Topic: In a new relationship
dawnyhi's photo
Wed 08/06/08 11:51 AM
How do you help someone get over thier initial fears?

franshade's photo
Wed 08/06/08 11:51 AM
stop scaring them :thumbsup:

Etrain's photo
Wed 08/06/08 11:52 AM
You really can't do much about it but be yourself and hope they snap out of itdrinker

Wonderbread's photo
Wed 08/06/08 11:52 AM
Dr. Phil.

itsmetina's photo
Wed 08/06/08 11:52 AM
provide alcohol and credit card:tongue:

dawnyhi's photo
Wed 08/06/08 11:52 AM

stop scaring them :thumbsup:


laugh ok i will try....

ImLookingForU2's photo
Wed 08/06/08 11:52 AM
tequila

Monier's photo
Wed 08/06/08 11:53 AM

How do you help someone get over thier initial fears?



Shock them into the reality that is you. Either they can handle it or they can run away.

Wonderbread's photo
Wed 08/06/08 11:53 AM

provide alcohol and credit card:tongue:
that was just way to easy tina.
bigsmile

Jules0565's photo
Wed 08/06/08 11:53 AM
Everyone might have that initial fear of being hurt again.. but if we let that fear take over too much..we'll never find love again. We just have to keep reminding ourselves that not everyone is like the past..

"take a chance.. you never know where it might lead"

no photo
Wed 08/06/08 11:55 AM
One needs a plethora of patience.

dawnyhi's photo
Wed 08/06/08 11:55 AM


How do you help someone get over thier initial fears?



Shock them into the reality that is you. Either they can handle it or they can run away.



how da heck is cudahay!!! i am in sturgeon bay yip

Monier's photo
Wed 08/06/08 11:56 AM

Everyone might have that initial fear of being hurt again.. but if we let that fear take over too much..we'll never find love again. We just have to keep reminding ourselves that not everyone is like the past..

"take a chance.. you never know where it might lead"


Exactly. Believe in your own strength and qualities. Treat every other person as 'brand new'. Don't let the past screw up the present

franshade's photo
Wed 08/06/08 11:59 AM
you can winking beat it out of them winking

Monier's photo
Wed 08/06/08 12:01 PM
Edited by Monier on Wed 08/06/08 12:01 PM



How do you help someone get over thier initial fears?



Shock them into the reality that is you. Either they can handle it or they can run away.



how da heck is cudahay!!! i am in sturgeon bay yip



Cudahy is well ... Cudahy. Nothing happens, good or bad. At least it is quiet :)

dawnyhi's photo
Wed 08/06/08 12:04 PM
It is quiet here 'cept in the summer too touristy

BobbyJ's photo
Wed 08/06/08 12:09 PM



How do you help someone get over thier initial fears?



Shock them into the reality that is you. Either they can handle it or they can run away.



how da heck is cudahay!!! i am in sturgeon bay yip


Geez, you guys are close. I'm in Mequon (20 miles north of Milwaukee).

dawnyhi's photo
Wed 08/06/08 12:10 PM
i gradumated at M.A.T.C there !!! in mequon wisconsin rocks ...

lilith401's photo
Wed 08/06/08 12:21 PM
You can't make anyone do anything, but I find that pointing out the obvious is VERY helpful. My friends do this for me all the time.

The best thing is this: DO NOT date if you have any feelings other than apathy for your ex.

dawnyhi's photo
Wed 08/06/08 12:31 PM

You can't make anyone do anything, but I find that pointing out the obvious is VERY helpful. My friends do this for me all the time.

The best thing is this: DO NOT date if you have any feelings other than apathy for your ex.



great insight and I am at that point now and starting just to make friends not sure if I want to step into the relationship part. It just seems that sometimes men talk about fears or ex's and if I like them I may try to help them get over it but i have no idea how to help another person so I just let them be and make another friend. It just seems to be too much work but if I find someone to make a relationship work with I hope the focus is on us and not those past fears.