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papersmile Joined Fri 10/12/07 Posts: 5148	Sun 09/07/08 05:05 AM
messaging women and then not getting anything back... i sometimes wonder if it's me or... you would think that people are on here to find someone but i guess not. not everyone is on here to find someone

gammalight6000 Joined Sun 12/23/07 Posts: 5403	Sun 09/07/08 05:11 AM
messaging women and then not getting anything back... i sometimes wonder if it's me or... you would think that people are on here to find someone but i guess not. I've messaged guys on here and other sites and not gotten a reply, it's no big deal. You're not going to be everyone's type; whether they say they're looking for someone or not, most people have a preference in some way. If you want to message them, go ahead, but you have to be prepared for rejection. Good luck. no, i agree with you here very much. i guess i expect heloo back or a go f**k yourself or something... i always try and reply

gammalight6000 Joined Sun 12/23/07 Posts: 5403	Sun 09/07/08 05:12 AM
messaging women and then not getting anything back... i sometimes wonder if it's me or... you would think that people are on here to find someone but i guess not. not everyone is on here to find someone you are the exception

papersmile Joined Fri 10/12/07 Posts: 5148	Sun 09/07/08 05:21 AM
Everyone gets a reply, even if only to say not interested. i used to think that way; i felt it was rude of me NOT to reply, so i always tried to send of a response. however, when it's fairly obvious that the person had not bothered to even read the profile, and writes anyway, paying no attention to anything that you've specified, who is the rude one? i don't reply to: - any one-liners, such as 'wassup' 'ur sexy' - anything remotely sexual - anybody who calls me something other than 'papersmile' such as 'honey', 'precious', 'babe' etc. - anything that looks even remotely like a form letter - any chat requests from people i don't know - any friends' requests from people i don't know - anything that i can't understand what they are trying to say because of horrible grammar and spelling i know it sounds mean, but most of this stuff is on my profile and if they haven't bothered to read that, it only indicates to me that they are just not interested in what i have to say. that only solidifies that they'd offer me nothing in the way of even a friend

jnbuglady Joined Sat 04/05/08 Posts: 865	Sun 09/07/08 07:26 AM
messaging women and then not getting anything back... i sometimes wonder if it's me or... you would think that people are on here to find someone but i guess not. not everyone is on here to find someone I agree, I am here to make friends and I tell everyone that, so it would be nice to have a hi I will be friends or no bug off, ya know.

Kriswithak Joined Tue 06/17/08 Posts: 28	Sun 09/07/08 08:48 AM
I don't reply for the same reasons papersmile listed. A guy has to earn the right to call me baby, sugar, sexy mama ... I don't get an answer for at least 1/2 of my e-mails either. I do wish that this site had a listing on a persons page showing when they were last active. No point in e-mailing a person who hasn't been here for weeks or months.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 09/07/08 09:07 AM
What kind of emails are you sending? Are you just saying hi? Or actually looking at their profiles and bringing up something that might interest them from there?

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Sun 09/07/08 09:10 AM
Everyone gets a reply, even if only to say not interested. i used to think that way; i felt it was rude of me NOT to reply, so i always tried to send of a response. however, when it's fairly obvious that the person had not bothered to even read the profile, and writes anyway, paying no attention to anything that you've specified, who is the rude one? i don't reply to: - any one-liners, such as 'wassup' 'ur sexy' - anything remotely sexual - anybody who calls me something other than 'papersmile' such as 'honey', 'precious', 'babe' etc. - anything that looks even remotely like a form letter - any chat requests from people i don't know - any friends' requests from people i don't know - anything that i can't understand what they are trying to say because of horrible grammar and spelling i know it sounds mean, but most of this stuff is on my profile and if they haven't bothered to read that, it only indicates to me that they are just not interested in what i have to say. that only solidifies that they'd offer me nothing in the way of even a friend what about your hot

noblenan Joined Sat 10/06/07 Posts: 935	Sun 09/07/08 01:03 PM
I don't reply to everyone that views my profile. People view profiles for a lot of different reasons. But, I respond to emails as long as I don't think it's a scammer. Some people just don't want to bother with responding to someone they're not interested in. That's your response, in my opinion. true but they never will know unless they try... I think the issue of not knowing when someone last logged on is a problem, too. Maybe, some of the people you have emailed, no longer use the site. If someone emails me, I reply. I don't reply to everyone who looks for many reasons, ie., they live a bizzillion miles away, they're a little bit country when I'm a little bit rock and roll, they were just curious about the look behind the pic or something I said on the forums, etc... Keep trying. Your an impressive fellow all the way around. Good luck!

Riding_Dubz Joined Wed 05/21/08 Posts: 22110	Sun 09/07/08 01:05 PM
this is what they tell me, Hey if you see unread deleted don't be disappointed, some users (.01%) get 100 new emails a day if they have a great picture up. People like that don't have time to read your message even if they wanted to. Check out your entire contact history

heathersaysgobucks Joined Sun 01/06/08 Posts: 5306	Sun 09/07/08 01:06 PM
Its rude not to send some reply. Everyone that looks at me, I send a note to, some have manners some do not!! Oh! Is that how it's done? Yikes, I didn't know this. We need a book explaining the protocol. I usually just wait for someone to message me if they have looked at my profile. I fear I may not know all the rules around here. Good Luck and Keep Trying!!

Riding_Dubz Joined Wed 05/21/08 Posts: 22110	Sun 09/07/08 01:07 PM
i'll take internet dating for 500$ alex

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Sun 09/07/08 02:39 PM
messaging women and then not getting anything back... i sometimes wonder if it's me or... you would think that people are on here to find someone but i guess not. not everyone is on here to find someone you are the exception I'm not here to find anyone either. I'm here for friends. I don't date off the internet anymore. :)

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Sun 09/07/08 02:41 PM
messaging women and then not getting anything back... i sometimes wonder if it's me or... you would think that people are on here to find someone but i guess not. I've messaged guys on here and other sites and not gotten a reply, it's no big deal. You're not going to be everyone's type; whether they say they're looking for someone or not, most people have a preference in some way. If you want to message them, go ahead, but you have to be prepared for rejection. Good luck. no, i agree with you here very much. i guess i expect heloo back or a go f**k yourself or something... i always try and reply Well, I used to do that too, reply out of politeness or whatever. However, with some people, it makes them think you're interested in them. And then you tell them you're not interested and they're offended, as if you led them on. So maybe it's easier for non-confrontational people to just ignore unwanted mails altogether. Less drama that way, you know?