yeah well when you have lips like mine that after one real kiss
people seem to fall madly in love with you it happens so you need to make yourself clear that your not that kind of man im such an @$$

It doesn't mean anything, only there to take up space.

I have to agree with you here.

I have a ton of guy friends, but they aren't "the one"

"friends only first" is also a nice cushion...you really dont know in first email if you even want to start a relationship with this person. SO, yes, it could be used as a safty OUT!

God you play hard to get? Are you kidding me people ask to married after a couple dates good grief!:

I agree, friends first to me means that the person doesnt want anything serious, now or ever. I agree with you, no one starts out as anything, be it the first date or 3rd email. And you cant help what people think, if they think that something will happen, they are going to think that based on actions, not based on you saying you want to be "friends first". My opinion.

That's cuz you're a hot mama....

I actually read profiles, and if it says "friends only" I don't even bother to write, I have a ton of friends, that's not what I'm looking for, but on the same note, it doesn't mean I wanna have a relationship with EVERY guy I go out with... sometimes it simply goes into the friends catagory, but I'm not going to rule out a friendship or relationship with anyone, I just kinda see where it goes. I'm not afraid to have a relationship, or a friendship, or to say "take a hike you're a jerk"

How 'bout this is funny, LOL

Girl are you having too much free time again?

JK

I think the reason it has to be stated is there are some out there
who are just looking for someone to jump in the bed with and that's it. If you put it in it lets them know up front to slow down.

YES...

It's OK

Speaking for myself, and no one else

I say start as friends because that is my way of letting a guy know you will not be getting in my panties at the beginning of a relationship.

It does not mean that I don't want a relationship.

And yes I have been asked for sex in the first email by some men.

You have to get it out there right off the bat!

i bet they were though in the past aw the college life

I think the sex should come first - just in case the friendship never develops into love.

To me it's in the frame of mind and not just the physical "hands off" meaning of "friends first.

Some people are sizing up for bf/gf potential from GO...I prefer to think of that once I have the respect of their friendship. So, you could say that I'll only date established friends...not establish friendships out of dates.

Well put.

I change my post to this.

No, they were not actually, I have a group of guy friends, about 10 of them, and I did date one for about 4 months once, but that's it.

Or maybe that's just the best excuse I can come up with for not accepting date invitations.

very true