that reminds me of high school

there was a man who was the vice principal of our high school and the principal to the connecting middle school.

he had to leave a different school for sexually assulting a woman on a school field trip. she had graduated the year before and so since she wasnt a student anymore it wasnt counted on for being a student.

i was his aid in the middle school office i begged another teacher to talk to our lady who did our schedules to get me out of it. he was always staring at my chest and hitting on me. telling me how much he misses me when im not at school.

ive witness him touching girls buts. and hes still principal.

its digusting.. everyone knows whats going on but doesnt stop it because of the good ole boy system in our town.

This just sickens me. WTH are the adults here and why aren't they stepping in??!!

This one is a sticky one. Being born and raised in the South, we are taught EARLY to say yes MAAM and no SIR. There were NO "huh?what? or yeahs?" in our home growing up. And every parent of friends I met was and IS still always maam and sir. Now, I could entertain that that is a FORM of respect based on them being an "elder" and not necessarily out of respect of their life style itself.

CM, just gave me the word I wanted in prev post. MANNERS...Do you think the maam and sir thing is more a matter of manners than respect? I'd be interested to hear differences.

Yeah! everybody respect me!!!

Again, I think this is more good manners and being polite which everyone should be afforded because otherwise it is just a reflection of ourselves, but you can accomplish this and still not necessarily have respect for that person.

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i wish i knew what was going on. honestly. because i wont ever forget the day he trapped me in a classroom and told me i had to anwser his history questions or i couldnt leave.

i didnt find that educational just creepy

That's just beyond horrible, can't even imagine how that made you feel. I'll tell you one thing, heads would spin and this crap would stop if this happened to this good ol' girl's child.

While we're on this subject, another practice of parents I just can't abide is forcing a child to hug, kiss or sit in the lap of Uncle Floyd, Aunt Gertrude or Grandpa Joe when they come to visit. You've just sent the message that you should just endure, succomb to unwanted touching/affection. What if this person is secretely abusing your child, you've just added insult to injury.

While it may also be a cultural thing. I was taught from childhood to respect all elders.

There are good people and there are not so good people who thrive on abusing others. I doubt respect holds a key to abuse. Respect is not what will allow someone to be abused.

However, I do believe trusting easily will have doors open easier than respect (abuse).

I respect my elders but also I am no fool, I have good judgement and my trust must be earned. I do not follow blindly and it's worked for me and mine.

Sorry for all those that have lived thru any type of abuse, just remember it's not your fault something happened to you. It is not your fault that someone did things to you against your will.

Neither respect nor trust is responsible but the vile person(s) who performed it.(jmo)

Agreed respect and trust will not allow -- - not the reason -- someone will abuse another. Respect solely on the basis of age, position or station does allow them to keep it hidden.

Anyone that wants to hide something about them can and does, respect does not play into this. jmo

I do respect solely on the basis of age. I was taught as a child and have figured that they have lived more, they know more and they are wiser (be it educationally or from experience).

Now trust is what must be earned, just because I meet a person (young/old) does not mean I will readily trust them. I can respect you but that doesnt mean I trust you.

I respect your position but I am talking about how this statement and the practice of it specifically has allowed abusers to abuse and hide it.

Also, I think trust and respect go hand-in-hand. I cannot respect someone I do not trust. I cannot trust someone I do not respect.

I got that Lilbug I just disagree, not that I dont respect your view on the topic I just truly dont agree.

Abusers will use any and all means possible. Listing respect and how respecting one's elders specifically has allowed abuse and hidden it is hard for me to accept as fact. jmo