To start this off, my sons have went back home with their mom. They wish to be here instead. Saturday when I made our exchange, I asked when school started and she wasn't sure. She said maybe in two weeks. So I asked her if our sons could stay the following week, she said probably not. Since my sons have been with me more than half the summer (probably 3 quarters of it, since she keeps taking off). Then she went on to say that I could argue with her for that week that I had just asked for. What kind of crap is this? Why should I have to argue at all? She knows that she will have them more than me until the next break. So any input would be appreciated.

No, don't argue! Be thankful that you got to spend the time with them, like you did. I'm going through a similar situation, but the tables are turned for me. My son only spends time with his father when it's suitable for the ex! It's court ordered every other weekend and holidays and half of every summer. He's now 17 and could care less to see his dad! So, don't waste your time arguing, its not worth it. It only hurts the kids!!!!!

Sounds like selfishness on her side...and maybe just having control boosts her ego...bhest I can offer is just make sure the kids don't hear this going on....good luck to you

Thank you both for your input. The problem is that they don't even want to be with their mom. I feel bad that I won't argue with her, I think it is some type of trick. But I would rather have my sons be here and happy, than with her when she really don't even care about them. I can tell, she takes and leaves them with other people during this summer break instead of being with them.

I understand how you feel...but, if it's all court ordered there is nothing you can do, unless something "drastic" has happened. Arguing with her will not solve anything except, satisfy the two of you. The children will however grow and will be able to make their own decision, just as my son did. As long as the mother is not physically abusing them..there is not much that can be done about the custody issue. The children will have to tough it out as you will. I know that sounds harsh, but I've been there. My son didn't want to visit his dad when he did. BUt, he had to. Good luck...remember keep the children in mind - keep away from fusses!!

Its tough but the kids know what goes on. With the courts you just never know what to expect. When my daughter was 11 my ex to me to court for support. I was strongly fighting it since I was doing everything for my kid..The judge ask my daughter what I was doing for her and what kind of relationship we had. When she told him, he asked her who she wanted to live with and she told him her dad. He granted me full custody and have had her ever since..So what I am saying is never give up hope, good things do happen...

Talk to your attorney about custody.
Judges do listen to kids these days.

Here in the state of Indiana, children must be 14 years old to have a say on whom they want to live with. I have been to court 4 times on this issue and the judge still says they must be 14. I have moved to a different county in hopes of having the court hearings moved. Been here 6 months now, and she just moved a month ago. I am not sure if this may work or not. I and all of my friends say that I was treated unfairly at the last county.

Thats the way it is here...child must be 14 to make that decision..unless there is drugs or abuse from custodial parent.

In the best interest of the child..Remember that, most laws pertaining to children have those words in it..Thats all you really have to prove or for a court to step in..Heres a couple groups that can help.. http://www.fathers4kids.com/html/FER.htm http://www.fathersrightsinc.com/?gclid=CJD-tf398pQCFRhhnAodKhZxqg

Here in Kansas its 14 also, but moving to a different county wouldnt work here the petition has to be filed in the county the child(ren) reside in..So check that out...

how old are your children is either of them close to 14? I agree with not arguing, but fighting for them in court is different...

I did win my extra week with my sons. I made an intellect argument that she would have them until the next major holiday events.