I've had this huge crush for this girl for quite awhile. And I know many don't believe in falling in love for someone you've never really met... but at some point I really thought I loved her...but even though she says she likes me and that cares deeply for me, she's very indecisive on what to do with me. Sometimes she says she's in love with me, sometimes she just wants to be friends. I don't know what to do. At one point we stopped talking for awhile, but recently we started talking again. We have so much in common that it's scary. She's smart, sweet, beautiful. Maybe I'm naive (hell, I know I am) but I think she's the one for me and I've asked her to meet me a few times, and she said "no" that she "doesn't know" what she wants. So, right now I'm playing the waiting game.... hoping she decides that I'm worth a real try.

What should I do? Keep waiting? or just realize that nothing will happen between us and move on?

Stalk her they love it

Move on....if they don't know what's on thier own mind or in thier own heart then you are just spinning your wheels and wasting effort. Unless you just like playing the push me pull me game...in that case carry on~

Get drunker than a skunk, and then call her at three in the morning. If THAT doesn't end stuff right then and there, nothing will.

You've asked her... that's all you can do. If you keep asking her, you may push her away even more. If she wants to meet you, she will... if she doesn't than maybe she really isn't the one for you. And you should move on without her.

I would have you ask yourself- Do i want to be with someone who is not sure they want to be with me? go ahead ask it? and the answer is NO!! right?

Why would you want to waste your time waiting for her to make up her mind because you THINK you love her??

The right one for you might be right around the corner and you aren't going to meet her cuz you are waiting for an indecisive little girl to make up her mind

Lose her and move on!!! You have too much to offer the right woman. Give yourself that chance.

the longer you play the waiting game... the longer she'll make you wait... pack it up and move along

It's obvious that you feel she is worth your time; be patient, what is meant to be, will be!

Dude...she's playing with your head. Playing games. Not cool at all.

if it is meant to be it will happen....try to be patient

Maybe I do need to move on. At one point I thought I had, but then she "walked" right back in, and now I can't stop thinking about her.

And I definitely don't like playing games but I thought maybe if I just kept waiting she would see that I was serious about giving us a try. But I'm at the point that I don't even know if waiting will do anything... since all i get is "idk"

how long has this been going on? You can't keep letting her walk in and out of your life turning things upside down then you leave you with a "IDK"

I find this slightly ironic as I went through this just yesterday with someone. They are all about you one minute and the next they are confused and mixxed up and don't know what they want. I followed my own advice and told them that they needed to find out what thier heart was telling them, wished them well, and told them that I hoped that they never got thier heart stomped on while they were "finding" what they wanted....

Well, we were "together" about 3-4 months ago, then things fell apart and she decided to "just be friends" which I couldn't do since I liked her so much... so we kinda stop talking. But I got an e-mail with her phone number a few days ago (different than the one she had first)out of nowhere and we started talking again. And again, I thought I had left her behind but I couldn't stop myself but go "back to her" when I got her number and thought she wanted to "reconnect" sort of speak. A lot of things seem to be happening in her life right now, but she still doesn't know what she wants with me.

Have you actually met?....I don't think so....you can never fall in love with a profile or a voice on the phone....you must meet & if she won't meet you, then move on.....

personally, this woman is dangerous for you.....i'd give her one chance to meet you if you really felt so inclined....but after that I go looking elsewhere.....

walk away

No, we haven't met. And I won't try to convince you or anyone of what I felt and still feel for this girl. Is it love? maybe not. But I know I felt something I had never felt before for anyone. I know my heart raced like crazy by just hearing her voice. I know that I fantasized being with her.... not sexually (well, that too) but just to be with her. Just to kiss her, to hug her. Meh...

Anyway... thanks everyone for their thoughts. Guess it is time to move on.

Another thing. Walking away... how should I go about doing this? Just tell her I don't see us going anywhere and that we should stop talking to each other... or just plain ignore her? Really sucks that I'm here again... but guess it needs to be done.

You just start looking for other women. Why do you need to say anything to her. BTW, some women like guys who are aloof and play hard to get.

Never make someone a priority that only makes you an option...