Actually I've heard that sleeping with a girl triggers chemicals in the brain that makes them very prone to attachment.

I'm also going to have to disagree with the whole generalized signal thing. Everyone is different, the psychology between two people is never the same, and so forth.

Aaaaaa, ok.

OUCH! Such harsh words!!

3 no's and 2 good responses - it's getting better!!

i like the way this lady thinks

Personally i think it's torture being left wanting more...

all i think think of is ow

Yes, for a woman with a weak mind it does trigger attachment, let's hope she's not a woman with a weak mind.

I will say with 99% certainty that those are the signs.... It's called interpersonal communication 80% of communication is non verbal, there are also reactions in the dialation of the pupils, tones in the voice, and breathing patterns...but we'd be here all day assessing those and he has a date tonight.... so I only covered the basics.

Exactly..... If you like her and want to see her again, and she feels that "torture" you will see her again... If you don't like her... well, get it while the getting is good.... THAT IS IF SHE IS WILLING.... (but of course you know that)

LOL - i do like your advise though - thanks!

The psychological situation is never so straight forward. You seem to want to say things as if they're set in stone. A lot of times there is complete uncertainty and the body acts accordingly, and so then there's a little thing called mixed signals. How they react is not always what they are really wanting. What you're saying is rather dangerous, even for those that are experts at body language. So again, it's simple hit and miss.

Chemical reactions can be very strong, especially following something like sex. I wouldn't say that they would have a weak mind in the least bit if they felt any feelings of attachment.

yeah that was evil

If you cannot control what your mind thinks and feels then it's weak...

I don't know who you are, but you sure like to argue with me alot.... and although at times you have some good points, you are way off base on most cases.

I am empathic, I am VERY intuned to human nature, interpersonal communication, and the general goings on of people...

Let's look at it from another point of view, lets say she makes no physical contact would it still be ok for him to go in for a kiss? NO it wouldn't be ok. It's about reading body language, does she cross her legs twords or away from him while they are sitting together? does she blink slowly or quickly? when she talks does she cover her face? does she touch her lips? Is she looking at his eyes or his mouth when he talks?

Yes there are a million variables to reading someone's body language, but again, he's going on a date TONIGHT....

There's also a little thing called emotion that can very strongly influence the ability to control one's thoughts. Very often do we let things influence the way we think. That does not mean that we have a weak mind in the least bit. We also have a lot of involuntary actions and a subconscious mind. If you are comparing people to say a martial arts expert or musician with great mind control, that's a very practiced discipline. However, few practice such discipline and it's quite normal to be what you would call weak.

"Let's look at it from another point of view, lets say she makes no physical contact would it still be ok for him to go in for a kiss? NO it wouldn't be ok."

I can't imagine a person saying this. It might very well be ok for him to go in. What if she is simply shy? Are you saying that a man must never make the first move?

I'm simply saying that this is hit or miss, and you seem to think as though there's an exact science to it. You can read what is blatant, mostly, but all the rest is entirely up in the air--period.

Human nature is a science have you ever read a book on it?

There are basic characteristics, sub charateristics, dominant traits and recessive traits, there is mental stability and unstability, and all of them have patterns and if you look closely into a person you will see them.... I've only been wrong about people once, and he was a sociopath...so all bets are off when dealing with one...

I said exact science. Science is simply the study of something--could be anything.

Again, it's very dangerous to make assumptions and follow only what YOU are perceiving at the time. You can look all you want for signs and signals...doesn't mean a thing as far as I'm concerned.

I think the best advice would be to ask what the feelings are and have that verbal communication. Also, to allow time for them to think things over to make sure that they are sure of what they are really wanting.

I like that answer..............

DING DING DING!!!!


and in this corner......

That's awesome advise.... and it can all be done non verbally as well....

It entirely depends. If the guy likes having his balls pounded flat with a wooden mallet... then I'm all for him attempting to get frisky on the first date.