that's it?

He's probably shy. I'm shy like that too but I willed myself to make that first call. It then turned into a second and third call. After that things are fine. I always worry about those awkward pauses but if you don't try, you don't know. <--thats my new motto(cool huh?)

I don't know if you could tell from my posts but I am a big blabbermouth. Something enters my head and out it goes. I also like to laugh and joke a lot. Those things are not heard while on IM. It's a nice bonus. Sorry turning this into a post about me. Just wanted to give you some insight into what he may be thinking or perhaps like.

What was the question again?

Ahh k, what to do...you can make a recording of your voice and send it to him as a file. That may make him do the same thing. That way you could ease into a conversation over the phone. I would not bring it up again. He has your number and he needs to decide it's time to talk.

Don't get hung up on him obviously and keep looking. If he wants to get to a new level its up to him.

Welcome to the forums. Feel free to introduce yourself on the New members forum. That was some great advice. Nice and concise , good use of the emoticons too.

yOURE freaking me out woman!!! You need to Ohhhhhhhhmmmmmmmmm!!!!!! Chill!!! Relax?>>??? Whats the hurry???? Got a wedding to plan???

i've talked with many online....rarely does it lead anywhere....distances are too great & most are dishonest too....i'd take the email conversations with a grain of salt....

honestly, if someone was wanting or trying to get me to call them after only a few days of chatting online... I probably would go the other way

if its been a couple days since u havent talk 2 him at all he is problably not interested anymore or never was but ull kno 4 sure if he takes about a week or longer 2 respond and
comes out wiv some ramdom xcuse that u feel its just absurd

See I think that's a mistake. Let's say you meet someone at a store and give them your number after talking for 5 minutes. I would think after a few hours of conversation in writing a phone call is appropriate or not all that strange.

Actually here's a good way to ensure a phone chat.
"I don't like to give out my number right away. I have had some bad experiences so I block my number. I can give you a call though if you would like. So...what's your number?"
There! Make sure your number is blocked so he can't call you and you will maintain your privacy early on in the relationship. Pretty slick eh?

Wow! You've only chatted online a little and you're this hung-up on him? Maybe he senses desperation/stalker?

Wow! Where to begin?

First of all I think there were some great perspectives in this thread. Hats off to all you for the great input so far.

I just wanted to add the abstract idea here that "some people" prefer to get to know someone by verbal communication since they have experienced that (type) chatting is way too 2 dimensional for them. That doesn't make them desperate, it just makes them someone who prefers to hear a real voice as opposed to text which can be quite dull and non-articulate.

To each his or her own of course, but maybe you've found a difference that you two have already? =)

Maybe not a total red flag? How about orange? :p

All kidding aside I think the best plan of action is give him a little more time if you feel comfortable with that and see where it leads. If you do not feel comfortable with that, then perhaps the man you are looking for is one that will speak with you on the phone right from the beginning. (These things matter more or less to each one of us for too many reasons to analyze, and many are valid depending on our own personal judgement) Therein lies the mystery of what makes a good relationship eh?

There is nothing wrong with wanting what you want or needing what you need. If you don't get it in one place, then it's time to find another. Simple as that.

Good luck to you!

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