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Topic: help me out here
nurjoyce Joined Thu 01/04/07 Posts: 10283	Mon 08/04/08 09:19 PM
tell him the truth.....you both have different goals taking you to different places and you would rather end it now

Sexysari004 Joined Mon 09/17/07 Posts: 625	Mon 08/04/08 09:19 PM
if you still believ it can work,then try to make it work,but if it feels hopeless,then it would be wise to part him and i have had this convo and broken up over it once. we have nooo common interests and it always seems when we talk or anything he doesnt say anything. nor does he take any concern into what im doing. then tell him that you need someone to be there for you and listen to you,and im pretty sure he`ll get the messege(but put it in a nicer way) i have... he knows it bother me... we have been together 3 months.. and he didnt even know what i was studying in college... and i talk about my school alot... there 's a clue where his interest lies !! little does he know but i read his live journal blog entries and hes only mentioned me in 3 of them in the last 3 months and he posts daily.. he mostly talks about his ex gf and how he misses her "friendship"

Wolf19 Joined Wed 01/23/08 Posts: 6172	Mon 08/04/08 09:21 PM
if you still believ it can work,then try to make it work,but if it feels hopeless,then it would be wise to part him and i have had this convo and broken up over it once. we have nooo common interests and it always seems when we talk or anything he doesnt say anything. nor does he take any concern into what im doing. then tell him that you need someone to be there for you and listen to you,and im pretty sure he`ll get the messege(but put it in a nicer way) i have... he knows it bother me... we have been together 3 months.. and he didnt even know what i was studying in college... and i talk about my school alot... and he doesnt listen? he does for a little bit then he goes back to blowing off talking to me to do other things. we live an hour apart and the only time i see him is when i go there every other weekend and im lucky if i get to talk to him on aim because hes usually not on his computer and forget phone calls weve never had a conversation over 45 seconds on the phone wow! sounds like a jerk,well,ill say this,if you really want a person like that,then you should just stay with him,but if you want someone who will pay attention to you and wont just blow you off after a few minutes of conversation,then it would be best to tell him that you want to see other people. but the choice is yours,and i hope you will make the right choice

ehhget Joined Wed 12/05/07 Posts: 109	Mon 08/04/08 09:23 PM
Sorry to break it to you but the guys not into you and nothing you do will change that- I know you dont want to see it but for instance you have to go to him and he is going to move before you even can- come on your in college- you can figure it out. Sorry but I did the same thing to the girl I was dating when I moved across the country but the only difference was I told her from the start I didnt want her to come but she still asked if she could until I left, I felt bad but I still told her no.

Sexysari004 Joined Mon 09/17/07 Posts: 625	Mon 08/04/08 09:23 PM
if you still believ it can work,then try to make it work,but if it feels hopeless,then it would be wise to part him and i have had this convo and broken up over it once. we have nooo common interests and it always seems when we talk or anything he doesnt say anything. nor does he take any concern into what im doing. then tell him that you need someone to be there for you and listen to you,and im pretty sure he`ll get the messege(but put it in a nicer way) i have... he knows it bother me... we have been together 3 months.. and he didnt even know what i was studying in college... and i talk about my school alot... and he doesnt listen? he does for a little bit then he goes back to blowing off talking to me to do other things. we live an hour apart and the only time i see him is when i go there every other weekend and im lucky if i get to talk to him on aim because hes usually not on his computer and forget phone calls weve never had a conversation over 45 seconds on the phone wow! sounds like a jerk,well,ill say this,if you really want a person like that,then you should just stay with him,but if you want someone who will pay attention to you and wont just blow you off after a few minutes of conversation,then it would be best to tell him that you want to see other people. but the choice is yours,and i hope you will make the right choice i cant say im completely innocent, for the last two days ive been talking to a guy on here. who genuinely is interested in what i have to say. i just wasnt sure how to break the news to the guy im seeing

Wolf19 Joined Wed 01/23/08 Posts: 6172	Mon 08/04/08 09:26 PM Edited by Wolf19 on Mon 08/04/08 09:27 PM
if you still believ it can work,then try to make it work,but if it feels hopeless,then it would be wise to part him and i have had this convo and broken up over it once. we have nooo common interests and it always seems when we talk or anything he doesnt say anything. nor does he take any concern into what im doing. then tell him that you need someone to be there for you and listen to you,and im pretty sure he`ll get the messege(but put it in a nicer way) i have... he knows it bother me... we have been together 3 months.. and he didnt even know what i was studying in college... and i talk about my school alot... and he doesnt listen? he does for a little bit then he goes back to blowing off talking to me to do other things. we live an hour apart and the only time i see him is when i go there every other weekend and im lucky if i get to talk to him on aim because hes usually not on his computer and forget phone calls weve never had a conversation over 45 seconds on the phone wow! sounds like a jerk,well,ill say this,if you really want a person like that,then you should just stay with him,but if you want someone who will pay attention to you and wont just blow you off after a few minutes of conversation,then it would be best to tell him that you want to see other people. but the choice is yours,and i hope you will make the right choice i cant say im completely innocent, for the last two days ive been talking to a guy on here. who genuinely is interested in what i have to say. i just wasnt sure how to break the news to the guy im seeing breaking the news to the guy you talking to on here? or the guy that your seeing now?

Sexysari004 Joined Mon 09/17/07 Posts: 625	Mon 08/04/08 09:27 PM
the guy im seeing the one who doesnt listen to me.. ive never broken up with anyone im usually the dumpee not the dumper

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Mon 08/04/08 09:28 PM
Just tell him your dating me now

Sexysari004 Joined Mon 09/17/07 Posts: 625	Mon 08/04/08 09:29 PM
Just tell him your dating me now lol

Wolf19 Joined Wed 01/23/08 Posts: 6172	Mon 08/04/08 09:30 PM Edited by Wolf19 on Mon 08/04/08 09:30 PM
the guy im seeing the one who doesnt listen to me.. ive never broken up with anyone im usually the dumpee not the dumper well,me personally i dont like to beat around the bush,just a straight up answer.Is it that if you tell him,something might happen?(he might hit you or something like that?)

Wolf19 Joined Wed 01/23/08 Posts: 6172	Mon 08/04/08 09:31 PM
Just tell him your dating me now theres your answer

Sexysari004 Joined Mon 09/17/07 Posts: 625	Mon 08/04/08 09:32 PM
the guy im seeing the one who doesnt listen to me.. ive never broken up with anyone im usually the dumpee not the dumper well,me personally i dont like to beat around the bush,just a straight up answer.Is it that if you tell him,something might happen?(he might hit you or something like that?) no no hes a nice guy hes not abusive in any way but he gets really depressed so its more like im worried about what he might do...

Wolf19 Joined Wed 01/23/08 Posts: 6172	Mon 08/04/08 09:34 PM
the guy im seeing the one who doesnt listen to me.. ive never broken up with anyone im usually the dumpee not the dumper well,me personally i dont like to beat around the bush,just a straight up answer.Is it that if you tell him,something might happen?(he might hit you or something like that?) no no hes a nice guy hes not abusive in any way but he gets really depressed so its more like im worried about what he might do... ah,the whole guilt thing,well there is no easy way of doing it,but just try to do it in the nicest way possible

Sexysari004 Joined Mon 09/17/07 Posts: 625	Mon 08/04/08 09:35 PM
the guy im seeing the one who doesnt listen to me.. ive never broken up with anyone im usually the dumpee not the dumper well,me personally i dont like to beat around the bush,just a straight up answer.Is it that if you tell him,something might happen?(he might hit you or something like that?) no no hes a nice guy hes not abusive in any way but he gets really depressed so its more like im worried about what he might do... ah,the whole guilt thing,well there is no easy way of doing it,but just try to do it in the nicest way possible ty wolfey youve made me feel a bit better about ending it with him

Wolf19 Joined Wed 01/23/08 Posts: 6172	Mon 08/04/08 09:36 PM
the guy im seeing the one who doesnt listen to me.. ive never broken up with anyone im usually the dumpee not the dumper well,me personally i dont like to beat around the bush,just a straight up answer.Is it that if you tell him,something might happen?(he might hit you or something like that?) no no hes a nice guy hes not abusive in any way but he gets really depressed so its more like im worried about what he might do... ah,the whole guilt thing,well there is no easy way of doing it,but just try to do it in the nicest way possible ty wolfey youve made me feel a bit better about ending it with him ah,no prob,glad to help

ElaineSeekingJerry Joined Thu 05/01/08 Posts: 978	Mon 08/04/08 10:11 PM
Just stop calling, emailing, etc. ... if/when he eventually notices, tell him 'Oh, sorry, don't you remember? I broke up with you weeks ago, guess you weren't listening!'