A very, very serious relationship of mine ended a little over a year ago. There were a few issues, financial and he drank too much. This man contacted me a week or so ago because he needed some copies of our old bank statements. He told me had quit drinking. Also, during our conversation about why he needed these papers (a legal issue), he said... "Maybe this is actually a blessing in disguise" and he said..."It is kind of funny how fate keeps putting us together".....also during the conversation he asked if I was dating, I said "A Little bit" and asked if he was. He said he was but isn't anymore because I was a hard act to follow emotionally. I'm not sure how to take those comments. I still have strong feelings for him , I truly think he was my "forever" man. My soulmate. I think we just hit a hard wall and couldn't get over it. From his comments, would you think that he might be interested in seeing if there is still something between us???? I'm not sure what to think or if I should just ask him, or ask him on a date or what.....HELP!!! Any advice is appreciated!!!

Don't do the crime if you can't do the time...don't do it!!!!

in my experience men will say anything they think you want to hear.....

go with your gut hun....if it tells you its not right...then listen!!!

How ironic!!

I know a lot of women that do that as well!!!!!!!!!!!

run forest run

No, I seriously feel he's sincere, he's changed, he definately looks like he stopped drinking. Lost weight, just his look, looks good.

Is he attending AA meetings?

Follow your heart.

Don't think so. But I know he's been to couseling, as have I.

Follow your heart my dear.

You run a high risk of getting hurt again, but if you go in eyes wide open knowing that's a very real possibility and still want to try it - give it a shot. Make him earn the love and trust back. If he's willing to take baby baby steps and do that, then he might be sincere. Only you know what you're up for and if you'll be ok walking away and never knowing.

Some people believe that if they don't attend AA meetings, they are "sober drunks" and are not in recovery.

Well said ledi.

I don't know, but then I tend to be a pessimist when it comes to ex's. Go with your gut but don't jump in head first. Keep your eyes wide open!!! Good luck!

Mhhhh..yea it sounds like he is maybe interested in getting back together.BUT who cares what he wants..its all about you this time!!!!I still I am getting bad vibes from this though.(my gut is usally right).I know there is not enough information that you have given us to make a definite determination..but the Bankstatements alone..you said you guys broke up a little over a year ago..soo why would he want bankstatements from way back then?
I can only speak for myself and what I personally would do..and that would be not getting emotionally involved with this man again, until I find out that he is sober, his financial act is all back in order..and all the other things that I left him in the first place for are all for the better now..the best way to find that out..and I usually would say find out for yourself..in any other circumstance, but then there is that factor of maybe getting emotionally attached and maybe even betrayed..if u do find out for yourself..so ask a mutual friend of his and you..I am sure you still have soem that used to hang out w/ u guys..don't tell his friend you are trying to get back together because he may tell your ex, but just kinda in a "just checking" kinda way..like especially the Girlfriend part and Drinking part he could answer those for sure..;)
Thats just my advice to you.

My 21 yr old son confirms this fact .. that guys will tell you whatever works to get you in bed And that was totally unsolicited advice from him. Yep ..


On the OTHER hand, if the 2 areas you had trouble with are being corrected, maybe you should give it another spin. Heck, if you feel it go with your gut babe.

Heaven Sent

Love ruled the day when the angels came to meet
Sweeping them up and off of their feet
Neither of them knowing what the future would bring
Two hearts together and one diamond ring
Today it’s a promise, so sweet and so pure
Together forever, for love shall endure

A blessing from above, this story is told
A love to last a lifetime and a hand to hold
It was no accident that this came to be
Now you must realize that it really takes three
So, go hand and hand to a future unknown
Knowing that with the Lord, you will never be alone

With the angels still near and dear to the heart
This couple shall prosper and never grow apart
For it’s not always the eye that is the first to see
What really matters in life and what is meant to be
So remember that to love is time well spent
And what brought you two together was heaven sent

- Cheyenne Cole -

Unless he's in an alcohol recovery plan, I wouldn't go near it. Easier said than done, huh?

Also, he could have just as easily gotten the bank to make statement copies for him if you were both on the account at that time.

Yeah, I don't get the bank statement part. I don't recall ever needing to look at a year old bank statement.

Also, when someone is in recovery, they are usually advised to not start any new relationships for one year. They are supposed to be working on their recovery and themselves that year.