me for being so honest and long-winded (after all, my profile is over 1500 pages long) or they want to argue with me about my relationship deal-breakers. And they are ALWAYS 897,000 miles away. Thank God, Mr. Scott, the shields are holding....

flame1cutie Joined Thu 04/24/08 Posts: 7307	Tue 09/09/08 08:02 PM
I'm new here. I e-mailed the first two guys that I found interesting. All the while I'm wondering, why don't they e-mail first? These two guys stood out. Well, I know that they read the messages and they didn't reply. I myself am (was) the kind of person who would reply, and if I'm not interested, I would let them know. This thing isn't working for me, and I'm not even sure I will stay here through the week. I'm really not fishing for e-mails or sympathy, it's just how I feel. Welcome, stick around and talk to some of the people, they really are nice on here, give them time to know you, make some friends and go from there, you never know what will happen.

TheShadow Joined Sun 08/13/06 Posts: 14218	Tue 09/09/08 08:20 PM
Enough to actually email me with out me having to send the first email Why is is so hard for most women to just say hi.... There are only a feww on this site that actually have no problem doing so. Just my opinion. It shows a lack of personality and that can be boring.... Shadow -- you know what I find kind of funny? When I first signed up here, I sent out some e-mails and NEVER got a reply. Now, after 11,000 posts and a year and a half on the site, I get all kinds of e-mails from women, total strangers, almost always people who have NEVER posted in the forums but who read one of my posts or my profile. And they either want to congratulate me for being so honest and long-winded (after all, my profile is over 1500 pages long) or they want to argue with me about my relationship deal-breakers. And they are ALWAYS 897,000 miles away. Thank God, Mr. Scott, the shields are holding.... I do get emails. Hell if i didn't after two your of being on here. I would think there is somethng wrong with me lol. I'm sure this happens to most, but once in a while it will be like no one will email me and then the next week they just don't stop coming in. Since i changed my headline is when i was wondering how many would reply to it or shell we say, make the fist move. It happen tonight though and knowing the person has a good sence of humor. I made another friend.

AngieH79 Joined Sun 09/07/08 Posts: 2494	Tue 09/09/08 10:44 PM
I haven't had much luck making the first move lately, so for self-esteem purposes I'm hanging back a little bit.

popcornncoke Joined Fri 11/02/07 Posts: 2088	Tue 09/09/08 10:53 PM
Congrats. But I don't think it shows lack of personality or that the person is boring. I don't contact any guys first because 1) I don't want to look stupid in case they are not interested in me and 2) I am kind of old fashioned in thinking that the guy should contact me first. That's JMO..... I AGREE..

IndnPrncs Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 58420	Wed 09/10/08 12:45 AM
Enough to actually email me with out me having to send the first email Why is is so hard for most women to just say hi.... There are only a feww on this site that actually have no problem doing so. Just my opinion. It shows a lack of personality and that can be boring.... I don't look for people to email but if in a thread I find a reason to email someone from that thread I do... I forget this is a dating site b/c I've made so many friends...