My 18 year old niece is el prego. It seems she is about to leave her boyfriend and come live with me. The last time she was pregnant with this guy's child the advice given to her by him and family was abort, and she did. This time I'm telling her to ask what he wants her to do. If he advises abort I told her to tell him that he's not the father of the child. This will give me closure that he wants nothing to do with the baby, and I will help my niece through the pregnancy etc.

Hmmmm. Not sage advice. Lying is never good when it involves the paternity of a child. It is HER decision, and his. Whether you like it or not.

Just support her.

seems a flippant attitude to ending lives

you are a great guy to do that for her

Never an easy situation to be faced with. A time of reflection before commiting to action would be wise.

if hes not intrested in the baby and she wants it
do what she needs to do, my babys father stopped talking to me after his dog bit my neighbors 14 month old, my choice is tell my son hes father doesnt know about him or he chose a dog over him.

which do you think iam gonna tell him

Any parent that would rather have their child dead isn't a parent of the child as far as I'm concerned. I'm obviously pro-life.

abortions arent easy and sometimes there are necassary even if you dont like it

i went with my best friend to have an abortion, at the time i despertally wanted a child it was hard but she couldnt have carried the child to full term

i didnt do it

It's nice to see your ethics allow you to be anti-choice, but ethically speaking lying to a parent about their child is not right. Do you remember being 18? I do, at 18 you say and do alot of stupid things, and lying is only compounding the issue.

i'm walking away------->>>>>>>

So nice of you to be there for her

Being that she's been in this situation before it's too bad she didn't learn the first time and use protection! Good luck!

what a difficult situation for you and your family. But, I hope she does what feels right for her as she is the one who will have to live with the outcome.

Scarey siruation ....she has aborted before. What is he stance on being a parent?Does she want this? She's the one to make the decision now...

I don't really see it as any of your concern. I mean you shouldn't really be telling her what to do. It is her decision. She is old enough to make those decisions. As for not being a parent if one chooses to abort. I guess you have never known anyone who has been raped and ended up getting pregnant from it. If you did, perhaps you would be a little more empathetic.

I can't help but notice the part where you said "this will help bring me closure". Are you feeling guilty that she was advised to abort the first one and now feel that if you help her with this one, it will make amends for happened in the past? If that is the case, (and if I'm wrong, please correct me) I think that is pretty selfish of you to coerce her into keeping the child, especially if she really doesn't want to, just so it can make you feel better.

I'll admit that I myself am against abortion. But what other people do in their lives is their decision and none of my business and I would never impose my belief on someone else just to ease my conscience.

I think you are being a grea uncle for helping her out. Babies are just precious I cant wait to have a family of my own. So yeah your a great uncle for being there for her.

Simply tell the "possible" father that he isn't the father won't solve the problem. He could still ask for a paternity test.

Best thing...support her. Let her make the decision with the realization that her decision may not agree with your position.