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Topic: What is wrong ?
Jill298's photo
Fri 08/22/08 08:08 AM

Here is a thought....

All these women are the same, but yet you say they appear different. It just might be that although the outer appearances are different, there is a key element inside them that is the same. You are looking for it, or are attracted to it, or some deviant of it.... in a subconscious way.
damnit lilith quit stealing my thoughtslaugh

Troublemaker7's photo
Fri 08/22/08 08:08 AM
It's a tough one. All I can say is keep on dating! You will find someone that is independant and doesn't NEED someone in their life. The perfect balance is someone who just wants another person to share things with to supplement their life. Try looking for someone who has interests of their own. Feel them out on the first date. If they already have a full and enjoyable life it's a good indication that they aren't looking for you to be their everything.

franshade's photo
Fri 08/22/08 08:13 AM
Communication is key, speak your mind, set your boundaries and have fun, make friends. Only you can limit your own happiness.

good luck

lilith401's photo
Fri 08/22/08 08:21 AM
Sorry Jill!!!

Here I go again, ready?
laugh

I don't need anyone in my life. I am content and like myself, and rarely if ever feel lonely when alone.

I want a companion, a partner, a friend who enhances my life, who enriches it, who compliments me. A person with whom I can share and learn and love and laugh. That can inspire me and show me things, of themselves and in and about life. A person that wants me to do the same for them.

MirrorMirror's photo
Fri 08/22/08 08:23 AM
smokin The mutant alien skull man has a smile for all smiles, an answer for all answers.smokin


unsure's photo
Fri 08/22/08 08:25 AM
Maybe with out realizing it, you go for the same type? Are these women needy or clingy in the beginning? I really believe that when we start a new "relationship"..sometimes we let things slip by that we shouldn't. Sometimes we let them get away with calling us or texting us way to many times a day and we don't even say anything about it. Of course thats just an example of clingy to me, if someone feels the need to call me or text me 6 times a day~~something is wrong!!
If you are interested in a good book to read, it tells you how to STOP picking the same type of people. I got into that kind of rut to where I kept picking the same type of guys and I thought it was actually the men...but after reading this book, I came to realize, it wasn't the men at all~~it was me!! (gasping in horror) LOL The name of the book is IN THE MEANTIME by Iyanla Vanzant. She even has a book thats like a work book to break these horrible patterns~LIVING THROUGH THE MEANTIME.
Good luck flowerforyou

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