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If you're on medication, it may be time for the doc to change it to something else, because it doesn't sound like it's really working for you... For my 2 cents on your situation: I think it is EXTREMELY important for you to succeed in all you're trying to do for yourself, ON YOUR OWN. It's unfair to put your salvation on someone else's shoulders. I'm not saying that's what you're consciously looking to do, just that if you depend too much on someone else's support for your success, you may be setting them up to fail in your eyes (and their's, if they're trying to "save" you). Depending on someone else's strength may make you lazy...and give you someone else to blame if you don't accomplish your goals. (low hurdles are easier to jump, by the way) Ultimately, think about the sense of accomplishment you'll have to do this for your SELF. It sounds like you've come a long way, baby! Keep it goin'! Now I'm a dependent cigarette ad. No I don't need anyone to lean on, just I've felt alone most of my life, even when I was married, I could talk to her with out getting hit or told to kill myself. I'm not on meds, I can't afford them, so I work out to minimize the depression. I guess I am more looking for an outlet, a way to get it out. that's all. |
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i get meds are good for somethings but why it is when people hear like bi polar or ADD do people right away say time for meds? There's always the herbal route--I hate doctors myself. BUT, as far as bipolar or ADD...Two TOTALLY different things. You can hurt yourself or someone else when you're bipolar, depending on how severe it is. ADD is just the inability to focus properly (the anger with ADD comes from frustration). The lawnmower fantasy can become reality if the attack is severe enough. (can I borrow the lawnmower soon?  )
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jt do they force them on you or give you any ideas other then meds about what to do about it?
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Two TOTALLY different things. yes i know this but it goes along with the med thing i was getting at |
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hey jt im heading to bed but keep your chin up  duckie it was nice talking with ya.  night all |
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you too niters blue
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jt do they force them on you or give you any ideas other then meds about what to do about it? Pretty much forced, at least the ones I am on allow me to climax unlike the other ones I was put on. It is just this wellbutron stuff is pretty expensive, and yeah it does help, but it kind of sucks if I have to be on them the rest of my life. But I did survive with out them, it was just the getting left that triggered something and made it worse where I have panic attacks when i never did before, and get manic to a point that I run 6 miles and throw 400 pounds on the bench and lift like it is nothing, but when i am depressed, I can barely move or lift my body to go do anything. The worst it got before was when i was in a manic state, I talked more, when i was a bit depressed, I talked less. But I guess I also worry if this change is permanant. |
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hey jt im heading to bed but keep your chin up duckie it was nice talking with ya. night all Goodnight Blue |
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"Now I'm a dependent cigarette ad.
No I don't need anyone to lean on, just I've felt alone most of my life, even when I was married, I could talk to her with out getting hit or told to kill myself. I'm not on meds, I can't afford them, so I work out to minimize the depression. I guess I am more looking for an outlet, a way to get it out. that's all." Well, I can certainly understand the "alone" feeling--I've had the same problem. I'm glad you don't feel you need to lean on someone. It IS always good to have people to share with. I didn't mean to say that you needed someone to lean on, just to point out that becoming TOO dependent is not healthy. I'm merely speaking from personal experience and wanted to share, is all... Besides, you can always talk to US!!!
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{{{{{{JT}}}}}}}}
My head hurts too much to think on this right now so I'll just send hugs.. |
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So I tried dating, went out a few time, had some fun times, then all contact cut off. She says it's due to my Bi-polar disorder and that I need help, (well duh!) So if I am stuck with always having to be who I am, which a part of it is this Bi-polar ****, does that mean I will always scare women off? Am I doomed to be alone? If so how do I get used to it? The thing is I've always been like this to a degree, but it just got a lot worse after my ex-wife left and I ate a lot of mushrooms and slaughtered her lover in a lawn mower free for all. sorry, that last part was just fantasy. I have tried to clean up a lot, in the past year I've lost 85 pounds, I'm still fat and need to lose about 40 more, but I cut back on drinking, am going back to school and am trying to get my life straightened out. It's just hard to do it on my own, sober and with out the violent collegiate activities I am used to(football) and not knowing anyone there. I guess I feel despair, loneliness and that I have no one to talk to just message boards to post my persistent whining and deep seeded self hatred. I don't even know what I would expect anyone to reply to this posting or even expect anyone to post on this. I guess this is like me *****ing at the moon. I don't expect a reply, just sending out a signal thinking maybe someone will receive it. I am just putting it out there, hello, my name is JT, do you read me Houston? Ok that's all I have to say about this Obviously you passed the doctor up somewhere along the road, money issues, don't agree...really I don't care. Everyone has their excuse. So all I can really say is learn as much as possible about your disorder and find your own way to combat it, and if you can't do that...well then, I have no idea what to tell you. |
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So I tried dating, went out a few time, had some fun times, then all contact cut off. She says it's due to my Bi-polar disorder and that I need help, (well duh!) So if I am stuck with always having to be who I am, which a part of it is this Bi-polar ****, does that mean I will always scare women off? Am I doomed to be alone? If so how do I get used to it? The thing is I've always been like this to a degree, but it just got a lot worse after my ex-wife left and I ate a lot of mushrooms and slaughtered her lover in a lawn mower free for all. sorry, that last part was just fantasy. I have tried to clean up a lot, in the past year I've lost 85 pounds, I'm still fat and need to lose about 40 more, but I cut back on drinking, am going back to school and am trying to get my life straightened out. It's just hard to do it on my own, sober and with out the violent collegiate activities I am used to(football) and not knowing anyone there. I guess I feel despair, loneliness and that I have no one to talk to just message boards to post my persistent whining and deep seeded self hatred. I don't even know what I would expect anyone to reply to this posting or even expect anyone to post on this. I guess this is like me *****ing at the moon. I don't expect a reply, just sending out a signal thinking maybe someone will receive it. I am just putting it out there, hello, my name is JT, do you read me Houston? Ok that's all I have to say about this First off if you are bi-polar, you have no business drinking or doing drugs. That's a HUGE NO NO. You are "trying" to clean your life up, you have no business dating until you can hold your own...HUGE NO NO. I take it you are not medicated.... I wouldn't date you either. I have dated 2 men who I later found out were bi-polar and they decided they "didn't need meds" I begged to differ. When they were "up" they were exhausting to be around, when they were "down" they were insufferable. Get the help you need, take care of you, and then try to date... It will work out much better for you and the person you care about that way. |
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