me and my friends are at the club last night, where walking out shortly before close, and i here a woman screaming, i ran over near my car, and i saw this guy beating this girl in a car, he had her pinned so she couldn't get out, SO i ran over speared this guy, took him to the ground, she got out ran, guy ended up gettin up, runnin his mouth was like was non of your bussiness, i was like ya whatever don't hit women wanna hit someone hit me, he got in his car drove away,


So i got a friend request on my space today and i noticed it was the girl, from last night, and it said hey wanna thank you for what you did, i respect you, me and my boyfriend, where just having a fight, But where all better now,

So generally what im asking here,

Why would you stay in a realtionship like that yea i know i don't know the story or sitatuion,but what goes threw some peoples heads ?!

makes no sense to me either, I am one of those people that thinks, one hit and it's done. no second chances.

Lack of self-respect is about the #1 reason why people stay in abusive relationships.

Bottom line.....

If you know you don't deserve it...you won't allow it.

The truth........suck's. MYOB. You're allway's better off.

Tell me what keeps her by his side
When she's treated just like dirt
The fear of the dark unknown
Appears to be much worse than the hurt
So she stays up nights and dreams
Of a knight in shining armour
Who will rescue her one day
While time keeps going against her

-Sammy Hagar

i've known girls that seem to thrive on that sorta thing and i don't get it either. i dated a gal for a short time that wanted me to punch & choke her during sex. naturally i refused...well, the punching part anyway

some women .... think they can change their man ???????? but if he hit's her and he will never change ! you done the right thing , but for her she well stay until he hurt's her so bad she cant do any thing or worse !

One day........one of them Will wake up.

statistics show that a womans chances of being killed increase when she attempts to leave a domestically violent situation...

and here is something I just want to point out...why do we always ask "why doesnt she leave", instead of asking "why does he always hit her"?...lets put the blame where it belongs, on the offender, NOT the victim...

by the way..OP, you did a good thing getting involved....

True! My gf's husband hit her so hard the he crushed her face. Three plastic surgeon's could not believe what he did with one blow.

You really did a good thing.

Alot of women somehow uncounsciously actually believe they deserve it...the beating. They don't seem to realize that it just escalates. They need help from counseling. Sometimes the beating partner acts so contrite after...flowers, tears...the dopes just take them back. Usually there is a family history of violence.

You might have saved her life.

Thank God your own value system is good!

He doesn't stop because he has the control and no repercussions. He has no motivation to stop. As sad as it is, it's simply up to her to leave.

I myslef was in an abusive marriage. I think the reason I stayed in so long he actually made me believe I was ugly, I heard it every day how nasty and ugly and stupid I was so he made me believe that he was the best I would ever get. The f-ked up thing about it was after beating me he never said sorry..that was his way of "diciendome las cosas, como me debo de portatrme" basically disciplining me, because aparently thats the only way I learned. Luckily though after one bad night I got smart and left. S

I dont understand it either, if its a man or a woman doing the abusing it is uncalled for. I was in a very mentally abusive marriage and it only lasted a year and I got rid of him. I am way better off, I will never do that again.

i like when women beat me