Did I just kill the thread, or what?

Nah, not YOU !!! It's supper time here in the midwest, and east.

Hmm.. I personally would deactivate.. if I made any "true" friends they would have my email address to email outside of M2/JSH or my phone number.

Now this is interesting. Do tell! Who is the lucky lady?

I did #1 and she kept trying to pick up guys.

I am now doing #2 but will eventually deactivate. It's a good way to stay in touch. All the women friends I used to know are now giving us both space to see where things take us. I have such good friends.

I think I would stick around. I am not dating anyone from here anyway.

Wow... everyones answers are all over the place. I guess if you meet someone from the site it is easier to stay on without issues.

I could not imagine meeting someone off the site and them being ok with you staying on a dating website. Maybe its just me....

I deactivated but then I dumped his sorry butt and Im back! lol

Thank you, I was thinking that, too! When you feel secure in the relationship, that seems a better option to me.

If I seriously hook up with someone I will deactivate. While I love it here and have many many people I care about. They will get alternate contact methods but I won't be on a site primarily for dating.

i have found someone.. on this site. and he and i are still active and changed headlines....

if/when i found someone from off the site he knew of what i was doing.. and started a profile here as well.. had a good time till he screwed me over and none of his/ my friends would talk to him again..
lol




point in this story...
the bf and i have come to think of this site as a social site.. and i trust him and love him and vice virsa...

we keep the profiles.. at least till the first... lol.. im not ready to mingle... so i am still debating deactivation. lol

but he is welcome to keep his open if he would like.



PS yes i am insecure that he will find someone better, but i know that he has just as good of a chance to do that in real life as here.. and i cant keep him locked in a box out there.. so why would i here??

I think few people can really be as mature about this subject as you are. Good luck to you and your's.
While some people have people that they converse with regularly on this site, most of us are just coasting through. I think I'm pretty mature, but I would have a problem with my intended searching and/or flirting. If he has made friends, I have no problem with him keeping in contact with them by other means. JMO
Nan

lucky for me he is even more mature than i.. as i have a couple people that i flirt with.. (all parties knowing that it is innocent fun) the bf jsut takes it in stride and will join the topic.. ask etrain.. lol. he gets the brunt of it most of the time...

i get jelous (in my head only.. lol.. i dont tell him..hehe) but it does me no good to freak out about it.. if ether of us cross a line we just drop an email and let the other know that we were uncomfortable with what was said.. and thats why they make an edit button. lol

but i cant stop him outside the site any more than he could stop me... i fell in love with him.. all of him... lol...
and i am not trying to change him.

IF i find a woman irl or here, probbally irl is gonna happen first i'll deactivate,

See, if I met someone not from the site I would try and keep my account active for as long as I could. I like you peeples!!

WE could both stay on for awhile and get our message out to all friends then just emails or phone to good agreed friends to the both of us.
And we would be to busy to WANT to be here,wink, well,,,lol,hopefully,wink,lol

Well, my fiance and I met on here and we have both decided to keep our profiles open for our friends.

Yes, the people who are special to us, have other ways of getting in contact with us......but this is the easiest way for us to come on and say hello to all of them in a night.

Some nights I only sign on here, and not my Yahoo, so then I miss them.

TheCaptain and I are sure to let people know we are here for FRIENDS no form of relationship.

number one and number two are always nice choices.... you should try number 3... you mix number 2 with number 1 and it makes a cool pool of choice

<--- seeing someone

<--- still on here

<---- still flirt

<---- not going anywhere soon

Well I will say this, I was asked irl IF I would get off the "dating site" I said that I have no problems doing so because my friends have my other email and or phone #. ( he was still bothered by this) go figure.

It all goes back to one of the basics, TRUST. If someone doesnt trust the other person, the relationship is doomed from the begining.