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| Topic: What do YOU do when you're just fed up? | |
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he doesn't deal well with financial burdens. he gets so upset that i feel compelled to keep it from him. i know this isn't proper or healthy. but i sometimes think i should take care of it. So you're treating him like a child then? Does he work and bring home a paycheck? I went to court the other day and lost a $250 ticket, my daughter (6) said to me "mommy if you have to pay all that money, how are we gonna buy food." My answer to her was "You will NEVER go hungry" I knew I would probably lose the case, so I had the money already to pay the fine. Stop treating him like he's 6.... He's an adult. If my choices are mental patient, or husband I'll chose C.) Single.... If a man can't be a man, then what good is he? |
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he doesn't deal well with financial burdens. he gets so upset that i feel compelled to keep it from him. i know this isn't proper or healthy. but i sometimes think i should take care of it. So you're treating him like a child then? Does he work and bring home a paycheck? I went to court the other day and lost a $250 ticket, my daughter (6) said to me "mommy if you have to pay all that money, how are we gonna buy food." My answer to her was "You will NEVER go hungry" I knew I would probably lose the case, so I had the money already to pay the fine. Stop treating him like he's 6.... He's an adult. on the contrary...i feel like he has so much more to worry about with the business and other things. it's quite stressful on both of us. i just want a bit of that light at the end of the tunnel. I keep seeing you say "I feel" and "I think" what does HE FEEL and HE THINK?? Is it fair to keep it all from him? What other things are more important the YOUR FAMILY and how things EFFECT them? If the business isn't doing well, shut it down and go back to a regular job if that's the case, if the business is doing well, then what does he really have to worry about? the business is going quite well...but the nature of it results in high insurance, compensation and taxes. this is what kills us. he broke his back about 10 years ago. recovered. tried to go back to work but had a hard time at it. so he started his own business. employees do most of the 'labor' part...even though he still has to also. he has is bad days. he takes care of the sales, labor, employee relations...i'm supposed to take care of the 'business' aspect of it all. |
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he doesn't deal well with financial burdens. he gets so upset that i feel compelled to keep it from him. i know this isn't proper or healthy. but i sometimes think i should take care of it. So you're treating him like a child then? Does he work and bring home a paycheck? I went to court the other day and lost a $250 ticket, my daughter (6) said to me "mommy if you have to pay all that money, how are we gonna buy food." My answer to her was "You will NEVER go hungry" I knew I would probably lose the case, so I had the money already to pay the fine. Stop treating him like he's 6.... He's an adult. on the contrary...i feel like he has so much more to worry about with the business and other things. it's quite stressful on both of us. i just want a bit of that light at the end of the tunnel. I keep seeing you say "I feel" and "I think" what does HE FEEL and HE THINK?? Is it fair to keep it all from him? What other things are more important the YOUR FAMILY and how things EFFECT them? If the business isn't doing well, shut it down and go back to a regular job if that's the case, if the business is doing well, then what does he really have to worry about? the business is going quite well...but the nature of it results in high insurance, compensation and taxes. this is what kills us. he broke his back about 10 years ago. recovered. tried to go back to work but had a hard time at it. so he started his own business. employees do most of the 'labor' part...even though he still has to also. he has is bad days. he takes care of the sales, labor, employee relations...i'm supposed to take care of the 'business' aspect of it all. Well I'm a fairly cut and dry person, and I understand that you are venting, however, you have 2 choices as I see it, you helped to make that situation, so you can either A.)deal with it as it is... or B.)Change it... but worrying about it, and complaining about it does nothing for either choice you have. I wish you the best, but truly feel you need to adress this with him, otherwise, you'll be back here in a month venting the same thing. |
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i agree with you whole heartedly...and yes i am venting some.
i rack my brain trying to figure out how to make things better. i also deal with it as it comes. thing will get better....and then back in the hole again. i just get tired of fighting the system all the time i guess. thanks for listening though. |
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I just want to know what it's like to live without the worry of bills, tax and insurance payments. It would be nice, but I'm afraid most of us may have to be dead to find out... 
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