i had my daughter up till she was 11 yrs old . because i wouldn't let her date we had a big fight about it and she decided to move in with her mother. we went to court over this and they let her mom take her . well come to find out in these past four yrs , my daughter has been smoking weed with her mom and pretty much partying with dear ol mom... mom also lets boys spend the night and there was no supervision , guess what happenend . i'm a grandpa , and now i'm being told it's my fault . because i wasn't there for her . why ? they live 4 hrs away and she didn't want to come here and see me , until she had her baby . now she wants to move back home . because her and her mother cann't get along , they both have 2 differant storys as to why. i'm not sure i want the responsablity of a baby around . what a mess

I would say so, I would have to way the options very carefully. I am very sorry that this happened to you,but that is your daughter and grandchild. At least with you, you can make sure that the baby is very well taken care of. Good luck and I know that you will do what you feel is right.

The love for your child is unconditional

I wish you nothing but the best

First of all, WOW. Doesn't sound like your daughters mother was much of a mother. While I can understand you don't want the responsibility of having a baby around, I think your baby needs some help and I'm not sure she'll get that from her mother.

Good luck, that's a tough tough situation to be in.

WoW it's defanetly not your fault! I don't know what you should do because sounds like she doesn't like rules? So you need to lay down rules for her if she comes back! Good luck to you. I am a single working mother of 2 girls who have both graduated & I have really had no problems with them! Pretty lucky I guess but, I was very strict! Now they are both working & living on their own.........

She's your daughter, man. You're her father. You need no justification. Ain't no excuses. Everything can be overcome as long as you have breath.

I just hate you missed the years with her.

my heart goes out to you and all the BS your dealing with ATM. So far everyone seams to think the child and grand child come first, I have to agree but, have anyone thought of adoption. Im trying to think whats in the babys best interest. JMO But 15 is a bit young to be a mother. Good Luck

I'm not sure how I'd handle this. If there were a way to prove that Mom has men over and you can prove it was her onus that got your daughter in trouble, then do something with the courts. How old is your daughter now? In courts, usually the child has a say in things if they are old enough and the judge agrees to allow her to speak.

In the meantime, if the decree is set that she stays with the Mom and you interfere, it sounds like the Mom will be the type to slam you with the police and grand jury if your daughter stays with you. And, it sounds like your daughter may be the type to wax and wane as it suits her. Like, if she ends up with you and doesn't like your rules, she'll just run back to Mom or a boyfriend.

That's a lot on your plate to think about.

Man i feel for you. My daughter told me something like that. Eventhough, her mother was a druggie, had guys marching in, and out, she went to jail, for carring a gun, and they were in, and out of shelters. You cant win. For some reason when the good times are there, they dont want us around, but when the roof falls in, if we are not there, it was our fault. You just have to wait until she can feel the life shes living. Right now shes just living it. She doesnt understand one day she is going to wake up, and shes going to be 30, or 40. She doesnt understand that one day you wont be there to pick up the pieces. I feel for you Man. Good Luck, Stay Strong.