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Topic: my mom's boyfreind died the other night
msmyka Joined Sat 03/22/08 Posts: 17079	Sat 08/23/08 05:52 PM
I can relate all too well, as this is how my father died. He was only 45 and I was 16 at the time. He left our family when I was 10 so I wasn't exactly crushed when it happened but I can definitely feel her pain.

Marie55 Joined Wed 08/30/06 Posts: 7007	Sat 08/23/08 07:12 PM
I am so sorry for your mom's loss and for the pain you are going through right now too. You will have to support her all you can now. Only time will heal her pain, but grieving is good for her, better than holding it inside and letting it eat at her. My ex drank himself to death too, he was 45. So sad when people do this to themselves, and the ones they leave behind.

Redsoxfan1 Joined Sat 12/29/07 Posts: 8388	Sat 08/23/08 07:14 PM
I am so sorry for your mom's loss and for the pain you are going through right now too. You will have to support her all you can now. Only time will heal her pain, but grieving is good for her, better than holding it inside and letting it eat at her. My ex drank himself to death too, he was 45. So sad when people do this to themselves, and the ones they leave behind. So true!! My bf had me, but I guess he loved his vodka more! He was 42!

Marie55 Joined Wed 08/30/06 Posts: 7007	Sat 08/23/08 07:17 PM
That is true Redsox, when they are dealing with an addiction, nothing you can do will make them stop. I had divorced my ex 13 years before he died because of his drinking, our daughter was 5, she was 18 when he died. They can't seem to see beyond their next fix (drink). So sorry for your loss.

Redsoxfan1 Joined Sat 12/29/07 Posts: 8388	Sat 08/23/08 07:20 PM
That is true Redsox, when they are dealing with an addiction, nothing you can do will make them stop. I had divorced my ex 13 years before he died because of his drinking, our daughter was 5, she was 18 when he died. They can't seem to see beyond their next fix (drink). So sorry for your loss. TY, it was 3 years ago, I'm still thinking of him, but I'm getting thru!

kirk443 Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 5723	Sat 08/23/08 07:26 PM
I bet my mom will get thru but there is a big difference my mom was with him for 11 years and my mom will be 59 years old. Atleast he passeed away at his sister's house like at 3AM or something. Nonetheless everyone feels guilty about the person that died for whatever reasons cause each individual is different as so as their situation..

Redsoxfan1 Joined Sat 12/29/07 Posts: 8388	Sat 08/23/08 07:29 PM
I bet my mom will get thru but there is a big difference my mom was with him for 11 years and my mom will be 59 years old. Atleast he passeed away at his sister's house like at 3AM or something. Nonetheless everyone feels guilty about the person that died for whatever reasons cause each individual is different as so as their situation.. That is true!! God bless you both!!

Marie55 Joined Wed 08/30/06 Posts: 7007	Sat 08/23/08 07:30 PM
A lot of hospitals have bereavement counseling groups that meet and people can work through their grieving and loss of loved ones. You may want to check with your local hospital and see if they have one. Many of these groups are free too. Our hospital has a group, not sure if they charge or not. She will get through it, but it will take her time. Hopefully, she has some friends she can lean on too, and you can help her as much as you can.