jean, Im a counselor and use the word issues a lot,
you may not have an issue with anything as I see your post here
Im so glad you have everything under control, you rawk!!!
but sadly other do have issues!!

I was brought up to trust everyone, until they give you reason not to,
Then make it hard to earn back!


That dont mean, Im loaning you any large amounts of money, but a $20
everytime, anytime, till you dont pay me back, then you can starve. I
dont give a ****!
Here have a beer!!

Oh, Morena, I wouldn't say I have everything under control, necessarily,
particularly now going through "hormonal hell."

However,

what I meant by my post is that I feel that to say that someone has
"trust issues," is just more of the same "blame the victim" mentality
that is so prevalent today.

So what I'm saying is that people who cannot be trusted ...e.g., those
who lie, cheat, steal, whatever ...are the ones who have ISSUES...

...people who have a difficult time trusting because they have been the
victim of liars, cheaters, etc., are not the ones with "issues," IMO. To
me, that they can or are even willing to trust anyone at all is a major
feat, in and of itself, all things considered. Someone who is still able
to trust after all of that is a pretty damned emotionally strong and
resilient person, if you ask me.

your right jean, is sad that victims are left with scars and have a
problem trusting again, and if some one can overcome this, is a major
achievement,
I have a problem trusting people!!!