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Topic: Is it all worth it!!
AtariBaby Joined Thu 07/17/08 Posts: 1497	Sun 08/03/08 12:37 PM
Its all about Lust I think you are right and that applies to both male and female!! For the most part that is true, but sex should actually be "making love", which should be the end act which completes the whole package - the frienship, love, compassion, tolerance, caring, and true connection to the other's heart, mind, and soul. I know, I know, fantasy for most, but just saying, that's the way it should be, thank God it is for some. All you have said is correct, that is the way I have felt since I was a teenager but I am now 34 and have not met anybody that is remotely similar to myself. How long must I wait, till I am 60 or 70. It is a nice dream but I think I have been walking the wrong path for too long!!

scoundrel Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 5960	Sun 08/03/08 12:40 PM
I havent met a person, place or thing that was perfect. Why should love be any different??? The problem lies in picking the wrong person.......people need to be really picky when choosing their life partner! I picked the wrong woman. She made me love so much that I changed into Mr. Right, for her. The years were lean, and devotion the only glue that held us together, with faith in the other's love. I would do it again. It's the devotion that molds us to be increasingly right together. Pick a song, and sing it in all rhythms of your own making. The song that we sang? Little Arrows.

AtariBaby Joined Thu 07/17/08 Posts: 1497	Sun 08/03/08 12:41 PM
It's worth it to some. My parents are still happily married after 36 years. I have quite a few friends who also have parents who are still happily married. But Em is it really happy or is it an act of convienence or fear of change. I think love was more respected in previous times but nowadays it is all about good sex and material values!! I wish there was more people like your parents around in this day!! I'm sure there are married couples out there who are together for convenience. But, to think anyone who is still married is like that?? Why? I do not know. It is all that i see. I see couples in pubs ignoring each other and not buying each other a drink. Him in one corner giving out about her and her in another corner giving out about him. Strange behaviour!!

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Sun 08/03/08 12:41 PM
If love is blind, why is lingerie so popular?

IndigoIllusions Joined Sun 05/25/08 Posts: 5625	Sun 08/03/08 12:44 PM
Its all about Lust I think you are right and that applies to both male and female!! For the most part that is true, but sex should actually be "making love", which should be the end act which completes the whole package - the frienship, love, compassion, tolerance, caring, and true connection to the other's heart, mind, and soul. I know, I know, fantasy for most, but just saying, that's the way it should be, thank God it is for some. All you have said is correct, that is the way I have felt since I was a teenager but I am now 34 and have not met anybody that is remotely similar to myself. How long must I wait, till I am 60 or 70. It is a nice dream but I think I have been walking the wrong path for too long!! I understand your point, a lot of people feel that way nowdays, but for myself, I would rather be really happy when I find someone to complete my life the way I want and deserve, than to make my body temporarily happy and never feel that connection to another as it should be. I can't even think about doing anything intimate with someone else unless their is already a relationship in place and the connection is there, and it looks like it might actually last for a while. jmo.

IndigoIllusions Joined Sun 05/25/08 Posts: 5625	Sun 08/03/08 12:46 PM
If love is blind, why is lingerie so popular?

AtariBaby Joined Thu 07/17/08 Posts: 1497	Sun 08/03/08 12:48 PM
If love is blind, why is lingerie so popular? Ah you speak of lust!!

AtariBaby Joined Thu 07/17/08 Posts: 1497	Sun 08/03/08 12:49 PM
Its all about Lust I think you are right and that applies to both male and female!! For the most part that is true, but sex should actually be "making love", which should be the end act which completes the whole package - the frienship, love, compassion, tolerance, caring, and true connection to the other's heart, mind, and soul. I know, I know, fantasy for most, but just saying, that's the way it should be, thank God it is for some. All you have said is correct, that is the way I have felt since I was a teenager but I am now 34 and have not met anybody that is remotely similar to myself. How long must I wait, till I am 60 or 70. It is a nice dream but I think I have been walking the wrong path for too long!! I understand your point, a lot of people feel that way nowdays, but for myself, I would rather be really happy when I find someone to complete my life the way I want and deserve, than to make my body temporarily happy and never feel that connection to another as it should be. I can't even think about doing anything intimate with someone else unless their is already a relationship in place and the connection is there, and it looks like it might actually last for a while. jmo. And I totally understand your view but maybe instead of us all being optimists maybe we should all consider becoming realists!!

Amathyst2 Joined Thu 06/19/08 Posts: 1226	Sun 08/03/08 12:50 PM
I havent met a person, place or thing that was perfect. Why should love be any different??? The problem lies in picking the wrong person.......people need to be really picky when choosing their life partner! Gypsy! You took the words right out of my mouth!

IndigoIllusions Joined Sun 05/25/08 Posts: 5625	Sun 08/03/08 12:52 PM
I havent met a person, place or thing that was perfect. Why should love be any different??? The problem lies in picking the wrong person.......people need to be really picky when choosing their life partner! I picked the wrong woman. She made me love so much that I changed into Mr. Right, for her. The years were lean, and devotion the only glue that held us together, with faith in the other's love. I would do it again. It's the devotion that molds us to be increasingly right together. Pick a song, and sing it in all rhythms of your own making. The song that we sang? Little Arrows. Exactly! It really sucks when the person we picked and thought they would feel the same forever as we did, stopped and left, but I would and am doing the same. I won't change my goals or thinking as I do for anyone, I won't lower my morals or knowing what I deserve and can find again. If we did once, then there must be others out there as we are, it just takes time and patience to find them, and it took a lot of crap and time, but I have done just that.

IndigoIllusions Joined Sun 05/25/08 Posts: 5625	Sun 08/03/08 12:56 PM
Its all about Lust I think you are right and that applies to both male and female!! For the most part that is true, but sex should actually be "making love", which should be the end act which completes the whole package - the frienship, love, compassion, tolerance, caring, and true connection to the other's heart, mind, and soul. I know, I know, fantasy for most, but just saying, that's the way it should be, thank God it is for some. All you have said is correct, that is the way I have felt since I was a teenager but I am now 34 and have not met anybody that is remotely similar to myself. How long must I wait, till I am 60 or 70. It is a nice dream but I think I have been walking the wrong path for too long!! I understand your point, a lot of people feel that way nowdays, but for myself, I would rather be really happy when I find someone to complete my life the way I want and deserve, than to make my body temporarily happy and never feel that connection to another as it should be. I can't even think about doing anything intimate with someone else unless their is already a relationship in place and the connection is there, and it looks like it might actually last for a while. jmo. And I totally understand your view but maybe instead of us all being optimists maybe we should all consider becoming realists!! But it's not being unrealistic to be optimistic. To expect to find somone as we are. If WE are this way - true, faithful, monogamous and want lasting devotion, then why is it being unrealistic to believe that there are others out there the same way? We just have to find them, I know it seems like forever and it gets so frustrating, but one won't ever find what we actually want if we just take what we can get.

Etrain Joined Wed 11/21/07 Posts: 19684	Sun 08/03/08 12:58 PM
Its all about Lust I think you are right and that applies to both male and female!! For the most part that is true, but sex should actually be "making love", which should be the end act which completes the whole package - the frienship, love, compassion, tolerance, caring, and true connection to the other's heart, mind, and soul. I know, I know, fantasy for most, but just saying, that's the way it should be, thank God it is for some. All you have said is correct, that is the way I have felt since I was a teenager but I am now 34 and have not met anybody that is remotely similar to myself. How long must I wait, till I am 60 or 70. It is a nice dream but I think I have been walking the wrong path for too long!! I understand your point, a lot of people feel that way nowdays, but for myself, I would rather be really happy when I find someone to complete my life the way I want and deserve, than to make my body temporarily happy and never feel that connection to another as it should be. I can't even think about doing anything intimate with someone else unless their is already a relationship in place and the connection is there, and it looks like it might actually last for a while. jmo. And I totally understand your view but maybe instead of us all being optimists maybe we should all consider becoming realists!! But it's not being unrealistic to be optimistic. To expect to find somone as we are. If WE are this way - true, faithful, monogamous and want lasting devotion, then why is it being unrealistic to believe that there are others out there the same way? We just have to find them, I know it seems like forever and it gets so frustrating, but one won't ever find what we actually want if we just take what we can get. I beieve you are right...I just won't exchange rings again...marriage isn't good

IndigoIllusions Joined Sun 05/25/08 Posts: 5625	Sun 08/03/08 01:04 PM
Its all about Lust I think you are right and that applies to both male and female!! For the most part that is true, but sex should actually be "making love", which should be the end act which completes the whole package - the frienship, love, compassion, tolerance, caring, and true connection to the other's heart, mind, and soul. I know, I know, fantasy for most, but just saying, that's the way it should be, thank God it is for some. All you have said is correct, that is the way I have felt since I was a teenager but I am now 34 and have not met anybody that is remotely similar to myself. How long must I wait, till I am 60 or 70. It is a nice dream but I think I have been walking the wrong path for too long!! I understand your point, a lot of people feel that way nowdays, but for myself, I would rather be really happy when I find someone to complete my life the way I want and deserve, than to make my body temporarily happy and never feel that connection to another as it should be. I can't even think about doing anything intimate with someone else unless their is already a relationship in place and the connection is there, and it looks like it might actually last for a while. jmo. And I totally understand your view but maybe instead of us all being optimists maybe we should all consider becoming realists!! But it's not being unrealistic to be optimistic. To expect to find somone as we are. If WE are this way - true, faithful, monogamous and want lasting devotion, then why is it being unrealistic to believe that there are others out there the same way? We just have to find them, I know it seems like forever and it gets so frustrating, but one won't ever find what we actually want if we just take what we can get. I beieve you are right...I just won't exchange rings again...marriage isn't good I don't know if I would actually do the marriage thing again, because I believe the commitment should be in you and your partner, not a piece of paper. As we all well know, a piece of paper means nothing to most people, but it's not the paper that you live with and love and build a life with. The marriage certificate, as with any contract, pretty much just clarifies what you are trying to do, it's the actions afterwards that matter.

Etrain Joined Wed 11/21/07 Posts: 19684	Sun 08/03/08 01:10 PM
Its all about Lust I think you are right and that applies to both male and female!! For the most part that is true, but sex should actually be "making love", which should be the end act which completes the whole package - the frienship, love, compassion, tolerance, caring, and true connection to the other's heart, mind, and soul. I know, I know, fantasy for most, but just saying, that's the way it should be, thank God it is for some. All you have said is correct, that is the way I have felt since I was a teenager but I am now 34 and have not met anybody that is remotely similar to myself. How long must I wait, till I am 60 or 70. It is a nice dream but I think I have been walking the wrong path for too long!! I understand your point, a lot of people feel that way nowdays, but for myself, I would rather be really happy when I find someone to complete my life the way I want and deserve, than to make my body temporarily happy and never feel that connection to another as it should be. I can't even think about doing anything intimate with someone else unless their is already a relationship in place and the connection is there, and it looks like it might actually last for a while. jmo. And I totally understand your view but maybe instead of us all being optimists maybe we should all consider becoming realists!! But it's not being unrealistic to be optimistic. To expect to find somone as we are. If WE are this way - true, faithful, monogamous and want lasting devotion, then why is it being unrealistic to believe that there are others out there the same way? We just have to find them, I know it seems like forever and it gets so frustrating, but one won't ever find what we actually want if we just take what we can get. I beieve you are right...I just won't exchange rings again...marriage isn't good I don't know if I would actually do the marriage thing again, because I believe the commitment should be in you and your partner, not a piece of paper. As we all well know, a piece of paper means nothing to most people, but it's not the paper that you live with and love and build a life with. The marriage certificate, as with any contract, pretty much just clarifies what you are trying to do, it's the actions afterwards that matter. Perfect...commitment...that would be great...so I keep searching...one day I'll meet her

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Sun 08/03/08 01:16 PM
WE are ALL human and thus,,we want or desire another to share happiness with in our own lives. NOW,,heres the issue though,lol SOME, only want a one night stand, SOME, only want to date and NEVER want anything more. SOME, are happy with someone they ALREADY have and on here just to have ANOTHER person to SHARE their thoughts or their hearts or their PARTS!!!!lol SOME, DON'T really love or even LIKE "their-selves" let alone trully have REAL heart to LIKE anothert..lol,truth.. SOME, live ANOTHER whole LIFE on these pages than THEY DO in their REAL LIVES. So they TALK and SOUND fully truthful and honest until YOU meet them and FIND them to be someone else COMPLETELY as to who YOU felt they were.. SOME, just PLAY HERE because THEIR bored and "THEY" might be in a long-term relationship or married ALREADY,,but "PLAYING" on herer is SEEN as FUN for them... SOME, HAVE NO REAL IDEA WHAT THE HELL THEY REALLY WANT! I think THAT coveres about 90 percent of SOME of the INTERNET PEOPLE ON HERE,wink,,lol

AtariBaby Joined Thu 07/17/08 Posts: 1497	Sun 08/03/08 01:20 PM
So it is probably best to remain true to ourselves!! And look forward to the day of our meeting with that special someone!!

IndigoIllusions Joined Sun 05/25/08 Posts: 5625	Sun 08/03/08 01:22 PM
WE are ALL human and thus,,we want or desire another to share happiness with in our own lives. NOW,,heres the issue though,lol SOME, only want a one night stand, SOME, only want to date and NEVER want anything more. SOME, are happy with someone they ALREADY have and on here just to have ANOTHER person to SHARE their thoughts or their hearts or their PARTS!!!!lol SOME, DON'T really love or even LIKE "their-selves" let alone trully have REAL heart to LIKE anothert..lol,truth.. SOME, live ANOTHER whole LIFE on these pages than THEY DO in their REAL LIVES. So they TALK and SOUND fully truthful and honest until YOU meet them and FIND them to be someone else COMPLETELY as to who YOU felt they were.. SOME, just PLAY HERE because THEIR bored and "THEY" might be in a long-term relationship or married ALREADY,,but "PLAYING" on herer is SEEN as FUN for them... SOME, HAVE NO REAL IDEA WHAT THE HELL THEY REALLY WANT! I think THAT coveres about 90 percent of SOME of the INTERNET PEOPLE ON HERE,wink,,lol Exactly! I've had quite a few uh, "eccentric" people to deal with, I just let it roll off. I'm who I am, not going to change for anybody. The ones who are like me and are true, like or love me unconditionally as I do them, the rest, well, move on if you like.

IndigoIllusions Joined Sun 05/25/08 Posts: 5625	Sun 08/03/08 01:23 PM
So it is probably best to remain true to ourselves!! And look forward to the day of our meeting with that special someone!! Yes. Have you just been playing with people to find out others opinions?

AtariBaby Joined Thu 07/17/08 Posts: 1497	Sun 08/03/08 01:31 PM
So it is probably best to remain true to ourselves!! And look forward to the day of our meeting with that special someone!! Yes. Have you just been playing with people to find out others opinions?

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Sun 08/03/08 01:38 PM
So it is probably best to remain true to ourselves!! And look forward to the day of our meeting with that special someone!! Yes. Have you just been playing with people to find out others opinions? PLAYING is very cool to do on here and I LOVE TO PLAY,,,,but NEVER when it comes to ANYONES heart that might hurt their REAL FEELINGS,,I LIVE TO NEVER DO THAT.. So if you READ ME and I seem HURTFUL,,then LOOK AGAIN as im sure im PLAYING and someone just took me wrong,wink.. But if someone has an issue with me personally,,,SURE,,I can GIVE THEM all THEIR anger back in their face w/o even a blink,lol,lol This place is for having fun, meeting strangers to then call FRIEND, and for a chance to meet someone who will make you smile as you make them smile....