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Topic: help me out here
Sexysari004 Joined Mon 09/17/07 Posts: 625	Mon 08/04/08 09:07 PM
Theres a guy i started seeing. We both have completely different views on where we want to go with our lives. I plan on finishing college moving to Texas maybe and start settling down and do the family thing. He wants to move out to the east coast and work for the paper. he doesn't want a family or anything like that. We have nothing in common but have fun just hanging out. What do you say when you just kinda know the relationship isnt going anywhere.....

SKPCG Joined Mon 03/03/08 Posts: 14708	Mon 08/04/08 09:08 PM
When it's time, you say, "Goodbye and best wishes".

justwantlove87 Joined Thu 06/05/08 Posts: 810	Mon 08/04/08 09:08 PM
friends are better

Sexysari004 Joined Mon 09/17/07 Posts: 625	Mon 08/04/08 09:08 PM
but how do i bring it up. i mean.. just tell him i think we have no future. hes not even willing to wait to move he wants to move in the next few months but im still in college and cant move

ddn122 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 12855	Mon 08/04/08 09:08 PM
what do you say??? Thanks for the bj, sugar

Sexysari004 Joined Mon 09/17/07 Posts: 625	Mon 08/04/08 09:09 PM
the "its not you its me" line is just so lame so i dunno

Wolf19 Joined Wed 01/23/08 Posts: 6172	Mon 08/04/08 09:09 PM
if you still believ it can work,then try to make it work,but if it feels hopeless,then it would be wise to part

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Mon 08/04/08 09:09 PM
It might be best to cut your ties now, it will be easier on you both

nekred Joined Tue 11/20/07 Posts: 522	Mon 08/04/08 09:09 PM
I always believed you just enjoy it for what it is...Maybe some more will come out of it...If not you enjoyed another exp. in life and possibly found a new life long friend...

Hawkeyed Joined Tue 07/22/08 Posts: 123	Mon 08/04/08 09:10 PM
Sounds like you guys are just friends.

Sexysari004 Joined Mon 09/17/07 Posts: 625	Mon 08/04/08 09:10 PM
if you still believ it can work,then try to make it work,but if it feels hopeless,then it would be wise to part him and i have had this convo and broken up over it once. we have nooo common interests and it always seems when we talk or anything he doesnt say anything. nor does he take any concern into what im doing.

Wolf19 Joined Wed 01/23/08 Posts: 6172	Mon 08/04/08 09:12 PM Edited by Wolf19 on Mon 08/04/08 09:12 PM
if you still believ it can work,then try to make it work,but if it feels hopeless,then it would be wise to part him and i have had this convo and broken up over it once. we have nooo common interests and it always seems when we talk or anything he doesnt say anything. nor does he take any concern into what im doing. then tell him that you need someone to be there for you and listen to you,and im pretty sure he`ll get the messege(but put it in a nicer way)

puckthefackers Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 1004	Mon 08/04/08 09:12 PM
Its not that difficult. Just be honest with him and let him know that you both have a good time when you hang out but have different goals in life. He will understand.

merlin2525 Joined Sun 06/17/07 Posts: 2819	Mon 08/04/08 09:12 PM
say: We've had some great times together But I have to look out for my future. The only way I can do that is if I stay here and finish college. I hope we can remain friends. yadda, yadda, yadda. Just wing it from there. You'll find the words. depending on what he says

A64WOODY Joined Tue 03/04/08 Posts: 6830	Mon 08/04/08 09:12 PM
"Between a B-ya and a D-ya......C-YA!!!!

Sexysari004 Joined Mon 09/17/07 Posts: 625	Mon 08/04/08 09:13 PM
if you still believ it can work,then try to make it work,but if it feels hopeless,then it would be wise to part him and i have had this convo and broken up over it once. we have nooo common interests and it always seems when we talk or anything he doesnt say anything. nor does he take any concern into what im doing. then tell him that you need someone to be there for you and listen to you,and im pretty sure he`ll get the messege(but put it in a nicer way) i have... he knows it bother me... we have been together 3 months.. and he didnt even know what i was studying in college... and i talk about my school alot...

Wolf19 Joined Wed 01/23/08 Posts: 6172	Mon 08/04/08 09:14 PM
if you still believ it can work,then try to make it work,but if it feels hopeless,then it would be wise to part him and i have had this convo and broken up over it once. we have nooo common interests and it always seems when we talk or anything he doesnt say anything. nor does he take any concern into what im doing. then tell him that you need someone to be there for you and listen to you,and im pretty sure he`ll get the messege(but put it in a nicer way) i have... he knows it bother me... we have been together 3 months.. and he didnt even know what i was studying in college... and i talk about my school alot... and he doesnt listen?

Sexysari004 Joined Mon 09/17/07 Posts: 625	Mon 08/04/08 09:16 PM
if you still believ it can work,then try to make it work,but if it feels hopeless,then it would be wise to part him and i have had this convo and broken up over it once. we have nooo common interests and it always seems when we talk or anything he doesnt say anything. nor does he take any concern into what im doing. then tell him that you need someone to be there for you and listen to you,and im pretty sure he`ll get the messege(but put it in a nicer way) i have... he knows it bother me... we have been together 3 months.. and he didnt even know what i was studying in college... and i talk about my school alot... and he doesnt listen? he does for a little bit then he goes back to blowing off talking to me to do other things. we live an hour apart and the only time i see him is when i go there every other weekend and im lucky if i get to talk to him on aim because hes usually not on his computer and forget phone calls weve never had a conversation over 45 seconds on the phone

robert1652 Joined Wed 11/14/07 Posts: 8447	Mon 08/04/08 09:18 PM
the "its not you its me" line is just so lame so i dunno how about I am doing this for you hahahahaha

guyguy1225 Joined Sat 09/15/07 Posts: 1936	Mon 08/04/08 09:18 PM
if you still believ it can work,then try to make it work,but if it feels hopeless,then it would be wise to part him and i have had this convo and broken up over it once. we have nooo common interests and it always seems when we talk or anything he doesnt say anything. nor does he take any concern into what im doing. then tell him that you need someone to be there for you and listen to you,and im pretty sure he`ll get the messege(but put it in a nicer way) i have... he knows it bother me... we have been together 3 months.. and he didnt even know what i was studying in college... and i talk about my school alot... there 's a clue where his interest lies !!