Its so formal when people refer it to a "DATE' that i have no clue what am i suppose to say... I blank out and talk about mundane things which are boring..."where do u work?, do you like your job?"

I feel bored even asking these questions, the only reason why i ask is to avoid the awkward silence and the fact that i have nothing else to talk about. See its not even the fact that i cant come up with a topic, its the fact that the "DATE" make the whole situation more confined to a "love talk" event. ugh...so Should do you all talk about on your "dates" (jokes, stories...etc?) or do you have some sort of event planned to do and improvise while sticking to the planned events?

thanks for reading:)

Plan something and then go with what feels good to both of you. Don't be afraid to ask if a change of plans would be cool. Never confine yourself to a plan unless she needs to stick to it. Be open. And listen. Topics will come up fast if you listen to her.

A "Date"..Whats that?..Explain please

I usually take a long time to get to know someone before I meet them so we've built a knowledge base of things to talk about.. I will also talk about most anything even bring up off the wall stuff to get the conversation going... If they can't keep up then I know it's pretty much the last date b/c I won't carry the conversations all the time...

If you're uncomfortable talking, plan an activity date. That way you will only have to talk about the "activity". Rock climbing, miniature golf, bowling, horseback riding are all activities that allow interaction but you're not stuck just talking, because you're doing something. And you'll have stuff to talk about later also.
Good luck!

If her boobs are real or not

If there is no sex on the first date, then no second date!!

((((prncs))))

We always talked fine!

Dried fruit, it's good in nut bread. You can find it in your grocery store next to the rasins.

The purpose of a "date" is to get to know someone so there are no mundane questions to ask. If she would ask me what my favorite food was, I would probably answer with "Breast of chicken" since I would be thinking about her boobs anyway! Hey, I am just a man, it's in the rule book!

We talk about everything....I'm very "intense" evidently

(((Jimmy))) yes we did sweets...

"love talk"? on a first date? No way, dude. If someone started that with me I would call a cab.

Depends on the guy, his life experiences & interests.

Goals and lifestyle realities are things that are logical topics to discuss, to get acquainted and to decide if you mesh.

Just chill dude. RELAX. Talk as you would for any friend you are sharing a meal with ..

It's supposed to be comfortable yanno.

If she's up to breaking the record of fastest one to take off their clothes.

talking with a woman doesn't have to be difficult....

Most women love to talk so it helps to learn how to become a good listener....

Tell me about your day is usually a good opener because it brings you both to the here & now....as she speaks make sure you establish eye contact frequently....use nonverbal cues such as nodding your head to acknowledge what she is saying....show that you are interested by asking her for more information about what she is discussing....add to what she says, but don't try to be confrontational or divert the conversation....as your comfort level increases your questions can become more personal such as tell me about your family? Do you have siblings? etc....family is important to most people & its usually a safe topic.....share of yourself on a need to know basis, but remember in the beginning if she is interested she will ask you about yourself so there is no need to get too much into yourself....Hope this helps...

Very good advice, BlueskyJ - particularly the part about being a good listener. Listening attentively in itself shows a deeper than casual interest. Now if I just had someone to listen to.........

That's our Jim