Hi, my divorce was final about 5 months ago. We have a 6 year old
little boy and things are ok but sometimes I have trouble with all that
has happened. I have not been going out, just working alot. I try and
be there for my son as much as a can but I feel bad that I'm not there
for him 100 % of the time.

Jeff

Give it time, do what you need to to make yourself happy and everything
possible to let your son know that all is ok and that both mom and dad
stll love him even though they are not together. Do the normal things
with your son.............The more normal and stable the better he will
feel.

Speaking from exp. here. Been divorced for a year and have a 6 year old
son myself.

Thanks for the good advice.

Communication is the key,, Remind him that Mom and Dad
still love him that will never change, just because
you two are not together,,, and the issues that you two had
have has nothing to do with the Love you two share for him.
We all do the best we can,,, you will have good days and bad,
But when you spend time with your son, make it you and him
time, dont dwell on the divorce,,,Always let him no that
you are thier for him no matter what...

Gosh, I'm so sorry, it must be very hard on you Jeff and you also Kal. I
guess the only thing to do is take it one day at a time. My heart goes
out to both of you and your little boys.

You know what , this is never easy. I have been divorced for 7 years. In
the beginnig I placed all my anxiety and pain into work, my daughter and
things. Then when my daughter got married and I was left alone, I was
lost and you know what you have never heard quiet like this kind. I have
learned that it is best to deal with your emotions and not always try to
be the big person by hiding them. it hurt a lot. I needed to cry more,
scream and yell some. I was married to this man for 17 years! Time has
been good to both of us and I am thamkful that he is and always has been
a good father. Now we are good friends and laugh about our memories and
you know what, A part of me will love him forever and that I can say and
be proud. Just because we as a couple failed, love was and always will
be there. Give yourself time......Timber

I agree with timber.Ive been divorced for 20 years and I have 2 grown
sons.I reakon DIVORCE is something you NEVER get over to some
extent..escpecially where kids are involved.Im no expert when it comes
to feelings of theheart so I cant give advise except to say try to move
on and make it as simple as possible for all involved..your son
mostly!!!

Wish you well. I have been there,no kids tho.Time makes the aches
and pains subside.Stay busy when feeling down.Depression thrives on idle
hands and mind.When not at work stay busy with your son.Will benefit
both of you.Play ball,go to the park or a movie.Do your best to keep
your mind on other things.

Been divorced for 15 years spent my time with my kids that is the best
therapy there is!

I can understand your feels for my children live in New Zealand and Im
in the states but I work hard for them and write.

Well the funny thing is that your son is there for YOU in these times.
It goes both ways. Enjoy his company as best you can. Do things that are
fun.

Keep yourself busy - give yourself a project or a goal that can be
accomplished in a short time. Follow through. Expand your goals - follow
through.

Try not to think of the b1tch and, most definetly DONT BUY A GUN on a
whimsical thought. Try to keep both thoughts outta your head. (that
was supposed to be funny - i mean, really, who'd have a whimiscal
thought anyway)

Been divorced 4 years now and it does get better. Just remember its
pretty much impossible to be there for your children 100% of the time.
Make the time you have with them count 120% by concentrating on quality
of the time you spend with him and not just quantity.

Don't beat yourself up because you are not there 100% of the time. By
making a living you are being there for your son in ways he doesnt
understand yet but are still important.

It took me almost 2 years to find a good balance between work, my
children, and actually having a social life again. As has been said
just take it one day at a time and every day will get a little better.