GNITE MARIE~~~!!!

Sleep well, my friend.

I'm single for several reasons. Mostly it's because there are certain things that I won't tolerate in a relationship... and I tell guys these things up front... I mean, they're even in my profile. When a guy crosses a line, I send him on his merry way. There are many things I'll compromise on, but not my integrity.

I'm still keeping my fingers crossed for someone I'll be meeting at the end of the month. He just might have a real chance.

I think alot of us are like that........Im pretty leary.......I watch.......I just dont talk alot.......Im multi-talented that way!!! Take notes......

I'm single. The exact reason as to why escapes me. I think it's an amalgam of factors that all add up to maybe a "reason".

As a single father, I have a different outlook than a guy without kids. But as a single father WITH custody of his son, that's a whole other ballgame that a lot of women I've met don't even bother to figure out how to deal with.

I don't live with my parents, don't have an apartment, and I'm not rooming with a buddy. I have a house and a mortgage and I pay property taxes. I mow the lawn, I vacuum the carpet, I cook dinner, lunch & breakfast. I take the garbage out. I pay the electric/gas/cable/water/insurance/phone bills. I've found a lot of women, while impressed with this, don't want the "finished product". I have found a lot want a guy they can mold or shape into this pattern. One they can "train". That's not really me.

I lost the one I loved a few years ago. While I've obviously gotten on with life, I think in some ways I subconsciously block people from getting close to me by using the memory of her as an excuse, or -in some cases- as a reason. I've been told by some very good (female) friends that not a lot of women can handle such a relationship at a fairly young (mid 30's) age. I think this is the real issue of the ones I've listed. It's one I am working on getting better at dealing with.

Train???? I dont want to train anyone!!! I want them already housebroken and trained!!!

What happened to the one you lost??? Did she pass away?

Dude, that is so true! I can't find a woman that just takes things in stride.

Once a person gets out of College or just starts life relationships take some time to get rolling. Everyone I seem to find, if they're not trying to re-prioritize my life to fit their's then they're trying to take every waking minute of my time. Slow Down!!

Single here because I can't seem to find someone that doesn't have EVERYTHING all figured: From Date one they're trying to plug me into what their image of the American Dream is without considering mine.....

LoL You're funny, Gypsy. You're an exception to the rule (around me, anyway).



Yes.. sorry I didn't make that clearer. )=

See, I knew it wasn't JUST me... lol

I just want someone to be my best friend......love, laugh........do dirty bad thing in bed.......hahaaaaaaaaaaa phhhhhhhhhhh crap!!! Muriel..........she got out of her cage!!!

Oh and a big thing.......he has to be able to be normal around my son.............because my son is NORMAL!!!

nO druggies please!!!

What's "Normal"???

No drug addicts.........not even pot because if I dont want my son to be a pot smoker then they cant do it either............

because i'm running out of hookers

I'm single because I'm a cold hearted b!tch who apparently goes for all the emotional winey boys.

I need a real man.

Really? You think most women don't want someone who does this already?

Mostly shy. Come on a little too strong. Not assertive enough. Those are ones I've heard before. I'm sure there are other reasons.


Spending most of my 20's obese didn't do anything for my self esteem either.

For me I think it has a lot to do with my lack of confidence. Growing up I was always made fun of and belittled therefore my self esteem was always low. Although I am slowly working on it, my confidence level is still rather low. I think once I raise my self esteem and confidence I believe things will come to me more naturally. so to speak.

Because I choose to be. I never dated much back when I was younger. Kinda went from one long term to the next.

Then when I got divorced and became a single mom, I had too much on my plate to just sit down and start dating. And when I did, I saw the result after an 8 month relationship died and it was SO hard to explain to the princess that no, once again, SHE was NOT the reason why he left.

Now with her living with her daddy for the next 2 years, it should be easier to date, but I don't feel like it.

I have spent the last month knocking off potentials. I figure, if they can't fit into my schedule of school, daughter, work, then I don't have time for them.

The one man I am seriously considering at this moment won't let us move forward because he deploys in 6 months and is very pessimistic about coming back. Which depresses me cause he makes me come alive. He even noticed it. That only 2 people make me light up when I talk. My daughter and him.

Sucks he has to always think negative. I know that war isn't exactly a positive thing, nor does it usually have a positive outcome for our soldiers, but he has come home twice now, and I believe he will come home again. I have faith in him. And I have faith in God.

(Wish they could all come back, ya know. I pray about all of our troops.)

Oh well.

So yeah, I am still single cause I choose to be. If I really wanted to be "taken" at this point, I know a few people who would snatch me up in a heartbeat and never let me go. But I am not ready yet, and I am kinda holding my heart out for one man right now.

Ya never know, though. Right?