This shows wisdom.....

Why thank you. Miss Lily0923 and I are in total agreement about this.... I'm just lucky I got to post it first!

as long as it takes
taking some me time is always important after a breakup
rushing into something too soon, doesn't work for me

My ex had a b/f before we were even divorced so you're wrong. it's just your personal experience not reality.

I'm sorry I should have said "from my experience, and from what I've seen"

I don't bash men darlin' I just calls
em like I see's 'em...

I will see this, I think women fall in love more often than men, but men fall harder when they do fall... Do you wanna hear my therory on that one?

I'll tell ya anyways.... Men are taught from birth to be less emotional... a girl falls and hurts herself and she is coddled and hugged and the tears kissed away, boys are told "take it like a man" We as a socity allow girls to show more emotion and boys are allowed to show less... hence girls can say "I love you" and it has several levels and meanings, boys don't so much, because of this women express themselves earlier in a relationship, and men freak out and don't know what to do with it...so in turn no matter what their feelings are, get scared and run (not always, but moreso than the other way around) So women are used to and programed for broken hearts at an early age ....(girl comes home and cried becaue some mean boy pulls her hair on the playground because that mean boy can't just say 'you're pretty') We're used to heartbreak and heartache.... When men finally fall they fall hard, women fall, but we know and wait for that shoe to drop, so that one last piece of our heart that is to be won by the oposite sex, may never be won til about 15 years into the relationship.

Knowing this, I want that man who's not affraid to be bold and to push aside the social norms, and someone who can express themselves freely... I never say "I love you" first, I never allow myself to fall too early, and I never when I do, let them fully know verbally, although the non-verbals...if they have an ounce of perception show it alot quicker.

So I'm sorry if you think I man bash... It's not men I detest it's society that I rage against. If you fit into the social norms... you feel that brunt.

I'm sorry I should have said "from my experience, and from what I've seen"

I don't bash men darlin' I just calls
em like I see's 'em...

I will see this, I think women fall in love more often than men, but men fall harder when they do fall... Do you wanna hear my therory on that one?

I'll tell ya anyways.... Men are taught from birth to be less emotional... a girl falls and hurts herself and she is coddled and hugged and the tears kissed away, boys are told "take it like a man" We as a socity allow girls to show more emotion and boys are allowed to show less... hence girls can say "I love you" and it has several levels and meanings, boys don't so much, because of this women express themselves earlier in a relationship, and men freak out and don't know what to do with it...so in turn no matter what their feelings are, get scared and run (not always, but moreso than the other way around) So women are used to and programed for broken hearts at an early age ....(girl comes home and cried becaue some mean boy pulls her hair on the playground because that mean boy can't just say 'you're pretty') We're used to heartbreak and heartache.... When men finally fall they fall hard, women fall, but we know and wait for that shoe to drop, so that one last piece of our heart that is to be won by the oposite sex, may never be won til about 15 years into the relationship.

Knowing this, I want that man who's not affraid to be bold and to push aside the social norms, and someone who can express themselves freely... I never say "I love you" first, I never allow myself to fall too early, and I never when I do, let them fully know verbally, although the non-verbals...if they have an ounce of perception show it alot quicker.

So I'm sorry if you think I man bash... It's not men I detest it's society that I rage against. If you fit into the social norms... you feel that brunt.


Lily .. I appreciate your opinion and I did not mean for it to sound like YOU were man bashing ,, it was more of a general statement / Joke... I find pretty much EVERYTHING funny so .. havin said that ... I agree with your analogy of men and women, but not to the point where its specific ,as not everyone fits that mold , agreed ?....LOL..and I totally agree with your view on society... rage on darlin

So far....four years....lmao

The best way to get over someone, is to get under someone else.

That said, I was actually single for around three years after a serious relationship. Not that there weren't some flings, I was just not interested in concerning myself with anyone but me. Call me selfish, but I was only aware that unless I was happy with me, I was unable to make someone else happy.

Lily .. I appreciate your opinion and I did not mean for it to sound like YOU were man bashing ,, it was more of a general statement / Joke... I find pretty much EVERYTHING funny so .. havin said that ... I agree with your analogy of men and women, but not to the point where its specific ,as not everyone fits that mold , agreed ?....LOL..and I totally agree with your view on society... rage on darlin


I know honey, I read your posts, I knew you meant no harm nor foul.... It's been on my mind lately, and I was raging against the machine...



On occasion I man bash... I try really hard to see all sides of the story, and understand where people come from, it tells me where they are going... but my female side takes over (you know the one that was coddled and the tears were kisssed away) and that big mean boy that pushed me down makes me cry first then comes back with fists flailing... and ain't he surprised...

Well, my ex waited like a week before she was with another guy. That sucked cause I just wasn't ready to move on that quickly. Beer, partying, friends and other things took more of a priority for me. I met women, just didn't have any interest in sex or dating. Yeah, I was annoyed with sex at this time, and just running around banging chicks left and right wasn't me. So, it took me about a year before I started dating.

That's how I feel about it... Besides sex, my guy friends provide the companionship that I need. The sex part, that's what FWB are for. But you can't mix those up....

I don't care what they say, Beer Pong IS therapy.

So is White Russian Air Hockey. I will have to try Beer Pong. Sounds fun.

Wine Darts for me,,,

my ex kept her ex on the string while we were married, i was too "love blind" to let myself see that. it's been 3 years for me, and i'm perfectly ok with that. it will come around when it's supposed to

Ouch!

Another body to forget ... ok

I know honey, I read your posts, I knew you meant no harm nor foul.... It's been on my mind lately, and I was raging against the machine...



On occasion I man bash... I try really hard to see all sides of the story, and understand where people come from, it tells me where they are going... but my female side takes over (you know the one that was coddled and the tears were kisssed away) and that big mean boy that pushed me down makes me cry first then comes back with fists flailing... and ain't he surprised...


Rodney Dangerfield said it perfect .... " do NOT go quietly into THAT , good night "
Rage away ... I'll listen

Well my ex waited...about a couple of weeks - and the divorce wasn't even filed yet.

As for me...taking my time and making friends...the time issue is always tricky. One does need to take time to sort things out and heal.

There iis't a formula and nothing can predict what's around the corner... I'm ready


I have noticed that I'm a little more skittish each time - working on that