Hi everyone. Im kinda in need of some advice. Most of yall know how very
ill I am. And yall know that I have found my guy on JHS and we are
engaged. I just have a fear that once we marry and he deals with my
illness he will grow unhappy and want to leave. He says that will never
happy but Ive had boyfriends in the past who said the same thing and
then end up breaking up with me because of it.
I love him and I trust him, I just am scared. What would yall do in my
position?

I ment to put he said that will never happen

I say to trust him and go with your heart and get that out of your mind
like right now lol

Go for it, Steph!

Go for it, Steph!

He said the same thing. He said that it wont happen because he knows how
sick I am but that wont stop him from loving me.

Hi Tx Gal, haven't met up with you for awhile. How 'ya been?

If you honestly love and TRUST they guy hun, then there should be no
doubts. you have to do what you think is right in the end. I know that
can be a very hard thing to do sometimes, but it is all you can do.
Good luck ;-)

the most important thing with you having an illness is your quality of
life. make suere you are happy. if he makes you happy, and he says it
wont be a problem, he must be a very caring individual to want to help
you.

Kristi he really is. And I love him for it.

it takes a wonderful person to open their heart to someone that is ill.
and if he understands what may happen, and hes willing, then you should
both be happy:)

5 minutes of happiness is better than an hour of misery. Take him at
his word, and see what happens. If things don't go well, remember all
the good that came from it. Nothing except the Sun, Moon and Stars last
forever.

Do whatever you have to do so that you can be happy now.

Love is a mysterious thing sometimes. To deny it out of fear for
whatever reason, is to deny what could be the most meaningful
relationship of a lifetime. You know, being sick does not make you
unloveable or worthy of truely wonderful person to be loved by. You
need to consider another view point too, what if he's not here next
month or year, what if you are meant to give him the best love of his
life. You may be here for each other and there's no guarantee who will
leave first or why. Just be happy for what it is now and hold on to it.
Lucky you!

Well stated, Red

You gotta give it a try!! you will always wonder if you don't! you never
know he may really be THE ONE. Good luck and best wishes to you dear.

Thank you all for your wonderful advice and I talked to him and he
calmed some of my fears.

Just to be different, here's my opinion:

So lets say you are correct, and that eventually he leaves you. When
will that be? A year? Two? Three? ...Thirty? You will feel SO miserable,
and made worse by the fact that you "knew it would come someday".

What will you have done with your life between now and then? Would you
have been happy? Would your life be fullfilled during that time?

If you turn him away now, you will have garunteed heart-ache for
yourself, and for him. You will have absolutely foreclosed on any
happiness, and be miserable. In other words, if you turn him away now,
you are being cruel to you AND him.

Let fate be the cruel one.

very well said Mike

Go for it Steph, you deserve to be happy and you are a great person and
from what you have told me about him he is a great guy. Go for the gold
and enjoy yourselves. What Red said is right, we don't know what is
waiting around the corner for us, take whatever happiness comes your way
and enjoy it.

Take care my friend.

Never live your life in fear. What is meant to happen always will. You
have to enjoy every moment you get!