Lets say your kids were aged 10 and 12 years old. You met someone and they want you to move 1500 miles away to continue your relationship. Until now, everything has shown you this person is "the one". The kids don't want to move because of friends and school.

Would you move?
If you were not willing to move, do you think your decision affect your long distance relationship?

have the person who doesn't have kids do the moving .. that's unfair to uproot the kids unless they are all for it

No.

I'd move to them, wouldn't expect someone with kids to move too me.

I dont want to have a relationship with a woman that puts her boyfriend above her kids. I expect a mother to put her children first.

No I wouldn't move anywhere that would jeopardize my time with my children.

I'm with the others - I'm not gonna uproot my kiddo for a man. The right man won't ask me to.

that's what makes the most sense to me.

most parents have custody agreements in place anyway and are prohibited from moving outside a specified distance.

No, I wouldn't move. My children come first. JMO

This is true.. mine stated that if I were to move out of state I would have to get permission from the courts.

No

My child is 10 years old as a matter of fact. And I wouldn't move not only because of uprooting her from her friends and school, but also because all of her family is here. I would never take her away from her family and I would expect the "one" to completely understand that.

If the other individual doesn't have children, then it would be a more ideal situtation for them to move.

I have a different situation where my son is younger, I plan on relocating for graduation school. I will not stay in michigan after I graduate in may. So I personally am willing to relocate, however if my son was older, I would probably not be so flexible.

Nope, in my divorce my Ex and I both decided not to up root the kids. So the kids lived with me when she decided to move in with her BF

I was willing to do that but I was going to school for two more years. She didn't want to maintain a LDR for that long. It's been some time but as far as I know she has been dating locals only. I found someone else and I hope she has too. This thread is due to another thread where you and others stated children don't affect LDR. They do.

Edit: I should also say it is funny how things turn out as I am happier than ever before. Never give up.

If you are in an LDR, ask your kids how they feel about moving. Don't guess.

That's a lot of ifs, and I would have to know a whole lot more. Kinda general for me to really respond well.

i've tried moving....the kids keep finding me

MirrorMirror you said it what kind of woman choses over a man that can be replaced over your own flesh and blood?

there was a time when my son was younger, like 2 or 3 that I concidered moving for a relationship...things didnt work out so I didnt move. My son is 5 now, and loves his school and his friends. IF the right man came into my life, He would have to relocate to me, cuz there is NO WAY I would take my son away from everything he's known all his life.

My son and I have moved before we would like to live somewhere else