almost sure 'add time' means dedicate time, not literally.



reason I posted, I have this friend that whenever she gets involved, starts dating, falls in love (which she does rather quickly) she loses her self identity. She only focuses on the other party, no problem for me, I let everyone live their own lives.

However, when things dont go as she plans, she then she wants to manipulate and demand everyone change their schedules, plans and activities to suit her needs. Which I do on occassion to accomodate and spend time with her, but on the norm if I have things to do, it's just that I have things to do.

Well this morning I was called selfish by my friend, she wanted me to skip work, because her b/f is out of town and she's bored, I thought she was kidding (not) so I replied sure, be right there. Came into work as normal, she calls selfish, if I knew I wouldnt be showing up I should have told her so she can make other plans

Told her she still had time, it was early.

Whats so selfish about that?

Definitely have my space. Can't stand doing every single thing together .. gives me claustrophobia ... or suffocation symptoms

AgreeI'm like that too

Perfectly put!

I have many outside interests...we can do it on the porch, by the lake, at the drivein...anywhere outside really, so long as we're not drawing a crowd.




I do like to hang with my friends, but they have to wait til I'm done wiff my baby. Just give me an hour or two...brb.



I can do almost anything with or without him...but there are some things I'd prefer he participate in...

oh ya babyyyyyyyyyyyy

What is this relationship of which you speak?

i used to be the stay by their side all the time but now i have to have my space and freedom would be nice if i could even spend anytime with a woman though

have seen such things from a far, but haven't revelled in one for many many moons.

Oh right, it's that thing that all my friends are in and then b*tch about...Gotcha.

wait until the b!tching stops and then gets directed at you (as though you were the selfish one) people sure are funny

My friend Lisa says she lives vicariously through me.... 5 kids and a husband she wants to be single with only one to worry about.

what i don't understand is how a girl like lily isnt sure what this relationship thing is with her looks and brains she should have an amazing one

WOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOOOO Lily

ya gots an admirererer

Is that the "Marine is in the house" dude?

yeah yeah i know long time no see started a new job and have had no comp access

Do you still have outside interests?
Yes

Do you still make time for your friends?
Yes

What happens to all the other relationships in your life?
they become better
if I have more joy in my life, I can share the joy

When in a relationship can you be seen without your partner? (or do you become joined at the hip?)

I have to be allowed to do my own thing.
I'm still an individual
that doesn't stop when I become involved with someone

Thanks for sharing all I have an extremely curious nature, and when things dont make sense nor have logic, I have to ask... even if only to ensure that I am not the one that insane

all

Well, my best friend put it to me this way just a few weeks ago "--- you're too independant, and you scare off all the guys who would treat you right, and instead you attract all the ones who think they can get one over on you, when infact you get one over on them in a way, but then you're just as pissed as if you had never had that experience in the first place"

So why am I single... Cuz I won't tolerate ball-less men, and when I find one with balls bigger than mine I'll look like this...

so in other words you need a real man. I would say a Marine but too often i have seen Marines who aren't really real men either. In other words you need a man like uh Lets say me