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well that's good to hear. not really sure how the right guy is going to fit into my life.
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to ljnsn.
you wrote this "It's just hard but you have to be picky. Men our age, if they're good men, are either married or widowed. If widowed, they tend to get into another relationship fast. So the pickins' are slim. It seems to me the men out there are looking for Barbie even though they're sitting around with a beer belly and a balding head. It's a freak show out there but you still have to have hope!" and you are here looking for what...more freakin freaks cause you have entered a world here that defies logic and morals and common sense as you have showed yourself...The best way to find a guy here is not to call us names or insult them but you are here doing that, so may you be blessed with everything you deserve..seems to me you are looking for Ken with a few extra pounds(read her profile)Do not be mad at us cause you ain't Barbie...Be mad at yourself... By the way i am 55 y o, 155 lbs on a thin 6' frame with all kinds of hair...in your world ,does that define freak? I am sorry to offend you but you offended most of us men on your first post....... |
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I enjoy some points of view from outside the box, and perhaps I am not alone. Enjoy.
 "Love is not only something you feel. It's something you do." *David Wilkerson*
"I think---therefore I'm single." *Lizz Winstead*
"Class is the sure-footedness that comes with having proved you can meet life." *Ann Landers*
"You seldom get what you go after unless you know in advance what you want." *Maurice Switzer*
"Think highly of yourself, for the world takes you at your own estimate." *Unknown*
"I have yet to hear a man ask for advice on how to combine marriage and a career." *Gloria Steinem*
"It's weak and despicable to go on wanting things and not trying to get them." *Joanna Field*
"You see a lot of smart guys with dumb women, but you hardly ever see a smart woman with a dumb guy." *Erica Jong*
 
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I say you're right to be picky and thoughtful. I'm widowed but I'm not jumping into another relationship. I have financial and other issues to take care of first. I'd like another relationship, but not another marriage right now. There's not a lot of women available around where I live. I'm looking for someone who'd welcome me visitng them at their home and you don't find that too easily, so I'm biding my time.
Stay tuned. |
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Thank you for the welcome. I feel at home already.
(And by the way, I have 6 grandkids so I bite back!) 
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Thank you for the welcome. I feel at home already. (And by the way, I have 6 grandkids so I bite back!)
That attitude will earn you points in this crowd, so I'll expect to see you around. 
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welcome, keep posting
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You've said everything I've been saying
for a long, long, long time now. But I'm not sure what the next step is. I'm a musician and I used to go out and hear the bands play around the area. I was more in tune with listening rather than scoping out the room. I would be aproached by nice guys to dance and I would but I could feel there was no spark. I stopped going out after a while. I go to work and I come home to the dog. My music is my piece of mind. It makes me feel good to play. But that's not doing anything on the social side of things. I work in a small office with 7 people, they're all married and I have one friend that I jam with every now and then. He just got married in June. The pool is running dry and time is ticking away. I really want to share my life with someone. Is it possible to become selfish with one's independence? Or is there someone out there that's looking for the qualities I have? I'll take any advice offered. |
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Welcome! It helps to keep a positive outlook. Just be open to what comes along. You may find what ur looking for when you least expect it.
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Being single has it's advantages.
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You've said everything I've been saying for a long, long, long time now. But I'm not sure what the next step is. I'm a musician and I used to go out and hear the bands play around the area. I was more in tune with listening rather than scoping out the room. I would be aproached by nice guys to dance and I would but I could feel there was no spark. I stopped going out after a while. I go to work and I come home to the dog. My music is my piece of mind. It makes me feel good to play. But that's not doing anything on the social side of things. I work in a small office with 7 people, they're all married and I have one friend that I jam with every now and then. He just got married in June. The pool is running dry and time is ticking away. I really want to share my life with someone. Is it possible to become selfish with one's independence? Or is there someone out there that's looking for the qualities I have? I'll take any advice offered. KAT56 Hi, good to see some new faces and interesting posts!! I think a lot of us feel like you do. Its hard to meet anyone when we don't seem to be surrounded by too many people. I work with kids everyday and only if they send their single grandfather in to pick them up would I stand a chance.... My other job locks me in as a caregiver for the geriatric......Its one on one...not to high a chance finding anyone there... A thought, are you a good enough musician, where you could teach....maybe an ad in the paper "musician looking to teach or jam with same" I just emailed what to me looks like a nice guy... He is in your part of the woods...Michigan... Try look up Classikrocker I think thats right. Email me back if you can't find him. I read your profile....what a hoot so here I am, giving you an average reply!!! polypeasant AKA:erlene |
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17 years and counting...
Just stepping back into a social life this year, too, but honestly, regardless of whether I'm too "picky" or not, I know I'm not willing to SETTLE for less than a really great relationship (that doesn't exclude natural and mutual compromises that almost necessarily will happen should I meet someone interesting enough to venture into a relationship with!) I'm not really looking hard for a SERIOUS relationship which makes me suspect I'll probably find one via Murphy's Law - so I just keep myself open to possibilities. If someone finds me ideal exactly as I am and it's mutual (I have no expectations and am not willing to try to change someone to suit my preferences) then GREAT! ...if not, then I'm okay with being a really happy person on my own. It's a win-win either way, right? |
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I have been "single" 5 1/2 years now, and I am just learning who "I" am. I enjoy the company of a man, but there are alot of issues that keep ME from
"looking" too hard. I have met men that are very nice and "right", but I am the one that just can not. |
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He will for tightly musichic
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welome terry. have fun posting and meet some people
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It's just hard but you have to be picky. Men our age, if they're good men, are either married or widowed. If widowed, they tend to get into another relationship fast. So the pickins' are slim. It seems to me the men out there are looking for Barbie even though they're sitting around with a beer belly and a balding head. It's a freak show out there but you still have to have hope! Ahh, generalizations! Beer belly? Bald? Looking for Barbie? There are guys out here that are none of the above and not looking for a Barbie Doll, just someone who is compatable! |
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I've been divorced for 15 yrs. I sometimes wonder if maybe I've become too independent, or too "picky" so that it makes it more difficult for me to make a connection. After so long, it takes time to adjust to having someone else to consider in all I do. That's not easily done in a quick manner. Any ideas or thoughts? 17 years here. It's more a concern that men THINK I'm too independent and have actually been told that "self-sufficiencey" scares men off. Meanwhile, we see posts about men avoiding women who they perceive to be "users" and "gold-diggers" so what a mixed message that is! I don't know what the reality really happens to be, but MY reality is that I still have to make a living, get kids through college and have a life... If that is too self-sufficient then I guess most single women are there. Gentlemen...please feel free to clarify! We "get men" about the same as you "understand women" at times! LOL! |
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So is being or going bald so bad? Balding can be VERY sexy... Just PLEEZE don't do the comb over cuz that is big points against! |
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been single for a long time also. It has it's advantages and disadvantages.....loneliness is the biggie, but then again you don't have to answer to anyone but yourself. I am at that point in my life where I could be very content in a relationship (providing it's with the right person), so I guess that is where the "pickiness" comes into the picture. I just figure if it is meant to be God will bring that person into my life when the time is right.
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been single for a long time also. It has it's advantages and disadvantages.....loneliness is the biggie, but then again you don't have to answer to anyone but yourself. I am at that point in my life where I could be very content in a relationship (providing it's with the right person), so I guess that is where the "pickiness" comes into the picture. I just figure if it is meant to be God will bring that person into my life when the time is right. So true my friend. I've been alone for 22 years since my husband commited suicide. Guess I've set my ways for life now. |
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