people are just too afraid of being upfront and honest...i say put your cards on the table. they have the choice to play the hand you dealt them or fold...its that simple

Okay. Let's break this down shall we?

I think women don't have as hard a time giving "handouts". I will say that I do feel that men just don't get emotional about it (so I agree with you on that), but their are women who do not let emotion get in the way either. Some women want sex, just straight up sex, and while the norm has always been that women are more fragile, emotional and do not just want sex type creatures, that just isn't the case today.

Now, if this guy she was dating did what you are saying he did, then yes, you are balls on accurate. That was his intent, but you also have to look at that if they did have sex, it could have been the best sex he has ever had, and thus he doesn't want to lose that cause it was special for him. Could be this, or could be the sex was good, and he will say anything to get her back in the sack. I will not deny that people (men and women) do this (we want our cake and eat it too).

I know. I know. Guys are notorious for saying what a woman wants to hear, just so they will give it up. And trust me, for the guys out their that want a true relationship, it sucks to have this stigma. So no Volupuous, you are not far off. Alot of guys will do what you stated. But, so will some women too.

Have you ever gone in a Shoe Store, and had trouble picking one pair of Shoes So you wind up buying two pair Its just two many choices. A lot of Guy's shop according to their options. Just to many pair of shoes to choose from.

So women are shoes?

GAL

That's an apt analogy yep...

As too the OP, it has more to do with the fact that after two dates there really is no responsibility too commitment yet.

Just because I date someone once or twice does not mean I want too eventually get married, burden my life with children, a mortgage, and then eventually alimony and child support payments because of an ill-considered promise made in order to get laid.

But even without going to that extreme, I can't think of one emotionally healthy person that would want to be serious after dating just a couple of times.

As for sex, well, women often want the emotional passion, and aren't usually prepared to put their feelings at risk. Men OTOH, are simply looking for a nice warm moist place to make a deposit... It's got nothing to do with lack of respect, or caring, it's just fun.

What guys don't respect is a girl who puts all her self worth and meaning into that one act like it is something precious... it just isn't. If you are actually fun to be around and have good personal qualities we will be back and eventually settle down.

Dang! and i thought i was the only one

not much.!!!!! sorry to hear that though.!!!

I was going to say what you said...a few dates doesn't necessarily mean a commitment....before i commit I want to be sure so it is not unusual to see 2 or 3 people early on in a relationship....If I get lucky & am attracted to one more than the others, then at that point I will drop the others for the one.....

aint just guys that think that way darling....

Okay. Let's break this down shall we?

I think women don't have as hard a time giving "handouts". I will say that I do feel that men just don't get emotional about it (so I agree with you on that), but their are women who do not let emotion get in the way either. Some women want sex, just straight up sex, and while the norm has always been that women are more fragile, emotional and do not just want sex type creatures, that just isn't the case today.

My response: And some of us still equate sex with love. Pathetic, I know. But, I do.

This whole conversation makes me crazy!!

It is human nature to look at, and possibly sample the grass on the other side of the fence.

If you have only been on a couple of dates, and you aren't "promised" to each other. Then the gate is open. The gate goes both ways. Gals you can go sample some other grass as well as the guys can. Then come back to the one, or continue to see the one.

At that stage in the "relationship" It's all open. The point of dating is to find a potential Mate, so... SHOP AROUND!!

I agree! Happy shopping!

In my most recent experience, why I have decided to be single for a while, I have noticed that all the guys I was "talking" to where talking to several women themselves. I flat out told them all that I wasn't chasing them around anymore and if they wanted to remain my friend and not hope for free handouts then they can contact me. Out of 10 guys only 2 remain! I am not dating either one! We are still "talking" and getting to know each other that way, until one of them ponies up! They both know that I don't want to date right now though.

Its just a couple of dates. Going out having fun, getting to know each other.
I think its fine to go out with one individual, and still go out with another.

THANK YOU!!! Lighten up people.... a few weeks together isn't forever. Just have fun, make clear what you like, and don't sweat the end game.

girls do the same ****!

I thought that dating implied non-exclusivity. The next step would be a committed relationship.

People who are merely dating are free to see other people. I thought that was the whole point of dating - you date until you find someone you want to settle down with.

it's called "having a backup plan"