Trying something a little different....

From time to time, I will try to post some kind of discussion point about love, relationships, marriage, etc... Something to get you thinking about yourself.

Feel free to post questions or discussion points that you need help figuring out.



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Two Different Types of Love

We all know love is love right? Those heart flutters, sweaty palms, for me, hives (I get them when I am nervous)... anyways.. I want to focus today on two different types. I am pretty sure that love like a number of different aspects of life falls on a spectrum, there is no black and white. But I want to try to describe some of the polar ends of the rainbow of love.

The first one is where emotions and physical are separate. And no, I am not talking about one-nite stands or cold people. What I am saying is people that clearly can tell someone that they love them based solely on how they feel in their heart. However, the kicker is that they will not commit completely to this until they are sure of the physical. These are usually the people that take a while to fall in love. They need time to let their initial feelings grow and test them against life.

The other one is where emotions and physical are one. There is no separating them. So when you tell someone you love them, it is with everything you are or ever could be. These are the people that fall fast and hard. Ever wonder why your girlfriend is blubbering over not being able to spend time with you, it could be because there is no way to separate the emotion and phyical aspects of love. It hurts just like breaking their heart to try to separate it. You can also think of this type as all or nothing. You are there 100+% or you aren't.

Why is this important you ask. Because with online dating it helps the know what yours and your potential partners' love style is.

So, what is your love style? Where do you fall on the spectrum? Are you in a relationship, where do you and your partner fall? Are you the same or different? How do you handle difference?


Okay, I'll shut up now and let you all voice your opinions and comments.

Excellent idea smart Tanyaann

Ive been thinking about offering relationship advice .

Well I would be glad to tag team ya on this one! Welcome aboard!

my left hand is jealous of my right hand...should i keep them away from each other, at parties?

My girlfriend and I are in love with one another. I feel that both of us fall into your second catagory. For us, sex is more than just physical. It is all the emotions wrapped into one. Yes, from time to time, it is all about the physical (I know you guys know what I am talking about) but even so, we both feel how strongly our feelings are for one another. When she is down or not feeling well, she always wants a hug. She tells me that they make her feel better, and I am glad that my hugs do that for her. We cuddle on the couch watching a movie, and just by doing that I know how much we love being close to one another. I do enjoy my time seperate from her, and she does the same, and I feel this is healthy for a strong relationship. When we need space, the other gives it. When we need each other, both of us are there. Both of us feel that a relationship is 100/100 (their is no 50/50).

"The other one is where emotions and physical are one. There is no separating them. So when you tell someone you love them, it is with everything you are or ever could be. These are the people that fall fast and hard. Ever wonder why your girlfriend is blubbering over not being able to spend time with you, it could be because there is no way to separate the emotion and phyical aspects of love. It hurts just like breaking their heart to try to separate it. You can also think of this type as all or nothing. You are there 100+% or you aren't."


When a woman has a crush on a guy its similair to a drug addiction.

No you need to introduce them to each other. Make them both feel special and you should be one lucky man!

Goof, thanks for sharing!

Well, there is a biological aspect to love. There are most definately neurotranmitters (chemicals in the brain) that are active when someone is 'in love'.

I'll look it up and post something on it.

No problem. I can be serious when need be.

And what does biology have to say about love? First of all, it seems to be widely agreed amongst biologists who study the subject that love is an essential part of human functioning. Dr. Arthur Janov, author of The Biology of Love, brings up a developmental fact essential to understanding this point: "The right hemisphere, which is larger than the left, is the site of feelings and emotions and of holistic, global thinking. Thoughts, planning, and concepts are the domain of the left hemisphere. The right brain is largely mature at the second year of life; the left brain is only beginning its maturation at that time. Feelings pre-date thoughts. In terms of evolution we are feeling beings long before we are thinking ones." (1) Furthermore, it has been shown that neglect, or lack of love, has a serious impact on human ability to survive and develop properly. (2) Dr. Janov notes that infants who are neglected have brains that are significantly different from normal brains: the number of stress-hormone receptors, for example, are much lower in the brain of a neglected infant, which entails a higher level of stress - and therefore unhappiness - in that person. (1)

Biology, as of this point in time, has successfully determined what processes exactly occur in the brain when one loves another person. However, there are studies that have been done that show some interesting correlations. Dr. Helen Fisher posits a dramatic increase in the amount of dopamine and norepinephrine present in the brain when one first becomes infatuated with another person, which would account for the feelings of euphoria, giddiness and so on that one would experience at that point. (3) Another study showed that, in the brains of people who had recently fallen in love, serotonin levels were significantly higher than those in the brains of the control group. (4) Yet another study demonstrated the possibility of a correlation between the ability of adults to bond emotionally with one another and the presence of the hormone oxytocin, which is normally associated with human reproductive processes such as lactation and, interestingly, male and female orgasm. (5)

For the full article go to: http://serendip.brynmawr.edu/exchange/node/1821

luv doc i have some problems down there dont forgot im allergic to pencillin

Its different for men and women.

Well good luck with that!

It is different for different people.

which r u mami

I most definately am one to fall fast and hard.

is this that show talk sex with the old lady suzy on i forgot the channel

do u think most girls r that way